Sinkinshyp

Sinkinshyp

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@SlowMo & I have discussed this ohh I guess a month or so ago. We are going to try to work on a secret santa- friendship- partner type support system.

This is sort of what @SlowMo and I were discussing. It would work sort of like a secret santa deal. We're working on naming it.

We are taking a list of names of folks who want to be a part of it. Maybe everyone participating vote 1 person to draw names. 1/2 the names would be kept out and 1/2 would be put into a bucket, hat something. The person drawing names would grab 1 name from the left out of bucket- pull a name from bucket and those 2 people are matched. Process completes until all names are matched.

Everyone participating can choose lets draw names once a month or bi weekly whatever. Doing it this way- people are matched together who may never have talked before. They may find a new friend, support person, may have things in common. Than again they may have nothing in common and just say hi good luck wish you happiness. When we decide to draw names again- say in a month they may be matched with someone they develop a great friendship with. It's a good way to get people interacting with those they normally wouldn't, for people who don't reach out in pm's it will help them to do so and hopefully- most will find a new friend support buddy.

There are details we are working on. It will be a little bit as @SlowMo is going through something right now. As we get it together we will keep everyone informed. We may put up some votes to get things together that way everyone has some input as to how this will work as well.

It's about forming new friendships, someone to help support you, to talk to someone when you're having a bad day or a good day, a way to share information mostly about recovery and helping eachother.

As mentioned in a previous post- message myself @Sinkinshyp or @SlowMo to be added to the list. I hope everyone will gain new friends and support from eachother.
 
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BitterlyAlive

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I'm too shy for this, but what a lovely idea :)
 
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Sinkinshyp

Sinkinshyp

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Sep 7, 2020
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I'm too shy for this, but what a lovely idea :)
you're not to shy- you post on forum=) if anything you just might meet someone to say Hello to everyday give it a shot
 
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@SlowMo & I have discussed this ohh I guess a month or so ago. We are going to try to work on a secret santa- friendship- partner type support system.

This is sort of what @SlowMo and I were discussing. It would work sort of like a secret santa deal. We're working on naming it.

We are taking a list of names of folks who want to be a part of it. Maybe everyone participating vote 1 person to draw names. 1/2 the names would be kept out and 1/2 would be put into a bucket, hat something. The person drawing names would grab 1 name from the left out of bucket- pull a name from bucket and those 2 people are matched. Process completes until all names are matched.

Everyone participating can choose lets draw names once a month or bi weekly whatever. Doing it this way- people are matched together who may never have talked before. They may find a new friend, support person, may have things in common. Than again they may have nothing in common and just say hi good luck wish you happiness. When we decide to draw names again- say in a month they may be matched with someone they develop a great friendship with. It's a good way to get people interacting with those they normally wouldn't, for people who don't reach out in pm's it will help them to do so and hopefully- most will find a new friend support buddy.

There are details we are working on. It will be a little bit as @SlowMo is going through something right now. As we get it together we will keep everyone informed. We may put up some votes to get things together that way everyone has some input as to how this will work as well.

It's about forming new friendships, someone to help support you, to talk to someone when you're having a bad day or a good day, a way to share information mostly about recovery and helping eachother.

As mentioned in a previous post- message myself @Sinkinshyp or @SlowMo to be added to the list. I hope everyone will gain new friends and support from eachother.
Love the idea! Count me in!
 
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s-scary.. :shy:
 
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BPD Barbie

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I like the idea, but I'm wayy too awkward talking to new people lol. I hope it takes off though, could be a good way for people to meet new friends and help each other along the road of recovery.
 
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I like it.
 
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When does Christmas officially start?
 
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Sinkinshyp

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When does Christmas officially start?
officially december- but this isnt exactly a christmas thing its just using the words secret santa. SlowMo is going through something. Once we can get the details together it will begin. I hope its a success and it will continue
 
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Bumping this thread up :hug:
 
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I'm game.
 
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I think.... Maybe.... I'd join this... Maybe?
*hides behind huge stuff animal*
 
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This sounds lovely but im scared of the prolifers thinking to join this
 
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I'm interested, but worried that I wouldn't put as much time in as the person I'm paired with would want. I forget about things a lot and I've even been withdrawing from online stuff the last couple of weeks. Could also help with that, though.
 
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I'm a pretty socially awkward person. Even on SS, I usually post whatever comes to my mind, with little to no structure or lack of clarity and usually I struggle to even do that. I'd like to do this, but I'm not sure I'd be able to participate well or efficiently.
 
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I'm interested, but worried that I wouldn't put as much time in as the person I'm paired with would want. I forget about things a lot and I've even been withdrawing from online stuff the last couple of weeks. Could also help with that, though.

I'm the same. There's been alot of talk of prolifers and trolls on the forum lately too, so that's a worry. Part of me desperately want to connect with somebody but I don't know how. Part of it is I'm just not a very trusting person. And I have weird moodswings, and I'm afraid I would flake out on somebody
 
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I'd join, but I wouldn't want to bum out some youngster, who opens their SS Christmas surprise to find they've been matched with Great Grandpa. Kind of like opening a Christmas package filled with socks.
 
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who opens their SS Christmas surprise to find they've been matched with Great Grandpa
This made me laugh. Don't be so hard on yourself! I like to hear what you have to say. :)
 
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Sinkinshyp

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Sep 7, 2020
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I'd join, but I wouldn't want to bum out some youngster, who opens their SS Christmas surprise to find they've been matched with Great Grandpa. Kind of like opening a Christmas package filled with socks.
it's not a christmas surprise! its about building new friendships. You know I <3 you as a friend. You have so much advice and compassion to help someone especially someone else who has bi polar! think about that my friend. You did get a little giggle out of me though

To everyone thinking they're to shy or wont be able to communicate- all you can do is try it. I'm not trying to force you but you might make a good friend support buddy for recovery. No pressure on anyone.

ALSO make sure to MESSAGE myself or @SlowMo - right now as he has posted SlowMo he is on a starvation for a good cause. I haven't seen him on in a couple of days so maybe message me and when he is feeling better I can catch him up.
Thank you
your friend
Ship
 
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Astronomer

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Knowing my luck I'd probably be matched with a serial killer.

In that case, sign me up.

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Panna

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I'd join, but I wouldn't want to bum out some youngster, who opens their SS Christmas surprise to find they've been matched with Great Grandpa. Kind of like opening a Christmas package filled with socks.
Grandpas are full of knowledge and wisdom, they'd be lucky!
 
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sadworld

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Interesting idea to be honest.
 
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Panna

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I'd be interested, but I dunno, I'm not too good at keeping up relations. This is a wonderful way to better connect the community though.
 
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I'm interested! Count me in :happy:
 
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Sinkinshyp

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@SlowMo & I should have everything together in 1 week. So be ready to be matched up tuesday of next week 11/24/20202. If you have NOT sent a message to @SlowMo or myself asking to be added please do so. I will go through this posting to make sure we have everyone on the list as well.

Please don't be shy- the more we have involved the better! The only obligation on your part will be reaching out to your partner at least to say hello. Hopefully you 2 will find somethings in common and be a support system and new friends. I think at this time- we will re-do matching either bi-weekly or monthly. It's stuff we need to work out. So if your first match did not result in a friendship or someone you have things in common with please, give it another shot.


To those worried about profilers, abusive, predatory type people- there will be rules set. We are going to make sure everyone is protected. So do not hesitate to join out of fear. Your private information is YOURS! don't share it until you become very good friends if at all.

Get your names sent to myself or @SlowMo please. Lets make this a megathread for recovery!

Thank you everyone
Your friend
ship
 
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