This site is like therapy.

[Metavoid]

I just wanted to say that since posting here, reading and discussing with you guys, I havent cried once all day. I cry pretty much every second of every day. I feel more at ease with my thoughts and emotions. It's like a comforting place you can go and you don't get judged, ridiculed or told to go get help or other condescending shit you get when you ring Samaritans or tell others. I can relate with pretty much all of you and I dont feel so alone anymore. I am thankful for this community.

 

[Throwaway563078]

I just wanted to say that since posting here, reading and discussing with you guys, I havent cried once all day. I cry pretty much every second of every day. I feel more at ease with my thoughts and emotions. It's like a comforting place you can go and you don't get judged, ridiculed or told to go get help or other condescending shit you get when you ring Samaritans or tell others. I can relate with pretty much all of you and I dont feel so alone anymore. I am thankful for this community.

Also very thankful. I always feel horrible but being on here makes me feel less bad. How ironic though

 

[couldntthinkofaname]

would be even better if it was in real life

imagine something like a suicide self support group in your city were you could discuss methods etc

god i wished suicide wasnt socially stigmatised

 

[Empty Smile]

Yep, this place has become my home. It's the only place I feel comfortable.

 

[Gainax]

I understand what you mean
Its much more easier to connect or relate with people as fucked up as we are, or even more, than with the traditional therapist

 

[Metavoid]

I understand what you mean
Its much more easier to connect or relate with people as fucked up as we are, or even more, than with the traditional therapist

Exactly this

 

[Metavoid]

would be even better if it was in real life

imagine something like a suicide self support group in your city were you could discuss methods etc

god i wished suicide wasnt socially stigmatised

People like to think of suicide as something that is done mindlessly because of strong emotion or circumstances. No one ever comprehends the fact that suicide can be an informed, rational, lifelong choice. I think people are afraid of that. It messes up their view of the world.

 

[jaemus12]

The people I've connected with here are much better than anyone I've ever met in real life or anywhere else.

The only downside of this site is knowing the people you connect with are having so many life problems. Eventually they all leave one by one. Although you wish them the best of whatever route they take, it still stings a little to know they left - dead or alive.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

Agreed. In a way you feel like instant, automatic friendships are formed, but without all the pretense and having to be a certain way. You can just be a down-on-yourself loser as much as you want without becoming a pariah. And I don't care what anyone says, I fucking love self-pity, we don't have nearly enough of it living in this fake Facebook world where everyone's so perfect. It's wonderful not having to impress anyone.

 

[MachineGunDani]

This site is better than therapy! I've gotten more outta this site in like 2 months than I ever have in years of therapy

 

[Metavoid]

Agreed. In a way you feel like instant, automatic friendships are formed, but without all the pretense and having to be a certain way. You can just be a down-on-yourself loser as much as you want without becoming a pariah. And I don't care what anyone says, I fucking love self-pity, we don't have nearly enough of it living in this fake Facebook world where everyone's so perfect. It's wonderful not having to impress anyone.

Yeah. It feels nice to go "wow, I feel the same". Rather than "oh wow, good for you, I wish I could have what you have".

 

[onewayroad]

I posted something pretty similar in the "Appreciation for the mods" thread. You're so right, and it's so true.

Here's what I don't understand.

Suicide can definitely be a rational choice, but pretend for a minute you're one of the majority of people who disagree. In their perspective suicide is a psychological problem similar to alcoholism or drug addiction, but it's treated totally differently.

What I mean is, when people are alcoholics, addicted to gambling, etc. the response isn't to just yell at them and say "DRINKING IS NEVER THE ANSWER NEVER DRINK HOW COULD YOU EVEN THINK OF DRINKING" or lock them up in a hospital like people do with suicidal people. You have a reasonable discussion about it, and maybe even join something like alcoholics anonymous. That's how you treat it. And that's what we're doing here with suicide. It's like alcoholics anonymous for suicide, and if we could have something similar in real life I think suicide rates would go down.

Society is so hung up on stopping people from killing themselves at all costs that it's created a stigma which is causing more people to kill themselves because if they talk about they are treated like lepers.

It makes me pretty angry.

 

[GeorgeEastman]

Thanks for talking me out of ever calling Samaritans. Hell, I'd end up cussing them out and making my damn stomach ulcers hurt.

That's what I like about this place. No fussing and fighting around. We think about killing ourselves all the time and there's not a damn thing wrong with that. Well, maybe there is but at least I won't be bitched at about it here.

 

[Lra888]

I understand what you mean
Its much more easier to connect or relate with people as fucked up as we are, or even more, than with the traditional therapist

Yes. Communicating honestly with a therapist about this kind of stuff is completely unacceptable.

 

[AndyCurious]

I just wanted to say that since posting here, reading and discussing with you guys, I havent cried once all day. I cry pretty much every second of every day. I feel more at ease with my thoughts and emotions. It's like a comforting place you can go and you don't get judged, ridiculed or told to go get help or other condescending shit you get when you ring Samaritans or tell others. I can relate with pretty much all of you and I dont feel so alone anymore. I am thankful for this community.

All of us understand more than many "real" people.. We are real people too, just being here, makes us feel more appreciated than amongst the others out there.. Best wishes to you.. Hugs

 

[Schopenhauer]

I wholeheartedly agree. It's good to be a part of this community, even if our membership is usually ephemeral. We're all miserable in our own separate ways, but we do understand the overarching situation. Writing here, and reading your posts makes me less anxious. I'm grateful for this place.

And this is where I learned how to buy N :)

 

[sadsoul]

I don't want to romanticize anything, but I do feel like this community is really beautiful and the members of it (that's you) are all very kind, understanding and accepting. I'm usually the person who doesn't talk and doesn't share anything about himself. The person who is really bad at socializing. I'm also really scared of negative judgment. And still here I am, posting stuff about myself and talking to people. People who I can relate to and who can (hopefully) relate to me. This site feels like home to me, a temporary but real home where we can share our suffering and truly be ourselves without being judged. It's sad that we all feel the way we do, but at least on here we're in this together.

 

[Donewith_]

I don't want to romanticize anything, but I do feel like this community is really beautiful and the members of it (that's you) are all very kind, understanding and accepting. I'm usually the person who doesn't talk and doesn't share anything about himself. The person who is really bad at socializing. I'm also really scared of negative judgment. And still here I am, posting stuff about myself and talking to people. People who I can relate to and who can (hopefully) relate to me. This site feels like home to me, a temporary but real home where we can share our suffering and truly be ourselves without being judged. It's sad that we all feel the way we do, but at least on here we're in this together.

That's great. I'm introvert.i don't feel like sharing anything with anyone.

 

[Mr2005]

I'm afraid I don't share these positive sentiments. This is a destructive place.

 

[Sayo]

would be even better if it was in real life

imagine something like a suicide self support group in your city were you could discuss methods etc

god i wished suicide wasnt socially stigmatised

There's an Exit chapter in my city! I wish I could go, but I expect I wouldn't be very welcome, even with my illness. (Also, they are pretty much just end of life planning.) Gotta agree with you on this, pro-choice spaces are important.

 

[onewayroad]

I'm afraid I don't share these positive sentiments. This is a destructive place.

If someone decides to die peacefully from N or inert gas instead of throwing themselves in front of a train and dying slowly with half their insides on the outside, is that destructive?

I'm curious about your opinion, why do you think this place is destructive?

 

[Mr2005]

Because over the last few days I 've seen it for what it is

 

[Mr2005]

I don't want to talk about me. If you guys want to think this place is wonderful and everyone in it good luck to you

 

[onewayroad]

Because over the last few days I 've seen it for what it is

I don't want to talk about me. If you guys want to think this place is wonderful and everyone in it good luck to you

Alright, no problem, no pressure if you don't want to share. Hope I didn't offend, just curious about your perspective.

 

[Mr2005]

You didn't offend and I have to thank you for that because I was fully prepared. See this is what I mean

 

[onewayroad]

You didn't offend and I have to thank you for that because I was fully prepared. See this is what I mean

Do you mean that we step on eggshells with how we interact on here? I'm not sure I understand. And it's fine if you don't want to talk about it.

 

[Throwaway563078]

Yes. Communicating honestly with a therapist about this kind of stuff is completely unacceptable.

That's very messed up
Not even being able to be completely honest with the person who's job it is to listen to you fully and not judge

 

[Trashcan]

This place is more therapeutic than actual therapy. It's hard to find a good therapist. This place is more accepting and nonjudgmental than the majority of the professionals I have seen. And this place also has something that even accepting and nonjudgmental therapists don't have - seeing it as a basic human right to ctb. It is so helpful having people who recognize your right and don't tell you you're crazy, or that you should be ashamed, or some pro-life platitude.

 

[Mr2005]

You want platitudes look above. This thread could easily have been written on a pro life place. What's the difference? There's nothing wrong in saying you think someone should live as long as there's actually good reason to say it

 

[worldexploder]

I'm glad your feeling better.

This site is far better than therapy in my eyes.
1. We believe in choice
2. We listen to each other
3. It's free.