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Accentuate the Positive
- Sep 19, 2023
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So yesterday after work we had this "meet-and-greet" for some summer interns. These types of gatherings are normal in my field. Drinks and finger foods, you walk around to the different circles and try to talk to people. You know, you have to be 'on' and contribute.
I hate that shit. Always have. As long as I can remember I'd be the one kind of awkwardly hovering on the outside of the circle, and there's not really quite room to step in.
That's how things always were for me growing up. As soon as I transferred to public school. I'd be kinda associated with a group, but not really in it. On the edge of the pictures. If there were one too few seats, I'd have to go find another group. I'd get invited to some stuff, but I had to nose in and basically ask to be asked. I had it pointed out to me one time, that the people I wanted to be my friends just weren't and didn't think of me that way. Middle school, high school, uni.
God it's an awful feeling. It's such a passive form of rejection. It keeps you there in case there's need of a substitute sometime. If no one else is around, you can be fallen back to. You, a person. Your whole existence relegated to backup. It's like the friend equivalent of the "friend zone", as weird as that sounds. The backup zone. It has the same characteristics as the romantic friend zone. There's no way to permanently move up. You will wait there to get your 5 seconds in the game then get back to the bench. There's no criteria or metric you can hit, because fundamentally you aren't as appealing for whatever reason, and once that impression is made, that you're the 'great value' person, you can't convince someone you're just as good as the name brand.
Mmmm. Just thinking about it and writing this out. . . what a great pit in my stomach. I haven't felt this strongly in a while, even after my accident yesterday I was just numb. The hurt is something special. Oooh man I used to feel like this all the time. Throbbing. It's destructive, so I should pull out, but it's kinda like a drug. I sure am some sort of sick fuck.
I hate that shit. Always have. As long as I can remember I'd be the one kind of awkwardly hovering on the outside of the circle, and there's not really quite room to step in.
That's how things always were for me growing up. As soon as I transferred to public school. I'd be kinda associated with a group, but not really in it. On the edge of the pictures. If there were one too few seats, I'd have to go find another group. I'd get invited to some stuff, but I had to nose in and basically ask to be asked. I had it pointed out to me one time, that the people I wanted to be my friends just weren't and didn't think of me that way. Middle school, high school, uni.
God it's an awful feeling. It's such a passive form of rejection. It keeps you there in case there's need of a substitute sometime. If no one else is around, you can be fallen back to. You, a person. Your whole existence relegated to backup. It's like the friend equivalent of the "friend zone", as weird as that sounds. The backup zone. It has the same characteristics as the romantic friend zone. There's no way to permanently move up. You will wait there to get your 5 seconds in the game then get back to the bench. There's no criteria or metric you can hit, because fundamentally you aren't as appealing for whatever reason, and once that impression is made, that you're the 'great value' person, you can't convince someone you're just as good as the name brand.
Mmmm. Just thinking about it and writing this out. . . what a great pit in my stomach. I haven't felt this strongly in a while, even after my accident yesterday I was just numb. The hurt is something special. Oooh man I used to feel like this all the time. Throbbing. It's destructive, so I should pull out, but it's kinda like a drug. I sure am some sort of sick fuck.