juststitches
give me something to forget.
- Mar 9, 2023
- 14
so, i really need to get this out of my chest with someone since I've started to feel really guilty about it, especially today. I've thought about it lately more than usual because a couple of posts I've seen around here mentioning that, in their suicide note, they'd rather just not blame anyone and say that this was a decision they and discussed all alone.
a bit of context. i was in an abusive relationship almost a year ago, and a couple of months after the breakup, i decided to cut complete contact off. it was like that since a month and a half ago, when i decided to approach my ex to tell her the truth about how i felt about her. i know, worst idea of the year. but, on my defense, i genuinely thought that we could fix things "just talking them out" and that she'd accept the things she'd done to me. which, spoiler: couldn't be more far than the truth.
we argued, and in one moment of heat because she kept insisting in "how much she cared about my life" and how "badly she wanted me to stay alive" i told her that if i was to kill myself, she knew her conscience would never rest because it'd be partially her fault. in the moment, it made sense and i was so sure of it, but now, watching go through my mind on a more calm perspective, i think i could've acted a million other ways. i genuinely didn't want to bring suicide onto the table, but she kept asking how i was about it since in her words "she thought i disappeared because i was dead". she exalted and said that in the way i was put it in i was trying to manipulate her with that fact and that she didn't like what i was saying.
which, was absolutely the last thing i wanted to do. i just wanted her to see how much the things she have done affected me and that i think it's very hypocritical of her behalf to say she cares about my life when she completely teared all of it. keep in mind this person has been not only emotionally but sexually abusive to me, and her actions have affected me in every way possible. the c-pstd has sucked my life out of me. it's been one year and there hasn't been one day i haven't think about everything that happened on our relationship. oh, and btw, she clearly denied all of my accusations.
being manipulative or like her at all is the last thing i want to be in this life, i would never want to hurt anyone in the way others have done to me so im completely terrified of engaging in abusive behavior. i wish we could talk things out and maybe apologize for it a last time, but it's impossible we have contact ever again. i cut all contact, she blocked me and told me i was basically crazy, lying, delusional and making up everything in my head. i don't know. i don't want to be a bad person. i wanna do better, i swear.
a bit of context. i was in an abusive relationship almost a year ago, and a couple of months after the breakup, i decided to cut complete contact off. it was like that since a month and a half ago, when i decided to approach my ex to tell her the truth about how i felt about her. i know, worst idea of the year. but, on my defense, i genuinely thought that we could fix things "just talking them out" and that she'd accept the things she'd done to me. which, spoiler: couldn't be more far than the truth.
we argued, and in one moment of heat because she kept insisting in "how much she cared about my life" and how "badly she wanted me to stay alive" i told her that if i was to kill myself, she knew her conscience would never rest because it'd be partially her fault. in the moment, it made sense and i was so sure of it, but now, watching go through my mind on a more calm perspective, i think i could've acted a million other ways. i genuinely didn't want to bring suicide onto the table, but she kept asking how i was about it since in her words "she thought i disappeared because i was dead". she exalted and said that in the way i was put it in i was trying to manipulate her with that fact and that she didn't like what i was saying.
which, was absolutely the last thing i wanted to do. i just wanted her to see how much the things she have done affected me and that i think it's very hypocritical of her behalf to say she cares about my life when she completely teared all of it. keep in mind this person has been not only emotionally but sexually abusive to me, and her actions have affected me in every way possible. the c-pstd has sucked my life out of me. it's been one year and there hasn't been one day i haven't think about everything that happened on our relationship. oh, and btw, she clearly denied all of my accusations.
being manipulative or like her at all is the last thing i want to be in this life, i would never want to hurt anyone in the way others have done to me so im completely terrified of engaging in abusive behavior. i wish we could talk things out and maybe apologize for it a last time, but it's impossible we have contact ever again. i cut all contact, she blocked me and told me i was basically crazy, lying, delusional and making up everything in my head. i don't know. i don't want to be a bad person. i wanna do better, i swear.