Therapy can’t fix everyone

[cait_sith]

Psychotherapy should be seen like physiotherapy.
If somebody breaks their leg physiotherapy can help someone regain their leg mobility which might result with them being to walk normally again. It benefits people with damaged legs to regain the use of their legs through exercise.
But nobody would drag somebody with amputated legs to physiotherapy in a hope that their legs will grow back if they do leg exercises.
That's how dragging somebody like me to therapy feels like, or wanting me to go to therapy, like talking to someone grows back parts of my brain that have been amputated and dead forever. But the people who maybe had their leg fractured a bit and can walk again through light exercise are dragging the amputated from their wheelchairs to some exercise coach projecting their healing experiences onto everyone by telling them to go to muh therapy.

 

[chester]

Firstly, I'm sorry it has come to this. I can imagine what you feel like, feeling like there's no hope for a better future is hell.

That said, I reacted with a heart because the way you described it with the physiotherapy analogy is one of the smartest things I've read here in a long time. It paints a very vivid picture of your experience and perspective. I find it very relatable, even though my reasons for feeling this way are completely different from yours.

 

[zekeyaeger]

I feel you. Repeated therapy can be a major humiliating experience when it doesn't do shit.

 

[tss fss]

Again people just overestimate therapy. Therapy is just talking to someone for 45 minutes a week inside a closed room . It cannot give you the emotional saturation that you might lack or solve any past traumas that might still be troubling you.

Add to that that most therapists lack the depth and experience necessary so they just keep regurgitating what they learned in college books only to pass the time during the session.

I think the only area where therapy might be truly helpful is addiction treatment. Even here you need a highly experienced therapist who specializes in the this field.

So always give therapy a shot but keep your expectations modest.

 

[dinosavr]

It's really relatable. I feel like all the money, time and energy invested into therapy is a waste. And I fucking hope I'm wrong tbh.

 

[Leiot]

Therapy is one tool to deal with this. Not the only tool. A lot of mental health care seems to miss that. Some people do better in one-on-one therapy, others in groups, and others with just meds. Personally I like groups & I take meds but I've had some great therapists.

It takes a long time to develop a good relationship with a therapist and if you do it's one of the most intimate relationships you'll ever have. Way past anything romantic.

The person I'm talking to now is ok. I wanted to dump him but my pain doctor asked me to give him a chance. It's been a few months and he's trying, but he'll never be up to one I had a long time ago.

 

[FlufflesAway]

Hm... have you tried breathing? Counting colours? You should practice mindfulness more. Be in the moment. Zen ummmmmmmm~~~

Yea, feels a bit like telling an insomniac to try counting sheep to fall asleep.

 

[cait_sith]

That said, I reacted with a heart because the way you described it with the physiotherapy analogy is one of the smartest things I've read here in a long time. It paints a very vivid picture of your experience and perspective. I find it very relatable, even though my reasons for feeling this way are completely different from yours.

Thank you for the compliment. How are your reasons different if I may ask?

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I agree, therapy simply isn't meant for everybody. I know that therapy isn't meant for me because I'm simply different compared to everybody else. I have a different neurotype and that makes me highly incompatible with most people. I just don't want to go through life and I don't value suffering and hardship unlike how most people do. Most people, including therapists, have this notion that we must try hard and fight no matter what but I don't want to fight, I want to be at peace. Also, I have no motivation to do anything at all and therapists aren't able to comprehend that as they assume that everybody has motivation to do something in life. There's nothing wrong with me for wanting to give up. It's society that's in the wrong for forcing me to do things that I don't want to do. This is basically slavery!

 

[TAW122]

Well said and I've always held the same stance too. I also get annoyed and irritated at mainstream society and many clueless normies for pushing the therapy angle. It doesn't fix everything, it is NOT the panacea that people make it out to be, and of course, the damage done by it (including but not limited to hospitalization, temporary holds, more trauma, more financial burdens, some can be expensive, and loss of dignity and trust if confidentiality is broken, etc.). I've had so much to say that I even wrote a megathread on it in the off topic section (In that megathread I explained why it is a circular loop, catch-22, and the derailment of any topic/issue that a person may be discussing).

Also, I really liked your analogy with physiotherapy as that makes sense because that's exactly what most pro-lifers and pro-therapy people are doing; simply projecting their own experiences and presuming (often incorrectly) that therapy is the answer, all the while ignoring whatever said person is going through, and that is simply just abhorrent.

 

[Done_with_the_world]

I totally agree. I have tried about 5 different therapists, so people in my life can't blame me for not trying hard enough to get better. It sometimes just doesn't work, and sometimes things don't get better. My mom just wants me to get over it, but I have no idea how to do that. If I could, I would, and I don't think I'd be here if I could fix my mind.

 

[divinemistress36]

I have yet to find one therapist that has been able to help me learn to cope with having a brain injury after seeing like 5 different ones. I just see the one I do now cause her energy vibes with mine and insurance pays for it