JulienSorel
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- Aug 28, 2019
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I am Chinese, both sides of my family are sick people, and they made sure I would turn out the same way. I was born in China, and I lived in Colorado between the age of seven to eleven. When I returned to China, I found school impossible to adjust to. The main factor was the level of gentility, and there was always this impossibly thick aura of animosity towards each other. Everyone was either passive aggressive, or just flat out aggressive, and if you weren't so, you would be picked on. I spoke perfect American English but hardly any Chinese at the time, and to make matters ridiculous, none of the teachers could actually speak English, and that was made evident only when I arrived.
The teachers and the students hated me, I represented the truth that the education system there was terrible, and the oppressive authority they prescribe is just to cover up their lack of expertise. The teacher also made sure to talk about how I had an expensive computer at home, how I had a good life in America and I wasn't used to their conditions, and how I must think I was above them all. She wanted everyone to internalize jealousy towards me. We were canned like sardines in classrooms too small and tables too short for our legs, but we were screamed at if the tables and chairs did not line up a certain way with the tiles on the ground. The teacher loved screaming about that.
I was 13 and in grade 8. A guy shoulder checked me twice one day. I had only spoke to him once in what I thought was a friendly conversation, and I remember he was half a head shorter than me but four times as wide. The second time he shoulder checked me, I punched him twice on the back. He kept walking, turned around, and asked if I wanted to fight. This happens several times between people everyday, and the rule is you simply say yes and do not back down. I did that. He walked away, and I thought that was the end of it.
For the rest of the day, people started swarming me telling me I am dead, and that it was good knowing me. It was literally everyone, and this is a Chinese school with 45 students per classroom. It was disgusting. I realized I was being mobbed, and everyone in the mob began to understand that as well. These were jealous people. As I walked out of the school, some 20 people were around me constantly saying how it was nice to know me, and how I would be dead in a very brutal fashion. I walked out of the school gate and saw the fat guy with almost 20 people around him, and even a guy with a moped. Some of them looked ecstatic. I started walking towards home, and they followed me. I had some 40 people around me constantly threatening me, the fat guy was absolutely determined I was going to fight him, and the moped guy circled around me nonstop. I said fuck it, and walked back towards the school gate.
I approached the security guards at the school gate. I told them that those people were out there for me. He told me to sit down in the office and gave me the phone to call my parents. The fat guy approached him in the security who blocked him at the door. He started him down for almost 10 seconds and walked away. There were about 100 people now outside, I was terrified, and I started crying. They eventually dispersed, and I walked home with my some friends. This was Monday.
I told my mother, I explained the entire event and I told her I wanted to change schools. I understood immediately after that day how the school really felt, and how much jealousy they had internalized. I knew I needed to get out of there. My mom refused to help me in any way, and even asked me "so what do you want me to do? What can I do?" I told her we could switch schools or she can talk to the principle. She refused to do either, and said she will tell my uncle, who will ask the principle for the bullying to stop or he will threaten to write about it because he is a newspaper editor. I didn't understand why this was her solution, and she said she will talk to my uncle about it. I thought it was insane that she wasn't doing something immediately, She told her she will ask her parents to come over from my uncles house to walk me after school. I didn't know why she was suddenly dragging the family (who didn't like us) into preventing me from being bullied instead of dealing with it directly, but she smiled so sweetly and said it so gently, and then immediately put up a face of disgust when I mentioned any other alternative. She was so adamant about it that I went with it.
The next day (Tuesday), the bully confronted me every day after class, and a large bunch of my classmates joined him. Nobody wanted to help me, and even some people who I had tried to avoid were now using the opportunity to criticize me. Everyone acted what happened was my fault. I was getting exhausted by a threat to my life every 5 seconds by 45 people in a classroom. Even the teacher started joining in, when I didn't seem attentive, she asked if she should get the fat guy to visit me. He became their champion.
At home, I told my mom again of what happened. She said she couldn't do anything, and she wouldn't know what to say to the principle. I remember she told me that before she put me in that school, the principle likes to sing, and that I like to sing, and that we can sing together. She said that. I kept asking her to tell something to the principle or to switch schools for me, but I didn't know how to explain the anxiety caused by death threats every 10 seconds by my 45 classmates, I could only show it. She said my uncle is busy and he will talk to the principle on Friday.
By Wednesday, I felt like a zombie. I walked to school waiting for more death threats. Some people had started asking me for protection money, and I even saw some people fighting over each other to ask me for protection money. The fat guy started asking me for money as well, and even some of my classmates joined in as a joke. This all happened with our teachers just 20 meters from the classroom in their office. I was so worn down by that many faces every day that seemed so happy I was being bullied that I eventually thought I had to give the fat guy what he wants.
I went home again to my mom, who told me my uncle is busy and it would have to wait until Friday. I kept asking her why she was letting me endure this, and she just kept saying both her and my uncle are very busy with work, and they couldn't do anything. My friends also started criticizing me for not being more friendly and open with people, and not being more generous to them.
On Thursday, the fat guy said he I wanted things to stop, that he would have to punch me once in the bathroom in the back for what I did, that I would also have to give him money to get it all to stop. I resisted at first, but he got everyone to join in. By the afternoon, it was too much, it was just too many people talking to me about it. I agreed. I went to the bathroom, he punched me once as hard as he could in the back. I still have a blue scar from it on the back of my shoulder. Everyone jumped around excitedly, it was the happiest I have ever seen everyone. It was over for me too, I walked back like an idiot actually smiling that it was all over. I gave him money later and he said everything is okay now.
I went home, and I told my mom my uncle would finally get a chance on Friday to tell the principle on Friday. She also told me that she had an idea, that I should make friends. If I made friends, we can get together and beat him up. I thought that was a great idea. I had lost my free will already. I just went with it.
On Friday, the bully gave me back my money, I was surprised. We went to the principles office shortly after. He made is write a note stating we would stop fighting. I just wanted the abuse to stop, it was so constant, and so many Chinese people. I hated my people from that day on, and myself included. He left me alone after that.
From that day onward, everyone would tease me and ask me if I wanted to go to the washroom and have another talk, and if they should get the fat guy to ask me for money. I eventually started skipping that school, hating everything and everyone about it. I hated my mother, I hated my uncle, I hated everything that spoke Chinese. When I skipped school, I would bring with me a copy of Les Miserables by Victor Hugo, the signet classic edition. I still have it. It was the thickest thing I could find on my mom's bookshelf, and I read it while eating takeout pizza or whatever groceries I have on the rooftop of my apartment if it was warm or the fire escape if it was cold.
I read other books too, like The Intelligent Investor, His Dark Materials (Philip Pullman), and the Redwall series, Harry Potter, Lord of the Rings. That was my education for over a year, with no math and certainly no Chinese. Only English like I knew and loved. I also started working out, because people in America always seem to be killing themselves outside doing some form of high intensity training, so I would do body weight exercises during my reading sessions. Nothing was done for fun, only utility, just like my impression of the education system. My personal education regime would evolve into into math, ballet, and kale shakes, but this occurred too late in my life. My mother simply assumed I was going to school.
After that event, I gave up on my mother for good. The hate that was internalized in me in that moment made me the perfect psychopath. We began developing the most passive aggressive mother son relationship after that event, and in moments where she goes on her narcissistic rage, I am occasionally pushed to physically assault her while humiliating her in the worst way I can imagine. I know there really is no love behind there, and I sincerely do not feel guilt or remorse, only annoyance at the noise she keeps making. I even find enjoyment in it sometimes. I have read enough literature and studied enough psychology and philosophy to accept myself for what I am, and I feel no shame.
We moved to Canada when I was 15. I lived with no money and hardly any meals, we fought and fought and fought, and I almost never knew what the fight was about, it was just her screaming. She told me she would be gone for a week during October, and she was gone for a full year. I lived the first year in Canada by myself, having fun figuring out groceries and winter clothing. I started taking drugs, drinking, smoking weed, and had rollar coaster grades (I was smart, but not consistent). A friend introduced me to shoplifting, and that kept me fed so well. Shoplifting cheese is what made me 6'1, but I don't do it anymore. I graduated from York University in Economics at 22 but by then, my sanity had been eroded by my mom's more creative attacks. Things have kept getting worse, but I have had a few beautiful moments.
I'm not going to be able to last longer.
The teachers and the students hated me, I represented the truth that the education system there was terrible, and the oppressive authority they prescribe is just to cover up their lack of expertise. The teacher also made sure to talk about how I had an expensive computer at home, how I had a good life in America and I wasn't used to their conditions, and how I must think I was above them all. She wanted everyone to internalize jealousy towards me. We were canned like sardines in classrooms too small and tables too short for our legs, but we were screamed at if the tables and chairs did not line up a certain way with the tiles on the ground. The teacher loved screaming about that.
I was 13 and in grade 8. A guy shoulder checked me twice one day. I had only spoke to him once in what I thought was a friendly conversation, and I remember he was half a head shorter than me but four times as wide. The second time he shoulder checked me, I punched him twice on the back. He kept walking, turned around, and asked if I wanted to fight. This happens several times between people everyday, and the rule is you simply say yes and do not back down. I did that. He walked away, and I thought that was the end of it.
For the rest of the day, people started swarming me telling me I am dead, and that it was good knowing me. It was literally everyone, and this is a Chinese school with 45 students per classroom. It was disgusting. I realized I was being mobbed, and everyone in the mob began to understand that as well. These were jealous people. As I walked out of the school, some 20 people were around me constantly saying how it was nice to know me, and how I would be dead in a very brutal fashion. I walked out of the school gate and saw the fat guy with almost 20 people around him, and even a guy with a moped. Some of them looked ecstatic. I started walking towards home, and they followed me. I had some 40 people around me constantly threatening me, the fat guy was absolutely determined I was going to fight him, and the moped guy circled around me nonstop. I said fuck it, and walked back towards the school gate.
I approached the security guards at the school gate. I told them that those people were out there for me. He told me to sit down in the office and gave me the phone to call my parents. The fat guy approached him in the security who blocked him at the door. He started him down for almost 10 seconds and walked away. There were about 100 people now outside, I was terrified, and I started crying. They eventually dispersed, and I walked home with my some friends. This was Monday.
I told my mother, I explained the entire event and I told her I wanted to change schools. I understood immediately after that day how the school really felt, and how much jealousy they had internalized. I knew I needed to get out of there. My mom refused to help me in any way, and even asked me "so what do you want me to do? What can I do?" I told her we could switch schools or she can talk to the principle. She refused to do either, and said she will tell my uncle, who will ask the principle for the bullying to stop or he will threaten to write about it because he is a newspaper editor. I didn't understand why this was her solution, and she said she will talk to my uncle about it. I thought it was insane that she wasn't doing something immediately, She told her she will ask her parents to come over from my uncles house to walk me after school. I didn't know why she was suddenly dragging the family (who didn't like us) into preventing me from being bullied instead of dealing with it directly, but she smiled so sweetly and said it so gently, and then immediately put up a face of disgust when I mentioned any other alternative. She was so adamant about it that I went with it.
The next day (Tuesday), the bully confronted me every day after class, and a large bunch of my classmates joined him. Nobody wanted to help me, and even some people who I had tried to avoid were now using the opportunity to criticize me. Everyone acted what happened was my fault. I was getting exhausted by a threat to my life every 5 seconds by 45 people in a classroom. Even the teacher started joining in, when I didn't seem attentive, she asked if she should get the fat guy to visit me. He became their champion.
At home, I told my mom again of what happened. She said she couldn't do anything, and she wouldn't know what to say to the principle. I remember she told me that before she put me in that school, the principle likes to sing, and that I like to sing, and that we can sing together. She said that. I kept asking her to tell something to the principle or to switch schools for me, but I didn't know how to explain the anxiety caused by death threats every 10 seconds by my 45 classmates, I could only show it. She said my uncle is busy and he will talk to the principle on Friday.
By Wednesday, I felt like a zombie. I walked to school waiting for more death threats. Some people had started asking me for protection money, and I even saw some people fighting over each other to ask me for protection money. The fat guy started asking me for money as well, and even some of my classmates joined in as a joke. This all happened with our teachers just 20 meters from the classroom in their office. I was so worn down by that many faces every day that seemed so happy I was being bullied that I eventually thought I had to give the fat guy what he wants.
I went home again to my mom, who told me my uncle is busy and it would have to wait until Friday. I kept asking her why she was letting me endure this, and she just kept saying both her and my uncle are very busy with work, and they couldn't do anything. My friends also started criticizing me for not being more friendly and open with people, and not being more generous to them.
On Thursday, the fat guy said he I wanted things to stop, that he would have to punch me once in the bathroom in the back for what I did, that I would also have to give him money to get it all to stop. I resisted at first, but he got everyone to join in. By the afternoon, it was too much, it was just too many people talking to me about it. I agreed. I went to the bathroom, he punched me once as hard as he could in the back. I still have a blue scar from it on the back of my shoulder. Everyone jumped around excitedly, it was the happiest I have ever seen everyone. It was over for me too, I walked back like an idiot actually smiling that it was all over. I gave him money later and he said everything is okay now.
I went home, and I told my mom my uncle would finally get a chance on Friday to tell the principle on Friday. She also told me that she had an idea, that I should make friends. If I made friends, we can get together and beat him up. I thought that was a great idea. I had lost my free will already. I just went with it.
On Friday, the bully gave me back my money, I was surprised. We went to the principles office shortly after. He made is write a note stating we would stop fighting. I just wanted the abuse to stop, it was so constant, and so many Chinese people. I hated my people from that day on, and myself included. He left me alone after that.
From that day onward, everyone would tease me and ask me if I wanted to go to the washroom and have another talk, and if they should get the fat guy to ask me for money. I eventually started skipping that school, hating everything and everyone about it. I hated my mother, I hated my uncle, I hated everything that spoke Chinese. When I skipped school, I would bring with me a copy of Les Miserables by Victor Hugo, the signet classic edition. I still have it. It was the thickest thing I could find on my mom's bookshelf, and I read it while eating takeout pizza or whatever groceries I have on the rooftop of my apartment if it was warm or the fire escape if it was cold.
I read other books too, like The Intelligent Investor, His Dark Materials (Philip Pullman), and the Redwall series, Harry Potter, Lord of the Rings. That was my education for over a year, with no math and certainly no Chinese. Only English like I knew and loved. I also started working out, because people in America always seem to be killing themselves outside doing some form of high intensity training, so I would do body weight exercises during my reading sessions. Nothing was done for fun, only utility, just like my impression of the education system. My personal education regime would evolve into into math, ballet, and kale shakes, but this occurred too late in my life. My mother simply assumed I was going to school.
After that event, I gave up on my mother for good. The hate that was internalized in me in that moment made me the perfect psychopath. We began developing the most passive aggressive mother son relationship after that event, and in moments where she goes on her narcissistic rage, I am occasionally pushed to physically assault her while humiliating her in the worst way I can imagine. I know there really is no love behind there, and I sincerely do not feel guilt or remorse, only annoyance at the noise she keeps making. I even find enjoyment in it sometimes. I have read enough literature and studied enough psychology and philosophy to accept myself for what I am, and I feel no shame.
We moved to Canada when I was 15. I lived with no money and hardly any meals, we fought and fought and fought, and I almost never knew what the fight was about, it was just her screaming. She told me she would be gone for a week during October, and she was gone for a full year. I lived the first year in Canada by myself, having fun figuring out groceries and winter clothing. I started taking drugs, drinking, smoking weed, and had rollar coaster grades (I was smart, but not consistent). A friend introduced me to shoplifting, and that kept me fed so well. Shoplifting cheese is what made me 6'1, but I don't do it anymore. I graduated from York University in Economics at 22 but by then, my sanity had been eroded by my mom's more creative attacks. Things have kept getting worse, but I have had a few beautiful moments.
I'm not going to be able to last longer.