Help Thinking about letting go of a couple that I'm friends with

[slamjoetry]

So back in May or so, I met this couple, N and F, and we seemed to hit things off well. I was excited to make friends with them cause I literally don't have any other friends. Things went alright for a little while, but as time went on I started feeling myself resenting them more and more. I don't like how they argue with each other over really insignificant stuff all the time. Almost every single time I hang out with them, they start arguing about something stupid, then they get on their phones to text each other about the argument and I'm just sitting there in silence with them for 10-20 minutes and I feel so uncomfortable and awkward.

I also don't like how addicted they are to drugs. They're drinking and smoking weed 24/7 and I'm trying to quit both after years of struggling with addiction. They're SUPER internet-addicted too. On their phones all the time, and every time I bring up an actor or a singer I like, they're quick to tell me whatever celebrity drama they got involved in. It makes me feel annoyed. Things hit their worst a month ago when I accidentally saw one of N's nudes on his phone. I said sorry and laughed about it but he broke into tears, telling me how I violated him. And ever since he said he wants to distance himself from me until he can feel comfortable seeing me again.

This made me ask myself "Would I even be bothered by that?" Every time I hang out with them, I end up feeling irritated within minutes of being around them. So the answer should seem clear that I should just drop them and find new friends. But I'm not sure because they haven't really done or said anything wrong to me. And I'm super lonely too. I'm scared of going back to not having any friends. I'm not sure what I should do. Any help or advice would be appreciated. Thank you

 

[R. A.]

the crux: would you rather be irritated by hanging with addicts who could cause you to relapse (maybe?), or be alone?
it's not like they're the only other humans on the planet, after all.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Couples do bicker. I've noticed that with just about all I can think of. I suppose it's always going to be tricky feeling like the third weel around them. But, from what you've said, there are a bunch of other negatives too.

Maybe you could use this requested separation time, while the guy repairs his ego, to see how it feels without them around so much.

I agree with R.A. also- that making friends with them will hopefully give you confidence to make friends with others. Hopefully some that are a more positive influence.

It's not like you would necessarily have to burn bridges with them though. Maybe just let things drift a bit or, make excuses now and then, if you don't feel like meeting up in future.