TAW122
Emissary of the right to die.
- Aug 30, 2018
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In several of my previous threads, I talk about my poor social life and problems with people (such as "It's just Facebook", "A story of my social failures", "problems with conversing with others" to name a few), especially getting real 'friends' and what not. In this thread, I will be discussing about my criteria that I have for determining whether someone is or isn't a 'real' friend, based on my life experiences. 'T' will represent true or yes while 'F' will represent false or no.
Table (based on a truth table of a logical conjunction)
In summary, based on the logical conjunction to model my criteria on what is considered a real friend in my life, this would mean that IRL, if someone is a real friend, they would be a friend both IRL (genuinely and not superficially) and online. They would not just ghost and/or delete someone but yet 'act' as a friend in real life. In summary, Scenario A means that said person is a friend IRL and also online. He/she adds me online and doesn't ghost or delete me but also initiates conversation and checks up time to time, as well as helping me in dire times. Then I too, return the favor for said person. That is a simple example of what I consider a real friend IRL. As for Scenario B, said person is friendly IRL but aside from that, doesn't really keep in contact or is rather cold and distant in the virtual world (online) which means he/she isn't as close and wouldn't be considered a real friend, possibly an acquaintance, which is someone who seems to like company in good times and convenient times. There is nothing wrong with that but I wouldn't consider him/her a real friend, just an acquaintance. Similarly, in Scenario C, instead of the person being friendly IRL, they are rather cold and distant, but online they act as a friend, and in this case, said person IRL would also not be a real friend, but also an acquaintance, a virtual one to be specific. Finally, in Scenario D, a person who is neither a friend IRL nor online would of course, be considered a stranger, another NPC in the sea of humanity.
Yes, granted there are exceptions and special cases, but I'm merely modeling and getting at the general cases, which is the typical scenarios IRL. What are your thoughts on this? Do you have a different criteria for determining who is a real friend IRL? In my life time, I have had some real friends while growing up, but sometime after university/college, at age 23, I've lost that friend as he parted ways and since then I've yet to have a real friend, someone who would hang out with me, initiate contact with me, and help me out when I need to (and vice versa). I know that things are more complex than that, but this is the general trend that I see in my many years of existence and experiences (yes it's anedoctal so I don't claim that others have it easier or better, or harder or worse than me.
Table (based on a truth table of a logical conjunction)
Are they a 'real' friend | In Real Life | In Virtual World | Result (Are they a 'real' friend?) |
Scenario A | T | T | T |
Scenario B | T | F | F |
Scenario C | F | T | F |
Scenario D | F | F | F |
In summary, based on the logical conjunction to model my criteria on what is considered a real friend in my life, this would mean that IRL, if someone is a real friend, they would be a friend both IRL (genuinely and not superficially) and online. They would not just ghost and/or delete someone but yet 'act' as a friend in real life. In summary, Scenario A means that said person is a friend IRL and also online. He/she adds me online and doesn't ghost or delete me but also initiates conversation and checks up time to time, as well as helping me in dire times. Then I too, return the favor for said person. That is a simple example of what I consider a real friend IRL. As for Scenario B, said person is friendly IRL but aside from that, doesn't really keep in contact or is rather cold and distant in the virtual world (online) which means he/she isn't as close and wouldn't be considered a real friend, possibly an acquaintance, which is someone who seems to like company in good times and convenient times. There is nothing wrong with that but I wouldn't consider him/her a real friend, just an acquaintance. Similarly, in Scenario C, instead of the person being friendly IRL, they are rather cold and distant, but online they act as a friend, and in this case, said person IRL would also not be a real friend, but also an acquaintance, a virtual one to be specific. Finally, in Scenario D, a person who is neither a friend IRL nor online would of course, be considered a stranger, another NPC in the sea of humanity.
Yes, granted there are exceptions and special cases, but I'm merely modeling and getting at the general cases, which is the typical scenarios IRL. What are your thoughts on this? Do you have a different criteria for determining who is a real friend IRL? In my life time, I have had some real friends while growing up, but sometime after university/college, at age 23, I've lost that friend as he parted ways and since then I've yet to have a real friend, someone who would hang out with me, initiate contact with me, and help me out when I need to (and vice versa). I know that things are more complex than that, but this is the general trend that I see in my many years of existence and experiences (yes it's anedoctal so I don't claim that others have it easier or better, or harder or worse than me.