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Loser47
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- Jan 14, 2021
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How nice it would be to live together and die together
It's more like finding someone to CTB together, right?I think we have a forum thread for this one
https://sanctioned-suicide.net/thre...read-the-rules-on-page-1-before-posting.1253/
Im really not sure, I havent used it, but probably for both? :$It's more like finding someone to CTB together, right?
I'm pretty sure this thread isn't for relationships at all, just for finding people to CTB together with.I think we have a forum thread for this one
https://sanctioned-suicide.net/thre...read-the-rules-on-page-1-before-posting.1253/
There definitely seems to be some truth to that. I notice the people on here who express that their desire for a romantic relationship being a huge, if not. the reason they want to die is almost always a man.I'd wager that the majority of young men on this site would stop being suicidal if they had a good relationship. Boomers and women wouldn't be affected that much by one, methinks. Hell, a lot of people on here are in relationships (almost all of them women or boomers, but whatever).
It's more like finding someone to CTB together, right?
It's suppose to be to find a partner so you don't have to be alone during the final moments. However (hasn't happened to me) I've seen a few (leaning towards a lot) of people saying that people will hit them up and shit. Being all pervy and whatnot in the worse cases (won't say all). These people are suppose to be reported so the answer is no, this is in no way a dating site unless you make friends and decide to go farther on your own.Im really not sure, I havent used it, but probably for both? :$
Imagine the pick up lines! I would....jump at the chance of meeting you :P
Like it's a choice.On a side note getting attached to someone is a bad idea.
Well it is if you go looking for it!!!Like it's a choice.
Oh, yeah, sry. Got some shit mixed up, I'm struggling with this kind of thing atm.Well it is if you go looking for it!!!
I'd wager that the majority of young men on this site would stop being suicidal if they had a good relationship. Boomers and women wouldn't be affected that much by one, methinks. Hell, a lot of people on here are in relationships (almost all of them women or boomers, but whatever).
There definitely seems to be some truth to that. I notice the people on here who express that their desire for a romantic relationship being a huge, if not. the reason they want to die is almost always a man.
In any case, take it from me: It's not necessarily a good idea to get into a relationship with someone from here. Somebody who was near perfect for me and even lived only twenty minutes away from me actually found me a few months ago and it still didn't work out between us. I was so sure I'd stop needing to commit suicide for her and that might be part of what scared her off...
I think this is a very flowery way to look at dating and suicidality. Sure, it sounds good at first. After all, you really understand each other! I don't think it's worth it though. Because it's almost guaranteed that one person will begin to recover and try to save the other person. Been there, done that - it's not a good time. It creates a very unhealthy relationship.
Now if both parties managed to keep a distance or are adamant on seeing their suicides through, it could be cool. But I don't think that's likely to happen.
Speaking from personal experience, it really isn't a good idea. While I don't regret entering the relationship - he truly was an angel - his suicide destroyed me. I suppose that my case was a bit different, because he and I had set out to recover, but getting close to anyone here (no matter what form the relationship takes) is risky and can very easily leave you hurting. You may think that you understand because you are also suicidal, but the heart always hopes for the other to live - and I so desperately wanted him to be able to live a fully and happy life.
It's more like finding someone to CTB together, right?
I don't know how to feel about this. On one hand, relying on another person to motivate you to recover is likely to lead to an unhealthy relationship. On the other hand, would that make dating another mentally ill person in general out of the question? I'm assuming the line is drawn when they're actively suicidal and that people who have mostly recovered are probably okay to get with (assuming you're also doing well).There is a lot of overlap in membership between three forums, one of those forums is a community for "incels" and so it isn't too unexpected to see a lot of members who struggle with loneliness, feeling unworthy of love and companionship, and connecting with others in meaningful ways. It's quite sad to see and I imagine that the pain runs a lot deeper than the superficial "tfw no gf". It must be incredibly painful to feel as though one is somehow fundamentally flawed and therefore is doomed to living a life without ever being seen and loved. These members require a lot of love and support before they can hope to connect with others but even being labelled as an "incel" comes with a lot of stigma, and makes reaching out more difficult.
Speaking from personal experience, it really isn't a good idea. While I don't regret entering the relationship - he truly was an angel - his suicide destroyed me. I suppose that my case was a bit different, because he and I had set out to recover, but getting close to anyone here (no matter what form the relationship takes) is risky and can very easily leave you hurting. You may think that you understand because you are also suicidal, but the heart always hopes for the other to live - and I so desperately wanted him to be able to live a fully and happy life.
I don't know how to feel about this. On one hand, relying on another person to motivate you to recover is likely to lead to an unhealthy relationship. On the other hand, would that make dating another mentally ill person in general out of the question? I'm assuming the line is drawn when they're actively suicidal and that people who have mostly recovered are probably okay to get with (assuming you're also doing well).
I appreciate you taking the time to write out a thoughtful reply and agree with your sentiments wholeheartedly. It's unfortunate how things can turn out such a way.I don't know if mentally ill people ought to be barred from dating (either a healthy person or someone who is also experiencing a mental health condition), but I do agree that the line should be drawn when one party is actively suicidal. Rather, I guess that it would be best if both parties were 100% on the same page, otherwise it could become messy. Still, the idea of entering a relationship with the intention of dying together by suicide is one that doesn't really sit well with me. I don't know, it's difficult to say. Relationships have the potential to be quite healing in conjunction with therapy and other positive lifestyle changes, but as you say, should not by the sole motivator. Intrinsic motivation to continue on living is the core of any recovery journey and there is no substitute for it.
In our case, we had left the forum and were pursuing recovery options independently for a few months before officially entering the relationship. While we supported one another's efforts, we also had other projects and goals that we were working toward. We took a risk, and sadly it did not turn out as expected. I suppose that could be said of any relationship, even between two healthy persons.