Help Wanting love

[bubblebunny]

I want love so badly but no one ever wanted me. I'm so desperate I'd take anything but there's literally no one to even settle for, that's how unwanted I am.
Where do I find anyone like literally anyone I'm tired of crashing out everyday

 

[MrHappyFace]

What kind of relationships have you had? What would you like to see happen in your future relationship?

 

[YourLocalSadGirly]

For the longest time I genuinely thought I'd never find love but then I eventually found the love of my life on a dating app. I think if you're a good person and you keep your heart open it's possible for you to find love. To find someone who will love you you basically have to either be on a dating app, already know the person as a friend, or be set up by a mutual friend. I know the idea of a meetcute or someone giving you their number in public is exciting but realistically it doesn't happen often. The fact of dating in this age is you have to put yourself out there, usually on an app, to meet anybody. It sucks but you'll just have to play the game of dating apps like most other people. Also my genuine advice is don't just settle for anyone, people can usually tell if you're desperate which most people consider to be an unattractive trait. Also there's safety to consider as well, especially if you're a woman (I'm kind of assuming you are so I'm sorry if that's not the case). If you settle for any random person (but especially the case with men!) then that leaves you open to abuse. I hope you're able to find the love that you're looking for <3.

 

[violetforever]

I'm so desperate I'd take anything

dont say that. u deserve to have standards and actual love.

 

[absolute failure]

if youre a girl you have options

 

[DeathSweetDeath]

When we're desperate for something, instead of attracting it, we are actively repelling it, and it cannot come to us. You have to find a way to be content without anyone. Then your desperation will be gone, and you'll be able to attract someone.

 

[SASU-KE]

You can't have the mindset of settling for just anyone. You have to get someone who respects you and loves you. They need to improve your life, not make it worse.

If not, it's better to stay alone, trust me.

 

[BradGuy123]

I can totally relate. I've been in a relationship for a long time. When I was single I was so lonely and I wanted someone so badly. I got a lot of rejection - I mean a lot. Finding someone was so consuming for me and I was looking so hard I think it took a lot of joy out of many moments. They say that you find someone when you're least looking. I met my other half in a place just like that. Hand to God - I went somewhere and before I went I had the conscious thought that there was no way I would meet anyone there. But I did. And the rest is history.

 

['Sraom]

i think its genuinely just random and luck based. some people get lucky. a lot of people dont. i feel like finding someone that loves you for the rest of their life as you love them back has a pretty low chance of happening considering the amount of divorces that occur.

i could never fault someone for not being able to find someone, nor could i fault them for not wanting to put themselves out there to the humiliation ritual of trying to get to know someone from a shitty dating app or some online space. who'd wanna go through so many people, getting rejected by everyone for weeks, months, or even years?

theres not much i can help you with in regards to this, because ive also had a pretty shit time trying to find someone for me. never had an irl relationship myself and the one online LDR i had ended with her leaving me for someone else irl lol.

best advice i can give you is its not something easily achievable, its ridiculously hard to pull off. so dont beat yourself up because of it

 

[MidnightCrypt]

I understand you. It's really hard to find true love these days. At first, it seems like it, but then you realize the illusion was only within you and there was another world on the other side.

 

[derpyderpins]

So sorry you're having to feel this way. Being lonely and wanting connection like that is awful. And it's very hard to meet people in the modern dating world.

What are you trying as far as meeting people?

 

[Warum]

if youre a girl you have options

Keep that Incel nonsense out of here.

 

[absolute failure]

Keep that Incel nonsense out of here

Oh, didnt mean to come off as incel :( women and men face different challenges in finding love, sorry