TAW122
Emissary of the right to die.
- Aug 30, 2018
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I know many people have different opinions on whether therapy works for them or not and that's fine. I am not going to dissuade others from ever seeking therapy if that's what they choose, but I will give my two cents on why it is not always the answer and also my experiences with them.
Very oftenly, when people have problems or stuff that bothers them, the mainstream, cliche advice is to seek a counselor, a therapist, seek help and what not. (This thread sums up the sentiment pretty accurately.) It is basically parroted off by so many people that it is rather dismissive and insulting most of the time. People say it without even thinking and some even get very defensive when confronted or called out on it. They then resort to insults that aren't based on evidence but rather just faulty assumptions such as "you haven't found the right one", "you haven't tried your best", "you didn't want to get better". They also assume that people don't know therapy exists, which is really ignorant of them. Not only do we know it exists, some of us have tried it and either got unhelpful or bad results, or ended up with less money than before.
To be fair, therapy can help some people, especially people who lack the ability to process their thoughts and think about the situation that they are faced with. Also to some people who just want to vent and pour out their thoughts, it can be useful for them. However, that is not the case for people who are problem-solving oriented, those with a lot of introspect and perspective already. We already know what we want, we don't need someone to help us 'figure' out something we could have done ourselves (or rather have done so already).
So with that said, here is what helped me (again, I am speaking for myself here). I've identified a problem that I want to solve and then I take steps and measures to achieve that. I didn't need someone to tell me what I already knew as I already knew what I wanted to solve. In fact, I managed to find and apply the solution (successfully) by going about it myself. So here is my story below:
My little story of recovery:
Upon feeling like shit from end of 2018 and even into 2019, I told myself, well I'm going to go and travel and meet someone that I really looked up to, admired and what not. I was scared at first, being a shy person IRL and not knowing what would happen, but nevertheless, I decided to take the plunge. So I set a date a few weeks ahead of time and booked a flight to go meet that special person. I met that special person in person finally and things went really well. I got what I was looking for and she hugged me, which actually did loads to help me emotionally and psychologically. After I went back home, I was no longer actively wanting to die. Originally I set out to die near the end of May 2019, but due to my successful encounter and adventure, I no longer was actively wanting to die.
So in short, meeting someone I really admired and looked up to and receiving a hug from her really made a huge difference for me. It helped give me hope and willingness to live a bit longer in life. I can't say that I enjoy life though, but at least not bad enough to actively want to CTB. Sometimes, a hug from the right person would be the solution (at least for me, in this case it is) rather than countless sessions of therapy, spending possibly hundreds (or thousands) of dollars to cope or get cured.
Very oftenly, when people have problems or stuff that bothers them, the mainstream, cliche advice is to seek a counselor, a therapist, seek help and what not. (This thread sums up the sentiment pretty accurately.) It is basically parroted off by so many people that it is rather dismissive and insulting most of the time. People say it without even thinking and some even get very defensive when confronted or called out on it. They then resort to insults that aren't based on evidence but rather just faulty assumptions such as "you haven't found the right one", "you haven't tried your best", "you didn't want to get better". They also assume that people don't know therapy exists, which is really ignorant of them. Not only do we know it exists, some of us have tried it and either got unhelpful or bad results, or ended up with less money than before.
To be fair, therapy can help some people, especially people who lack the ability to process their thoughts and think about the situation that they are faced with. Also to some people who just want to vent and pour out their thoughts, it can be useful for them. However, that is not the case for people who are problem-solving oriented, those with a lot of introspect and perspective already. We already know what we want, we don't need someone to help us 'figure' out something we could have done ourselves (or rather have done so already).
So with that said, here is what helped me (again, I am speaking for myself here). I've identified a problem that I want to solve and then I take steps and measures to achieve that. I didn't need someone to tell me what I already knew as I already knew what I wanted to solve. In fact, I managed to find and apply the solution (successfully) by going about it myself. So here is my story below:
My little story of recovery:
Upon feeling like shit from end of 2018 and even into 2019, I told myself, well I'm going to go and travel and meet someone that I really looked up to, admired and what not. I was scared at first, being a shy person IRL and not knowing what would happen, but nevertheless, I decided to take the plunge. So I set a date a few weeks ahead of time and booked a flight to go meet that special person. I met that special person in person finally and things went really well. I got what I was looking for and she hugged me, which actually did loads to help me emotionally and psychologically. After I went back home, I was no longer actively wanting to die. Originally I set out to die near the end of May 2019, but due to my successful encounter and adventure, I no longer was actively wanting to die.
So in short, meeting someone I really admired and looked up to and receiving a hug from her really made a huge difference for me. It helped give me hope and willingness to live a bit longer in life. I can't say that I enjoy life though, but at least not bad enough to actively want to CTB. Sometimes, a hug from the right person would be the solution (at least for me, in this case it is) rather than countless sessions of therapy, spending possibly hundreds (or thousands) of dollars to cope or get cured.
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