Help THIS is how you trick a therapist into helping you!

[MyStateKilledMe]

It's no secret that MHP's aren't there to help you. When you tell them about your problems, they just ask "how did that make you feel?", repeat everything you said back to you (which they call "reflecting" ), or even side with the people abusing you. In most severe cases, they flat-out mock you and laugh in your face. That's because they're not there to HELP you. They're there to make you a long-term patient to keep you coming back and paying them. So unless you trick them somehow, they won't even give you advice, let alone advocate for you. Because if they do, you start feeling better, your problems go away, and you stop coming back with their income. This was my experience with most MHP's I saw, but the worst one was someone I saw as a teenager.

Well, there's a trick you can use. Talk about your problems, but make them about someone else. If you're a minor on this site (which you're not supposed to be doing! ), say it's about a classmate. If you're an adult, say it's about a colleague. Or in both cases, say it's about a friend. That is, that person confided to you about something bothering them, and you want to help them, but you don't know how. Say that "it's best if he/she comes to talk to you [directed at your MHP], but I want to give them a stop-gap suggestion until they get around to it". (This phrase is meant to blow smoke up your MHP's ass, to further trick them.)

At that point, since it's about someone your MHP has no connection to, there's no longer a potential loss of income from giving you advice and/or actually helping you. In fact, it makes you look good in your MHP's eyes, further putting them on your side: you come off as a kind, empathetic soul, rather a pathetic loser giving them income. So, he/she will give you advice, especially considering how it could be a tactic to bring in a future patient (read: $$$).

This is something I should have figured out every time I saw an MHP, only I was too stupid to realize it until my late 30's.

 

[waitingforrest]

I still want to believe that MHP's truly do want to help me, but I am growing more and more cynical.

The most hurtful things that have been said to me were from MHP's. They knew exactly were to hit where it hurts the most.

I do appreciate the tips however. Sometimes I do feel like just a cash cow to them.

 

[symphony]

They're there to make you a long-term patient to keep you coming back and paying them.

I do not at all intent to invalidate your experience, but this is the exact opposite of what I've seen. Several times (and once again now very recently), I get shunted from one therapist to the next. They all tell me they're "not fit to address my unique needs" or some bullshit. I don't know if it's more an issue of me being so fucked up that dealing with me is truly over their heads, or of them not wanting the liability of dealing with someone so vocally intent on dying.

 

[MyStateKilledMe]

I do not at all intent to invalidate your experience, but this is the exact opposite of what I've seen. Several times (and once again now very recently), I get shunted from one therapist to the next. They all tell me they're "not fit to address my unique needs" or some bullshit. I don't know if it's more an issue of me being so fucked up that dealing with me is truly over their heads, or of them not wanting the liability of dealing with someone so vocally intent on dying.

Well, that makes one of us. Mine just berated me for "not being open enough" and "holding back my feelings". And when I did tell her something I actually felt, she accused me of lying. Her common phrase was: "That's not what you felt! Stop making things up, and tell me the truth!" Many the\rapists do this.

I eventually memorized psycho crap she wanted to hear, and regurgitated it back to her when needed. That continued for years on end, until my parents pulled me out of that therapy. She must have gushed to them about how much progress I made. Only in reality, I was feeling as bad as I did when I first saw her. If she only knew!

Of course, as my first post points out, there's an explainable reason she did this: She wasn't there to help ME; she was there to help her income, by making me more docile for my parents, the people paying her. I suppose if I told her it was a classmate of mine who was being emotionally abused at home and feeling depressed, she'd have actually given me something I could use to improve my life.

 

[MegaGordo]

Well, that makes one of us. Mine just berated me for "not being open enough" and "holding back my feelings". And when I did tell her something I actually felt, she accused me of lying. Her common phrase was: "That's not what you felt! Stop making things up, and tell me the truth!" Many the\rapists do this.

I eventually memorized psycho crap she wanted to hear, and regurgitated it back to her when needed. That continued for years on end, until my parents pulled me out of that therapy. She must have gushed to them about how much progress I made. Only in reality, I was feeling as bad as I did when I first saw her. If she only knew!

Of course, as my first post points out, there's an explainable reason she did this: She wasn't there to help ME; she was there to help her income, by making me more docile for my parents, the people paying her. I suppose if I told her it was a classmate of mine who was being emotionally abused at home and feeling depressed, she'd have actually given me something I could use to improve my life.

She sounds like a real twat.