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[lovestained]

for all of you who consider yourselves recovered- how did you do it?
im curious to hear from someone who's in a similar position as me (no friends, basically nothing going for them)
ive considered therapy but i don't know how much that would help... i dont think i'm a normal person who can easily be helped

 

[LastNite]

I've actually came pretty close to that. I'm not saying Im recovered but I felt like it for a moment. It was while back ago not now. I remembered what pushed me to suicide. I just quit it and then out of sudden things didn't seem so bad. I am still a loser and a weirdo dont get me wrong but damn did it feel good to just leave behind stuff that hurt me. If you're wondering what it was it was school for me. I got no friends there and I used to get bullied. I got a GI problem as well probably 1 in a million since it's been there for years and school was just hell for me with every other issue on my mind. The way I got out is stupid but I was 16 at that moment and I just took a bunch of Ibuprofen and Acetaminophen close to a hundred grams. Really stupid now that Im looking at it cuz it wouldnt have killed me the way I wanted it. I got put in a mental hospital and then just stopped going to school my parents still pressured me to do so but they were trying to be "good" even though they arent so they just let me out of it. Therapy also felt nice not bad but just nice...depends on the therapist. Mine is pretty chill been going the same place for a while now. It gets boring and sometimes I feel like the therapist hates my guts but I dont know I just think everyone hates me so It might be not true.

 

[lovestained]

I've actually came pretty close to that. I'm not saying Im recovered but I felt like it for a moment. It was while back ago not now. I remembered what pushed me to suicide. I just quit it and then out of sudden things didn't seem so bad. I am still a loser and a weirdo dont get me wrong but damn did it feel good to just leave behind stuff that hurt me. If you're wondering what it was it was school for me. I got no friends there and I used to get bullied. I got a GI problem as well probably 1 in a million since it's been there for years and school was just hell for me with every other issue on my mind. The way I got out is stupid but I was 16 at that moment and I just took a bunch of Ibuprofen and Acetaminophen close to a hundred grams. Really stupid now that Im looking at it cuz it wouldnt have killed me the way I wanted it. I got put in a mental hospital and then just stopped going to school my parents still pressured me to do so but they were trying to be "good" even though they arent so they just let me out of it. Therapy also felt nice not bad but just nice...depends on the therapist. Mine is pretty chill been going the same place for a while now. It gets boring and sometimes I feel like the therapist hates my guts but I dont know I just think everyone hates me so It might be not true.

school is a major one for me too!! I wonder though what did you do after quitting school? i feel like if I quit school it would actually be game over for me (it's the only thing im good at)

 

[LastNite]

school is a major one for me too!! I wonder though what did you do after quitting school? i feel like if I quit school it would actually be game over for me (it's the only thing im good at)

In all honesty nothing. That's the reason why I didn't fully recover it just felt like it for a moment. Im not good at anything in my life. I've had decent grades in all of my classes except math I was pretty bad at that. Getting a job is also pretty bad for me since nobody will want to hire someone who barely speaks. I am not good at interacting and speaking with people so socializing feels 10x harder for me. I dont recommend quitting school if thats truly what youre good at. I feel like I was decent at it too now that I dont got it I have nothing left for me. School is nice without the people in it who make it not so nice.

 

[lovestained]

In all honesty nothing. That's the reason why I didn't fully recover it just felt like it for a moment. Im not good at anything in my life. I've had decent grades in all of my classes except math I was pretty bad at that. Getting a job is also pretty bad for me since nobody will want to hire someone who barely speaks. I am not good at interacting and speaking with people so socializing feels 10x harder for me. I dont recommend quitting school if thats truly what youre good at. I feel like I was decent at it too now that I dont got it I have nothing left for me. School is nice without the people in it who make it not so nice.

i definitely wouldn't consider you a lost cause .. maybe try looking into online programs ? as for the socializing problems I relate as well , ive been told there are jobs for introverts but I am Far beyond an introvert at this point x.x feels like theres no place for agoraphobic people

 

[Odwin]

for all of you who consider yourselves recovered- how did you do it?
im curious to hear from someone who's in a similar position as me (no friends, basically nothing going for them)
ive considered therapy but i don't know how much that would help... i dont think i'm a normal person who can easily be helped

I just stopped giving a shit. Gave me two weeks notice. If something happens I really don't like, I use 100% of my brainpower to find a way to change it. Last thing I changed was working with other people. Now I make fur suits from home and chill.

People I dislike or an inconvenience I cut off immediately. At least as fast as possible. Sometimes when I get the big sad, and then I just chill in bed for a few weeks.

Is it a good was to deal with it? Maybe, but it is the best I can do.

 

[betteroffthandead]

If I were you, I'd go ahead and give therapy a shot even if you're doubtful it will help. The worst that could happen is that it isn't helpful, and then you're just in the same situation you are right now anyway. But you never know — it does help some people, and it even changes some people's lives. If you give it a go then at least you won't have any lingering curiosity about what would have happened if you'd tried it.

Although it hasn't magically fixed my life — clearly, since I'm on this site right now — therapy has helped me to have several-month-long happy periods in my life, and it has brought me a lot of comfort in the past. In my experience, at the very least it can be good for giving you a little temporary relief from the suffering.

 

[bus catcher]

i definitely wouldn't consider you a lost cause .. maybe try looking into online programs ? as for the socializing problems I relate as well , ive been told there are jobs for introverts but I am Far beyond an introvert at this point x.x feels like theres no place for agoraphobic people

I'm also agoraphobic, but I recently got medication for my anxiety to assist me in going out. It's Propranolol and it's a per needed medication which I'll use to slowly expose myself to outside situations. Social interaction is tough, but I've been trying to expose myself to it slowly. First is trying to talk to people online, then going to quiet places like libraries, and then joining local groups until I can make friends and hang out with them. This is my plan at least as an agoraphobic person.

 

[lovestained]

I'm also agoraphobic, but I recently got medication for my anxiety to assist me in going out. It's Propranolol and it's a per needed medication which I'll use to slowly expose myself to outside situations. Social interaction is tough, but I've been trying to expose myself to it slowly. First is trying to talk to people online, then going to quiet places like libraries, and then joining local groups until I can make friends and hang out with them. This is my plan at least as an agoraphobic person.

this sounds like a very good plan!! wishing you all the best

 

[LastNite]

i definitely wouldn't consider you a lost cause .. maybe try looking into online programs ? as for the socializing problems I relate as well , ive been told there are jobs for introverts but I am Far beyond an introvert at this point x.x feels like theres no place for agoraphobic people

Yeh no I gave up on that :p going soon hopefully by next month I'll get it together thanks though

 

[Somethingswrong]

My family didn't take me seriously and never cared if I SH or tried to CTB, my friends all told me that I'm doing it for attention. Every time I met someone on dating apps they'd ghost me and I had no friends after highschool. I met someone on my venting app and they introduced me to one of their friend after the guy just came to see me to have sex with me, dump me, than call me a bad friend. But the friend he introduced me too showed me love kindness and understanding. That's what saved me. I was mostly recovered until I met bad people. It's little moment that boost happy, if you force them they won't be happy tho. You gotta rewire your brain to think of the good time and soon the good thoughts will come. That's what worked for me when I was alone.