Thinking of Moving Out & Being Homeless

[Feux]

I have another dumb idea. I'm still living with my mother, I don't think I'm wanted here, and I feel suffocated. I don't work or go to school. I don't have a lot of money or a car. There isn't anyone really close to me so I'd be homeless.

I don't know if I'd really rather be homeless than have to stay with my mom since I have no idea what it's like. I'm not sure if I could hold a job. The reason why I never have is because I'm always extremely tired, and it's stressful being in spaces where people always mock and dislike me while having AvPD and ASD. I wonder if anyone has any advice. Maybe I shouldn't do it at all, maybe I'm making excuses for myself. I just don't know.

 

[a-lien]

but when you are always tired, isn't beein homeless a very bad idea. I would think that it's hard to sleep, feel save while sleeping..
and of course always loud... people... do you think thats a good idea with ASD ?
And of course the money situation... what would you do.. asked people? so that could also be a problem..need to get in touch with other people all the time... so more stress etc.

 

[ForgetIExist]

I have another dumb idea. I'm still living with my mother, I don't think I'm wanted here, and I feel suffocated. I don't work or go to school. I don't have a lot of money or a car. There isn't anyone really close to me so I'd be homeless.

I don't know if I'd really rather be homeless than have to stay with my mom since I have no idea what it's like. I'm not sure if I could hold a job. The reason why I never have is because I'm always extremely tired, and it's stressful being in spaces where people always mock and dislike me while having AvPD and ASD. I wonder if anyone has any advice. Maybe I shouldn't do it at all, maybe I'm making excuses for myself. I just don't know.

Do you have friends you could bunk with?

 

[Feux]

but when you are always tired, isn't beein homeless a very bad idea. I would think that it's hard to sleep, feel save while sleeping..
and of course always loud... people... do you think thats a good idea with ASD ?
And of course the money situation... what would you do.. asked people? so that could also be a problem..need to get in touch with other people all the time... so more stress etc.

You're not wrong. I'll have to interact with a few strangers and I'm obviously putting my safety at risk. But I'd choose to go through all of that over staying with my mother. Again, that might change once I'm actually put in this situation or have more knowledge on what could happen, but that's how I feel for now. I'm thinking it over before doing it impulsively.

Do you have friends you could bunk with?

I don't.

 

[DeathSweetDeath]

I think it's especially hard being homeless without a car. What would the plan be? To walk to a homeless shelter? They don't let anyone stay there during the day, so would you be ok out in the elements all the time? Do you know where you'd go or what you'd do during the day? How would you keep yourself fed without money? I think some of the best jobs for someone who doesn't want to be confined somewhere with people they don't want to deal with would be things like Doordash etc, but those require a car. If you're always tired, look at your sleep schedule. My guess is you may not be active during the day, making it hard to sleep at night, and being tired all the time. Not getting proper nutrients can also cause constant tiredness, that could also be part of it.
Idk what to tell you except that a few nights on the streets might give you a new appreciation for having a place to live with your mother, even though the situation is far from perfect. And it's a million times harder getting and keeping a job if you're homeless. If you want to try getting one, the time to do that is when you have a place to live, not when you don't.

 

[a-lien]

When I imagine to be homeless, then i would only have the energy to jump" (fall) infront of a train.. (after 2-3 days of no sleep)
Seriously I was in this situation before, wanted to kill myself before I got homeless, the day before. But there was a problem.. so I went into hospital ;)
Being homeless is my death for sure.
When it's fine for you, then try... sounds like it's hard for you to imagine.

 

[BradGuy123]

I've volunteered with several homeless ministries. I can tell you that you don't want to be homeless. You don't know where your next meal is coming from. When you panhandle for money you can get a ticket from the cops or if you're on private property you can be banned from the premises. It's hard to find a comfortable place to sleep. You endure heat, cold, and rain. If you get into a shelter sometimes people steal from you.

 

[eggsausagerice]

hellaur fellow disco elysiumcel

I'm still living with my mother, I don't think I'm wanted here, and I feel suffocated. I don't work or go to school. I don't have a lot of money or a car. There isn't anyone really close to me so I'd be homeless.

I don't know if I'd really rather be homeless than have to stay with my mom since I have no idea what it's like. I'm not sure if I could hold a job. The reason why I never have is because I'm always extremely tired, and it's stressful being in spaces where people always mock and dislike me while having AvPD and ASD.

i relate heavily. my family generally isn't supportive and sees me as a burden and inconvenience. i had a crash out and wanted to uber to a bridge earlier in the afternoon because my sister got in a fight with me and my dad agreed with her because he assumed she was right, so i felt really small. mt my mom is always breathing down my neck and i don't have a job or car either. sometimes it feels like the only 2 options i have are running away or killing myself so that i can stop living in a house that makes me actively depressed.

i wouldn't recommend becoming homeless either even though i get it. last december i thought about packing a bag with my clothes, a thermos, and my money in a wallet so that i could leave home and not have to see my family anymore. but it's not realistic when i don't have a car and don't have any savings. i'd just end up needing to go back home because there's nowhere else i can go if i don't have relatives or friends i can rely on for a place to go. the loneliness that comes from having nowhere you want to be is worse than anything. i'd do anything to get away from home. i get sad when i'm out of the house and have to go back. tx weather, infrastructure, and its citizens are extremely hostile towards homeless people too. it seems like there isn't much someone can do if their home is unlivable.

 

[a-lien]

also suffering to live in a house like mine.
That's so sad, because people with money could easily solve problems like this...
it's not that expensive I think, but when you have nothing, it's hopeless....
that's the only reason on my "reasons to die- list" that is unnecessary...

 

[rainbowpuker]

I wish I could run away

 

[Kanoh]

Don't do this. No matter what, being homeless is gonna make everything worse.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I'd look into whether you can even get a job if you don't have an address. I think maybe some charities may help with that. Obviously, you need a bank account etc. I'm assuming all that is set up?

I imagine it's a very difficult life though. Could you maybe look for a compromise? Spend more time out of the house and away from your Mum? Maybe try to take smaller steps to be more independent before taking such a big leap. If you decide to leave, is it likely your Mum will welcome you back- if it doesn't work out?

 

[PainThreshold]

hellaur fellow disco elysiumcel

Here we go, COP GIVES UP THE DETECTIVE GENRE FOR SOCIAL REALISM

 

[ForgetIExist]

You're not wrong. I'll have to interact with a few strangers and I'm obviously putting my safety at risk. But I'd choose to go through all of that over staying with my mother. Again, that might change once I'm actually put in this situation or have more knowledge on what could happen, but that's how I feel for now. I'm thinking it over before doing it impulsively.



I don't.

Maybe try making some friends or looking for a homeless shelter? Maybe there's a church you could stay in?

 

[Fadenself00]

Depending on where you live you might be able to get social security and into a shelter, with the help of your city's social workers..
This would be a big step obviously, but I would personally take it, talking from my experience, especially if you can already see yourself getting worse where you currently are.
People rarely ever change (their personality), no matter how much you may want them to, unfortunately.

You may be able to get social workers to help tho, regardless. Maybe they can find a way to work something else out, to make your situation better. But always trust your gut, no matter what.

(This is what I would do; please do not feel pressured in any way by what I wrote, if it seemed like that, but please be careful, this world can be horrible unfortunately)