What are some of the grudges you hold?

[Seiko]

Shit that eats at you randomly or keeps you up at night. Might as well release them before CTB. For me, it's:

• My mom giving away my DSi. Countless memories and pictures that meant so much to me were lost. (She never apologized.)
• Not being taken seriously by my mother. Always being belittled behind my back.
• My mother—again—threatening to hide my antidepressants from me once I was prescribed them.
• Wow. Again, my mother not respecting my privacy throughout my life. Going so far as to peep on me through blinds when talking with friends across the street.
• Sheesh. My mother not allowing me to spend nights at friend's houses or even going to the movies with friends.
• Overall condescending, overprotective (and I hate using the word, but—gaslighting) behavior from my mom.

I'm still very much kind to her, but I don't think she realizes how much resentment I hold from the actions she's done. I would never put these reasons in a note and have her live with the guilt, but somehow I'd just like her to know just how much pain she gives me. "You could talk to her" isn't applicable; I'm too much of a repressive pussy.

At the end of the day, my mother isn't abusive or mentally ill, and I give my deepest condolences to the stories I have seen here with narcissistic and/or unloving parents. Many of you have it so much worse, and I am so sorry you were put on this earth and had the experiences you've had. You're more than welcome to share them here.

You guys go ahead and have a go.

 

[WatermelonMel]

Actually funny enough, the 1 grudge I'm holding right now is against someone who's also holding a grudge (against me) for petty things (Venting, leaving a few group chats [Sorry I didn't know I was required to stay in virtual inactive chats for the rest of my life] and for leaving a negative review on a product they liked).

None of that should mean anything to anybody, yet it was a big enough issue for someone I knew for 2 years.. Nothing irritates me more than someone who seems to have an issue with everything, like they just want to have problems.

 

[LostSoul1609]

Shit that eats at you randomly or keeps you up at night. Might as well release them before CTB. For me, it's:

• My mom giving away my DSi. Countless memories and pictures that meant so much to me were lost. (She never apologized.)
• Not being taken seriously by my mother. Always being belittled behind my back.
• My mother—again—threatening to hide my antidepressants from me once I was prescribed them.
• Wow. Again, my mother not respecting my privacy throughout my life. Going so far as to peep on me through blinds when talking with friends across the street.
• Sheesh. My mother not allowing me to spend nights at friend's houses or even going to the movies with friends.
• Overall condescending, overprotective (and I hate using the word, but—gaslighting) behavior from my mom.

I'm still very much kind to her, but I don't think she realizes how much resentment I hold from the actions she's done. I would never put these reasons in a note and have her live with the guilt, but somehow I'd just like her to know just how much pain she gives me. "You could talk to her" isn't applicable; I'm too much of a repressive pussy.

At the end of the day, my mother isn't abusive or mentally ill, and I give my deepest condolences to the stories I have seen here with narcissistic and/or unloving parents. Many of you have it so much worse, and I am so sorry you were put on this earth and had the experiences you've had. You're more than welcome to share them here.

You guys go ahead and have a go.

Had similar experiences, hugs.

I hold grudges to my family too, even when I brought them to therapy they decided to shut in and still keep on their wrong behaviours.
Other than that all my grudges are on myself, I try not to be too heavy on people altho I feel like I've been mistreated by some, and I sometimes hold anger to people. I am trying to suppress my grudges against people, negativity only attracts negativity, and it's no use holding a grudge if you're about to leave life.

 

[demuic]

Shit that eats at you randomly or keeps you up at night. Might as well release them before CTB. For me, it's:

• My mom giving away my DSi. Countless memories and pictures that meant so much to me were lost. (She never apologized.)
• Not being taken seriously by my mother. Always being belittled behind my back.
• My mother—again—threatening to hide my antidepressants from me once I was prescribed them.
• Wow. Again, my mother not respecting my privacy throughout my life. Going so far as to peep on me through blinds when talking with friends across the street.
• Sheesh. My mother not allowing me to spend nights at friend's houses or even going to the movies with friends.
• Overall condescending, overprotective (and I hate using the word, but—gaslighting) behavior from my mom.

I'm still very much kind to her, but I don't think she realizes how much resentment I hold from the actions she's done. I would never put these reasons in a note and have her live with the guilt, but somehow I'd just like her to know just how much pain she gives me. "You could talk to her" isn't applicable; I'm too much of a repressive pussy.

At the end of the day, my mother isn't abusive or mentally ill, and I give my deepest condolences to the stories I have seen here with narcissistic and/or unloving parents. Many of you have it so much worse, and I am so sorry you were put on this earth and had the experiences you've had. You're more than welcome to share them here.

You guys go ahead and have a go.

Even if your parents aren't outright abusive or unloving you can still be deeply affected by their actions. The experiences you have in childhood stay with you forever. I'm sorry you were treated this way and that your pain was not acknowledged. I can relate and I still hold a lot of resentment myself toward my parents who still don't know how much their actions affected me.

For me, I still hold grudges because the reasons behind the grudges are things that still affect me to this day. To even call my grievances a grudge would not communicate the full extent to which I feel I have been negatively impacted. From the outside, other people may not even be able to understand, so I'm still to self-conscious to even name anything in specific. I won't be belittled for things other people can't even begin to understand. I'm guarded from past experiences.

 

[whywere]

Well at my age, my list would go on for ever. A quick few: 1) "parents" 2) :siblings" 3) ex girlfriends 4) ex employers. Put quotes around number 1 and 2 because both were and are horrible. Now on a brighter note, I LOVE the entire global family here and this is what keeps me going. I tell my self everyday to close my eyes and see that my grudges are small potatoes in the scheme of life and I will never let any of them drag me down. Walter

 

[Simba]

Only grudge i can think of is for my teacher from end of 7th grade until 10th grade.. she shouted at me in regards to some exams that i didn't even know was to test how fast you take the test etc ,i was upset when she told me to hand in the test when i said that i haven't finished all of it ,i ended up handing it in and was upset n 1 of classmates told that im sad so she asked why and i didn't say so class assistant took me out and asked me why and told me that she wouldn't tell my teacher ,well lo and behold afew seconds or minutes later my teacher came out and shout at me saying "here ! here is your test !! ". Other time was another exam was taking.. and near the end she kept on saying that I've got X minutes left and kept on n on ,so i couldn't finish it .. others like homework ,think i was sick so wasn't in school n one time she's like did i do my homework ? Like how am i supposed to know what homework if im not in school ? She took out some special notebook and wrote something in .. when she wasn't my teacher no more i told one classmate that i had basically killed her and folded her up n stuffed her in my bag.. they said you want me to tell her ? I'm like NO just joking .. ,other stuff happen to me years after ,idk if it's a grudge tho the fact that a 1 girl that i know got some other few thinking mean and false stuff bout me for over half a year and i never got an apology .. cause i made mistake that that all started worst mistake ever and other stuff in life

 

[Schevan]

My mother tricked me into signing a car lease when I was 18. Said if I didn't, I'd be kicked out of the house. 20,000 dollars later I was finally out. Really hurt me.

 

[Life_and_Death]

wed probably be here for a while, but my most recent one, that even more recently annoyed me because i checked fb is my biodad didnt say happy bday to me in 18 days but was online 1hr ago. im resisting the urge to make a fb post saying @ dad thnx for the bday wishes. i have decided that if he cares he can get ahold of me first at this point.

 

[FuneralCry]

I still have some grudges against people that I haven't seen for years and I will have nothing to do with ever again. I guess we can never forget what happens to us and I am the type of person where I find it hard to let go of things. Some of mine are against ex friends. People in general can be very disappointing.

 

[Alwaysbadtime]

My mom for judging and labeling me, making my already shitty reality tainted by her false labels of disorder/s.
My dad for probably labeling me and not responding to my texts about fears of my future.
My half-brother for not responding at all to text saying my existence was a shit-show.
My bf for calling the cops on me and them taking me away for 23 hrs in ER and him charging a 700 tv on my account. LOTS of other daily examples.
Ex bosses for being cruel, mean and bullies.
etc. etc.
Past therapists and doctors for being entitled shitheads
Former students who were fucking satanic assholes
Pretty much everyone I see out and about who is doing better, looks better etc.
Shitty people posting horrible job ads for very low pay and demanding a shit ton of tasks to complete
Previous universities I attended who just took money and didn't do fucking shit

That's nice I guess that you won't bring up shit in a suicide note to your mom. I plan to for both my parents...and their spouses perhaps.

Your mom sounds dysfunctional in how she treated you. Take care.

 

[0utsider]

One dumb decision my parents made years ago is almost directly responsible for me losing everything I worked for and was born with.

 

[Largeletters]

I wish I could say I didn't hold any grudges, but I think it's a pretty natural thing for humans to do. I hope my list won't be a mile long.

Ex girlfriend
1. My ex girlfriend threatening to commit suicide when I tried to break up with her.
2. My ex girlfriend claiming she cared about me, but when I broke up with her for mental health reasons, she made it about her and became very accusatory towards me.
3. When I tried to overdose last year, my ex girlfriend was mad I didn't tell her, and took her anger out on me while I was crying because I was afraid to be admitted to the hospital again.
4. My ex girlfriend never letting me have any time alone, even when it was for important things like work, seeing family I seldom saw, etc.
If you ever have a chance to read this, fuck you you stupid bitch.

Ex boyfriend
1. My ex boyfriend threatening to slit his wrist when I had to go to my father's birthday party, because he didn't want to be alone, I guess?
2. My ex boyfriend getting mad when I had to do work and couldn't video chat with him (the work was very important and if I hadn't done it, I would've been fucked)

There's way more, but here's 1% of the treatment I've been through in the past year. These two cunts stand out in my mind mostly because I never got to relay how angry it made me to either of them. I chose to be the bigger person, which I'm kind of sick of. I'm always choosing that. Sometimes I wish I could be the asshole for once.

 

[whenlavaflows]

"As I lay in the back of Buck's truck, trying to will my limbs out of entropy, I could see the faces of the cunts that did this to me and the dicks responsible."
My ex boyfriend mostly. For not having the benefit of the doubt that I was a fucking addict when I made those mistakes. I hold so much pain,grief & anger towards him for the day that he kicked me out.

 

[Unlucked]

My mom made me leave everything and everyone I cared about for a false promise. Then when the time came she backed out. The surgery she promised me was going to save my life. Afterwards when I said that I would die without it. She said "that's your choice" and smirked.

 

[Anonymous 4]

All of them

 

[weepingfree]

People in general can be very disappointing.

I felt this so much. It also seems like something that we're discouraged from saying... that it's too negative.

But I try again and again to trust people, and they do their best to let me down

 

[virtually_anybody]

I don't think I am holding any grudges. At least towards any one person in particular. I came to understand that people will be people. Imperfect with well meaned intentions. Some bad intentions.

At a point in my life it all just became rather trivial. I began to ask myself does it really even matter.

I realized I can't control others (and really wouldn't like to). But I can control my expectations and my stance towards others. I could control my lane.

I feel the only true grudge held is one against myself. For I am the one who allowed myself to be in those situations to begin with.

 

[Anonymous 4]

I don't think I am holding any grudges. At least towards any one person in particular. I came to understand that people will be people. Imperfect with well meaner intentions. Some bad intentions.

At a point in my life it all just became rather trivial. I began to askmyself does it really even matter.

I realized I can't control others (and really wouldn't like to). But I can control my expectations and my stance towards others. I could control my lane.

I feel the only true grudge held is one against myself. For I am the one who allowed myself to be in those situations to begin with.

I hold a grudge on you coz you don't seem to hold any
I hold a grudge on you coz u don't seem to hold any

 

[PeacePlease]

I also have nice parents, but I do regret them not sending me to therapy when I was a kid/teen I literally had no friends and cried single day at some points. How could they not see that was not normal. I think things could have been so much different in my adulthood. Even so I think I guess they did the best they could.

 

[virtually_anybody]

I hold a grudge on you coz you don't seem to hold any
I hold a grudge on you coz u don't seem to hold any

@Anonymous 4
Understandable.

I see it like, I won't be able to take it with me when I die so why bother. It is meaningless in eternal nothingness.

Completely Meaningless..Just like life itself

 

[Anonymous 4]

@Anonymous 4
Understandable.

I see it like, I won't be able to take it with me when I die so why bother. It is meaningless in eternal nothingness.

Completely Meaningless..Just like life itself

Who says you won't take experiences and emotions with you?/after all there both non physical and some what connect to the soul, if there is one, I know also Harold another grudge for you reply :)

 

[nobodyspecial]

I hold four. Takes a very special person to make my list. One is with my company commander from my deployment. One is with an NCO from my unit. One is with a civilian boss, and the final one is real petty involving someone from high school.

 

[Anonymous 4]

I hold four. Takes a very special person to make my list. One is with my company commander from my deployment. One is with an NCO from my unit. One is with a civilian boss, and the final one is real petty involving someone from high school.

You don't hold one on me?

 

[virtually_anybody]

Who says you won't take experiences and emotions with you?/after all there both non physical and some what connect to the soul, if there is one, I know also Harold another grudge for you reply :)

Great question… One I don't have an answer to…

I suppose it would depend on your worldview.

But, what purpose would a grudge serve in the next life if you're out of this one?

Wow… Two out of two? This is getting interesting lol

 

[Anonymous 4]

Great question… One I don't have an answer to…

I suppose it would depend on your worldview.

But, what purpose would a grudge serve in the next life if you're out of this one?

Wow… Two out of two? This is getting interesting lol

Negative

 

[everydayiloveyou]

Most of my childhood teachers. They saw I had obvious problems with functioning and did nothing.

Only one of my teachers ever referred me to get help. It was because I burst into tears during a presentation and it was worrying to him considering my personality. I was so mad at first since I got suspended from school because of it (could not go back til I saw a therapist). Didn't end up staying in therapy that time but that was my own very stupid decision.

I did this in other classes back when my anxiety was really unmanageable and no one ever thought to say "hey, maybe it's not normal that I've never seen this high schooler speak, and when she does have to speak, she just starts bawling like a maniac"

It will always make me mad. I really wonder why nobody said anything. The worst part was that all the teachers knew this about me and would talk about me in the teacher's room. One of my history teachers told me that they'd all share "quotes" from when I did talk, and discuss what I wrote in essays since that was the only kind of speech they had from me.

 

[overcomingfear]

my dad not giving a fuck about me even tho he was always home. my mom for being overprotective and raising me like a bitch. myself for not fighting my school bullies. dying with regrets is gonna be awesome