Venting The last straw

[Thankyoufortoday]

I can't do this anymore. My boyfriend demanded I quit playing the sport I love since it takes too much time away from him. We live together and I'm scared of what will happen to me if I tell him no. Rugby was my last source of happiness, literally the only reason I'm still awake and breathing on this planet. If he really demands I do this he's coming home to my dead body someday. I can't take this life anymore with all the stress and being trapped in this prison with him and my last escape taken away. Time to start forming a plan to ctb

 

[FuneralCry]

It sounds really awful being trapped in that situation with someone like that, other people should have no right to demand such things. But anyway I wish you the best of luck.

 

[Rational man]

That sounds awful. Can you both find a compromise by talking it out?

 

[Thankyoufortoday]

That sounds awful. Can you both find a compromise by talking it out?

I tried offering every compromise possible but none were acceptable apparently. Quitting is the only option to him

 

[missingpeace]

What will happen if you don't listen to him? If this means so much to you that you would choose death over quitting rugby then I would just say no to the relationship.

 

[manocsak]

Quitting sports, quitting happiness, doesn't looks the right solution, maybe he should find that extra time to support you visit you at rugby practice/games. Ofc probably there is a lot there to your relationship, but from that amount of information, he should grow the hell up, and fast...

 

[SeeminglyFine]

What do you mean you are scared of what will happen to you if you tell him no?

Sounds like are in an emotionally draining relationship and not doing yourself a favor, if i were to assume he has a legitimate reason for asking you to quit then i still cant see how being in an unaccepting/unsupportive relationship is worth being suicidal

In a relationship you probably you have to make a some small sacrifices for the other person but thats only if you should choose to and not forced to, and you get to choose, and expect the other person to make make sacrifices for you aswell, all while working towards making the best of the circumstances and the least sacrifices as possible, this isnt a dominance exerting game.

It makes more sense to expect your boyfriend to come watch you play, that is if he appreciates your passion and wants to support you...

But then again who am i to speak,
this is just me being open and direct about my thoughts

 

[StruggleWithin]

He sounds unsupportive of your passion(s). And without any other information, it seems a toxic relationship. I would second the advice of member missingpeace, in my own words, dump him. Live your life for you and seek a partner that fits into that life.

 

[Givenuponlife]

Why quit the sport you love for his sake? If he is to be your boyfriend, surely he'd want to see you happy and support you playing rugby. It seems like you both need to come to a compromise which doesn't involve you giving up your sport, or you need to reconsider if this relationship is right for you.

Has he expressed negative opinions on your other interests?

 

[Tartuffe]

No one should be telling you if you can or cant do a hobby or sport or whatever. Its controlling behaviour and you're better off single and enjoying yourself than thinking you're with someone you love but will always have an element of anger for making you give up something you clearly love.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Sorry, but you're in a crappy relationship if your boyfriend won't support your passions because he's not getting enough "me" time. Run. Run. Run. And this is coming from a guy.

 

[StarlightDreamer]

Yeah... Time to cut your losses and run. You deserve better.

 

[Thankyoufortoday]

As much as I'd love to just run, I can't. I worry for my safety. He's hurt me before

 

[StruggleWithin]

Domestic Abuse is not just "a man beating a woman," it is a spectrum with many intermingling spectrums; like anything else in life. I don't know from personal experience, but I can appreciate the gravity of what it means to over come that type of situation. Don't settle. Don't accept defeat. Find a way.