Story "There is no foster care system" 😒

[sylvey]

I should have been put in foster care from the beginning. It was a very tangible choice the court could have made and would have made if my dad didn't step in. My dad didn't deserve a child. He's narcissistic and abusive, and he makes no effort to hide that fact. I might have touched upon some examples in some of my earlier posts. So with the context of those ones, I'll continue.
One day, I think around the time I was 15 or 16 I had had enough. I told my dad I wanted to be put into foster care. At first, he seemed genuine, asking me if that's what I really wanted. I said yes. He said he'd look into it. He did not. Fast forward a few months later I ask about it again, and he just lies and says that there is no foster care system in our state. I've never heard such bullshit in my life. I knew it was a lie too because one of my friends at the time had just recently been taken in by a foster family, AND the principal at our school had recently taken in a foster child. So yeah. Great job, "dad".

 

[MyTimeIsUp]

I can relate to this. My mum is an abusive narcissist. It is absolutely soul destroying, but they don't care about you. Every little thing is fake about them. Don't fool for it, they will thrive on it.

I'm so sorry you've been through this, I really hope you're able to build yourself back up away from that toxic environment.

Unfortunately, because of the way my mother treated me as a child, and adult (no contact for a short while now and trying to keep it that way), I have had plenty of experience with this type of individual in childhood and adulthood. I'm working on keeping away though, and I hope you can do the same, because all they do is bring you down and they love it - they get a massive kick out of it when you're down, and absolutely hate it if you're happy. Remember the world has to revolve around them, including your own life.

Narcissists don't care about others, they only care about their own needs, and they need someone to feed off of, so that's unfortunately, why your dad did this. To fulfill his selfishness and essentially, to abuse someone.

Narcissists are abusive by nature, and have to be this way to survive. They 100% know what they're doing, don't be fooled into thinking otherwise with their shitty tactics. They are highly manipulative and controlling individuals - this behaviour usually starts in childhood, so by the time they're adults, they've had plenty of time to practise. They don't change. Ever.

You cannot show them the error of their ways either - they think you are the problem, not them, and they will never see differently, even if you had documented proof, they would still deny everything, and make out like you have some vendetta against them or some weird shit they'd make up to make you look like the baddie.