I'm getting divorced for the second time, which is related to wanting to CTB. But this issue is about my first wife, who is still hounding me even though we were divorced 20 years ago.
It is a long and complex story, and these are just the highlights. I was very successful at the time. It was a very acrimonious divorce and my ex was after $$$$$. I paid her $1.5 million plus a very generous child support package. I've since paid probably close to another $1.5 million in child support, including private school tuition, Ivy League college tuition and all that. Things became tight some years ago and I stopped payments for a period of time. She sued. I went to jail for a while. All that. She is mentally unstable, has BPD, and is generally a mean and cruel person.
Litigation is now mostly over. I owe her $92,000 for legal fees. That's a fact. She owes me $140,000 in overpaid child support, but the courts won't recognize it without further litigation. The state has made an arithmetic mistake and thinks I owe another $70,000 in support which I do not owe. All of this is not the only reason I want to CTB, but it is one part of the reason. My ex is intent on squeezing every penny out of me possible. At this point, I am not sure what I need to do in order to correct matters. The people at governmental agencies are not so bright and they just don't care. I sued her in Family Court but they essentially said they don't have jurisdiction. Which means I have to sue her in Supreme Court, which is not a good place to be pro se. I'm just not sure I'm up for it.
She doesn't respond to my emails. She is mentally unbalanced and hates me. I'm thinking of just writing her an email and asking her to help me work this out. She knows what she is entitled to and what she is not. The problem is she has an extraordinary sense of entitlement and thinks she is owed the world. Bottom line, I would say to her, either help me work this out or I am going to CTB. That way, if I CTB it's on your head. She wouldn't care less, but we do have a 23 yo daughter. Of course, she has poisoned her against me, but I don't actually think she would want to see me CTB because she knows how difficult that would be for the child.
This isn't the only reason I want to CTB, but it is one of the reasons. In the short term, I need to deal with this issue but I don't have the strength to deal with it because of depression and all that.
Any thoughts? TIA.
It is a long and complex story, and these are just the highlights. I was very successful at the time. It was a very acrimonious divorce and my ex was after $$$$$. I paid her $1.5 million plus a very generous child support package. I've since paid probably close to another $1.5 million in child support, including private school tuition, Ivy League college tuition and all that. Things became tight some years ago and I stopped payments for a period of time. She sued. I went to jail for a while. All that. She is mentally unstable, has BPD, and is generally a mean and cruel person.
Litigation is now mostly over. I owe her $92,000 for legal fees. That's a fact. She owes me $140,000 in overpaid child support, but the courts won't recognize it without further litigation. The state has made an arithmetic mistake and thinks I owe another $70,000 in support which I do not owe. All of this is not the only reason I want to CTB, but it is one part of the reason. My ex is intent on squeezing every penny out of me possible. At this point, I am not sure what I need to do in order to correct matters. The people at governmental agencies are not so bright and they just don't care. I sued her in Family Court but they essentially said they don't have jurisdiction. Which means I have to sue her in Supreme Court, which is not a good place to be pro se. I'm just not sure I'm up for it.
She doesn't respond to my emails. She is mentally unbalanced and hates me. I'm thinking of just writing her an email and asking her to help me work this out. She knows what she is entitled to and what she is not. The problem is she has an extraordinary sense of entitlement and thinks she is owed the world. Bottom line, I would say to her, either help me work this out or I am going to CTB. That way, if I CTB it's on your head. She wouldn't care less, but we do have a 23 yo daughter. Of course, she has poisoned her against me, but I don't actually think she would want to see me CTB because she knows how difficult that would be for the child.
This isn't the only reason I want to CTB, but it is one of the reasons. In the short term, I need to deal with this issue but I don't have the strength to deal with it because of depression and all that.
Any thoughts? TIA.
