Venting Wasted the decade.

[mediocre]

I turned 18 in 2010. For the past 10 years since then I've done absolutely nothing. Literally. I've spent all this time in my room either sleeping or watching tv or generally doing nothing. The past week it's hit me how much I could have achieved and the years that I'll never get back. Time has gone so fast.

does anyone feel like this?

 

[jgm63]

I turned 18 in 2010. For the past 10 years since then I've done absolutely nothing. Literally. I've spent all this time in my room either sleeping or watching tv or generally doing nothing. The past week it's hit me how much I could have achieved and the years that I'll never get back. Time has gone so fast.

does anyone feel like this?

ok, but you're still pretty young. There are still lots of things you could do.....

 

[dmsdnd18]

Im about the same age and i feel the same. I have a lot of regrets in my life but mostly for the things i didnt do. I have nothing to show for the last decade. It just makes me so depressed thinking about how much of a failure i am

 

[mediocre]

ok, but you're still pretty young. There are still lots of things you could do.....

People tell me this and it doesn't motivate me. I feel like if you haven't made friendships, got a decent education, been in a relationship by the time you're 27 there's no hope. I know this may be a bit irrational but it's how I feel. I just despair at the time I've lost.

 

[LegaliseIt!]

I had to give up two jobs that I loved in 2010 because of my sigO's career. Due to a language barrier and ageism, August 15, 2010 was the last day that I worked. I loved my jobs, and every single day I live with regret that I am adrift, and the corporate transfer gave him two years of employment before they tossed him aside in a mass layoff (he had survived 19 previous rounds) I survived nothing.

 

[jgm63]

People tell me this and it doesn't motivate me. I feel like if you haven't made friendships, got a decent education, been in a relationship by the time you're 27 there's no hope. I know this may be a bit irrational but it's how I feel. I just despair at the time I've lost.

ok, but 27 really isn't old at all.
Perhaps you could do an open university degree or some other online degree, or something like that ?

There might be some funding options for mature students that you could look into....
Perhaps you could pick something you have a genuine interest in ?
With the right mindset, there might be more doors open than you realise....

But I don't know all the specifics of your situation.
In terms of physical health, do you think those issues can be resolved ?

Of course, if you really wanted to CTB then I would support you, but it's good to try to consider other options first.....

 

[LegaliseIt!]

People tell me this and it doesn't motivate me. I feel like if you haven't made friendships, got a decent education, been in a relationship by the time you're 27 there's no hope. I know this may be a bit irrational but it's how I feel. I just despair at the time I've lost.

I finished college at 34 and worked in a career I loved. I married my husband 28 years ago, when I was 28. I suck at friendships! Still trying to figure that out:)
It is hard to move forward when the past is so captivating. What would it take to make the future interesting for you?

 

[puppy9]

I turned 18 in 2010. For the past 10 years since then I've done absolutely nothing. Literally. I've spent all this time in my room either sleeping or watching tv or generally doing nothing. The past week it's hit me how much I could have achieved and the years that I'll never get back. Time has gone so fast.

does anyone feel like this?

I'm on the same boat. At least I'm not alone.

 

[mediocre]

ok, but 27 really isn't old at all.
Perhaps you could do an open university degree or some other online degree, or something like that ?

There might be some funding options for mature students that you could look into....
Perhaps you could pick something you have a genuine interest in ?
With the right mindset, there might be more doors open than you realise....

But I don't know all the specifics of your situation.
In terms of physical health, do you think those issues can be resolved ?

Of course, if you really wanted to CTB then I would support you, but it's good to try to consider other options first.....

I have aspergers and a lot of physical pain. I have a lot of nuerological issues too. This has all held me back the past few years. I did go to a college a few years ago to get qualifications you'd usually get in high school that I missed because I dropped out early. But that's it. Open University is good but it doesn't help with my social isolation.

Thanks though for your encouragement

I finished college at 34 and worked in a career I loved. I married my husband 28 years ago, when I was 28. I suck at friendships! Still trying to figure that out:)
It is hard to move forward when the past is so captivating. What would it take to make the future interesting for you?

You've achieved a lot in your life! It baffles me sometimes when people are able to be in relationships but struggle to make friendships.

I don't think there is a future for me. Getting over my aspergers and physical ailments would help but I see no hope.

I'm on the same boat. At least I'm not alone.

it's amazing to hear from others who understand

 

[PartingGlass]

I did the same. Graduated from high school a few years ago and since then I've just sat around and wasted time. I feel like I'm too damn old to change anything now. People keep telling me that I'm still really young and practically "still a kid", but it doesn't make me feel any different.

 

[Worthless_nobody]

I really relate. I'm in my late 20s also. I almost made something of myself but a lot of bad things happened to me particularly after 2014 and it all went downhill from there. My mental issues and physical issues have gotten worse and I haven't worked in almost 3 years. I was living and traveling with my ex and slightly improving but he recently dumped me and left me homeless so I had to go back to my family and it's made me more depressed. I also have Asperger's (according to what I was diagnosed as child) and it's rough.

I'm currently debating trying to get a job again but everything I can handle physically I can't handle mentally and everything I can handle mentally I can't handle physically. I can't afford to go back to school.

 

[mathieu]

Yup. I turned 20 in 2010 so the last decade was pretty much my 20's wasted. I've spent almost the whole time mentally unwell and just doing nothing. It breaks my heart thinking of all the wasted years.

 

[justwhy?]

Same boat. It's still floating. Currently trying to put holes in it. Land is just too far away to reach with oars and no sail.

 

[Eternal Pessimist]

I'm the same age and I feel like I've pretty much wasted the decade too. In hindsight it's no wonder I've wasted it since my attitude has mostly been "I am going to ctb in the end anyway so it doesn't really matter what I do."

 

[Sensei]

Well, I've wasted more years than that. There's no other way than to try to live here and now, because the past can obviously not be changed. To quote the most bloody awful Star Wars movie ever produced: Let the past die. Kill it if you have to.

 

[mediocre]

I'm the same age and I feel like I've pretty much wasted the decade too. In hindsight it's no wonder I've wasted it since my attitude has mostly been "I am going to ctb in the end anyway so it doesn't really matter what I do."

my attitude was exactly the same so I never bothered to look after myself I neglected my physical health especially my teeth and now I'm paying the price for it. I'll always have pain now no matter what I do.

Well, I've wasted more years than that. There's no other way than to try to live here and now, because the past can obviously not be changed. To quote the most bloody awful Star Wars movie ever produced: Let the past die. Kill it if you have to.

I agree but it's difficult to move forward when you're stuck in the past.
was that quote from The Last Jedi? I've never seen any of the new trilogy but I've watched people on Youtube that really hate that movie.

 

[Sensei]

I agree but it's difficult to move forward when you're stuck in the past.

It's very difficult, but we must try.

was that quote from The Last Jedi? I've never seen any of the new trilogy but I've watched people on Youtube that really hate that movie.

I hate it with a passion. Luckily, The Mandalorian allows me to travel to that beautiful galaxy far, far away when I need to forget about the world for a moment. :)

 

[mediocre]

It's very difficult, but we must try.



I hate it with a passion. Luckily, The Mandalorian allows me to travel to that beautiful galaxy far, far away when I need to forget about the world for a moment. :)

I haven't watched The Mandalorian either but I've heard a lot about it's difficult to avoid spoilers. I saw a screenshot of baby yoda

 

[Jean4]

I finished college at 34 and worked in a career I loved. I married my husband 28 years ago, when I was 28. I suck at friendships! Still trying to figure that out:)
It is hard to move forward when the past is so captivating. What would it take to make the future interesting for you?

Hey... you have me. ;)

 

[Sensei]

I haven't watched The Mandalorian either but I've heard a lot about it's difficult to avoid spoilers. I saw a screenshot of baby yoda

I'm a grown-up man and this is not something I normally would say, but baby Yoda is CUTE.

 

[Jean4]

Switched my total career at age 40. It can be done. So it took me longer than you to find the proper career. I now work from my house, never leave my bed, but that's another story. Lol.

I'm a grown-up man and this is not something I normally would say, but baby Yoda is CUTE.

You are entitled to have a guilty pleasure

 

[Life sucks]

Yea, time is moving and wasting us. Life is unfair and not everyone is capable of doing stuff in limited time. Some are slower and some can't do anything.

So for example, if I got pain and problems or get anhedonic or anything, it will take a big percentage of time. Then lets see how much time eating, sleeping and other regular stuff takes. No time left and we are wasted by life itself.

There are also many problems, sometimes people can actually do something but still want to do more but can't which will still make them feel bad.

For me, much time is wasted because much of the time I can't do anything. Fucking life.

Time flow is brutal

 

[TheNorthernSilence]

Oh yes, the story of my life. I'm around the same age too. Full of despair and torment. A lot of wrong choices and regrets.

 

[LegaliseIt!]

I have aspergers and a lot of physical pain. I have a lot of nuerological issues too. This has all held me back the past few years. I did go to a college a few years ago to get qualifications you'd usually get in high school that I missed because I dropped out early. But that's it. Open University is good but it doesn't help with my social isolation.

Thanks though for your encouragement

You've achieved a lot in your life! It baffles me sometimes when people are able to be in relationships but struggle to make friendships.

I don't think there is a future for me. Getting over my aspergers and physical ailments would help but I see no hope.

it's amazing to hear from others who understand

I have a husband because I am a citizen of a good country. He is from a "troubled " country. I wish that I could save his lovely family.
My husband understands that I am "not conventionally pretty" and I am a social disaster, but he adores the passport that our betrothal brought him, 28 years later, he's still kind—as long as I act like a cousin, because I am ugly as f**k!

 

[Moonicide]

I'm almost 30 and have spent most of my life doing absolutely nothing and wasting away. So I can relate to this so very much... Wasting away wasn't a choice, though. I'm severely mentally ill that it has prevented me from living a fulfilling live and I'm living on disability / food stamps due to it. I'm frozen in time.

 

[Green Destiny]

Graduated Highschool in 2013, got my dead end job the same year and got my license in 2016, besides that i've truly done fuck-all this decade and it probably won't be much different this next decade. I'd rather get the dying over with than deal with such regret.

 

[Mort]

I turned 18 in 2010. For the past 10 years since then I've done absolutely nothing. Literally. I've spent all this time in my room either sleeping or watching tv or generally doing nothing. The past week it's hit me how much I could have achieved and the years that I'll never get back. Time has gone so fast.

does anyone feel like this?

Hell yes i am in my mid 40s and as far back as i can remember i just piss my life away :(

 

[peacefully31425]

Definitely the worst decade of my life

 

[Mr2005]

I turned 18 in 2010. For the past 10 years since then I've done absolutely nothing. Literally. I've spent all this time in my room either sleeping or watching tv or generally doing nothing. The past week it's hit me how much I could have achieved and the years that I'll never get back. Time has gone so fast.

does anyone feel like this?

Damn right. Turned 18 in 2004. Wasted six years. Regretted it ever since 2010. It's gone ridiculously quickly. Haven't done anything with it. I'm in exactly the same place I was at 17 only now the wrong side of my 20's

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

I turned 18 in 2010. For the past 10 years since then I've done absolutely nothing. Literally. I've spent all this time in my room either sleeping or watching tv or generally doing nothing. The past week it's hit me how much I could have achieved and the years that I'll never get back. Time has gone so fast.

does anyone feel like this?

Me too. Yes the time passes so fast. I wasted the whole decade from 2010 to 2020 doing useless crap mostly watching TV. This is why
i have no job skills, no money nothing just debt and clutter(junk). Time is your most valuable asset. I learned that this year, too late. It goes by so so fast. TV is crap. I also watched a lot of youtube videos also crap.

Me too. I wasted the decade watching TV. And previously more before 2010. I was an extreme TV addict, news junkie, sports fan, tv shows, everything. This was the cause of all my problems. Now it's too late for me . Trying to quit those useless addictions but even if i
quit it's too late i'm older than you. My life is done

Nobody taught me the value of time.

Only thing left for me to do is ctb