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Death_Loverr

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Aug 14, 2019
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A lot of people want the best method and by ''best'' they usually mean painless and instant but 90% percent of them forget the greatest and the most important factor that make any suicide method the best... It's simply the REASON.
You cannot fight your SI without having a good reason behind your personal decision.
Sooo the first thing you need to do is grab a pen and a piece of paper and write down the reasons why you want to end your life. They should be convincing and good reasons.. After doing this you will release that its both a therapy session and a way to make your fear of ending it all disappear.
**Have you ever wondered why some people doesn't even pick a painless or instant method? They just do it without even carrying about the results.. Its simply because they have strong reasons behind their decision.
So find your reasons. (English is not my native language)
 
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DreamCatcher

DreamCatcher

Still searching
Jun 18, 2019
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Good point, people need a reason to CTB which most do have. But they also need to get rid of the reasons to stay.

Both need to be done to be clear and free.
 
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SinisterKid

SinisterKid

Visionary
Jun 1, 2019
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I already know my reasons. What would writing them down achieve apart from wasting more paper which probably means another chunk of forest being chopped down to make said waste of paper.

Nope, sorry, waste of my time and effort really, to add to the waste of paper.
 
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Death_Loverr

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I already know my reasons. What would writing them down achieve apart from wasting more paper which probably means another chunk of forest being chopped down to make said waste of paper.

Nope, sorry, waste of my time and effort really, to add to the waste of paper.
I'm actually talking to those who still doesn't know their reasons.. Not you Mr. Know it all. Because writing helps the person to extract a specific idea from many. Think before you write :)
 
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SinisterKid

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Jun 1, 2019
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The think before you write certainly applies to yourself. If you explained who the post was aimed at, you might have saved me the bother of replying, so next thread, think before you write!

I am not a know it all, just a pain in the ass for the ones who dont think before they write :wink:
 
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blue

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Jul 21, 2019
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A lot of people want the best method and by ''best'' they usually mean painless and instant but 90% percent of them forget the greatest and the most important factor that make any suicide method the best... It's simply the REASON.
You cannot fight your SI without having a good reason behind your personal decision.
Sooo the first thing you need to do is grab a pen and a piece of paper and write down the reasons why you want to end your life. They should be convincing and good reasons.. After doing this you will release that its both a therapy session and a way to make your fear of ending it all disappear.
**Have you ever wondered why some people doesn't even pick a painless or instant method? They just do it without even carrying about the results.. Its simply because they have strong reasons behind their decision.
So find your reasons. (English is not my native language)

I think it is a good idea to make a list of why you want to end your life along with a list for why you might want to stick around. This would be the best therapy session, as you can really compare and contrast reasons.
 
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Donewith_

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Sep 28, 2018
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Not only about deciding this..
But, i write down things when i need to make a decision and my head is too clumsy to think through things.
Overthinking is a big problem for me ..
And writing down things helps me cut the crap and only see whats important.
It helps me to get out of overthinking.
 
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Death_Loverr

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Aug 14, 2019
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The think before you write certainly applies to yourself. If you explained who the post was aimed at, you might have saved me the bother of replying, so next thread, think before you write!

I am not a know it all, just a pain in the ass for the ones who dont think before they write :wink:
What about you saving your time by not replying to something ''YOU'' think is not so important to you? Anyway, Have a great day!
 
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Baskol1

Baskol1

No life, no problems
Aug 11, 2019
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I have actually several reasons.
 
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MG_39

Physically ill suffering couch potato
Jul 5, 2019
211
In reality it's not as simple as that. Let's pretend I had a "self destruct button" I wouldn't hesitate for a second to push it.

The reason I haven't ended it yet. I'm scared of failure and not being able to leave, I got ONE chance.
 
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Taki

Taki

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Jul 30, 2019
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I've thought something similar, but it has more to do with clarifying when I'll do it, not why. I already know why. The issue for a lot of people is that we can't define at what point life is finally shit enough for us to end our own lives. I've been close and am currently very close, but not quite.
 
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color_me_gone

color_me_gone

Sun is rising
Dec 27, 2018
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I agree that writing things down does a LOT of good, even if it seems like a waste of time.
I also agree that two lists are needed, for and against.
Then study the lists carefully.
There is something about seeing things in writing that re-enforces our comprehension.
 
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Partial-Elf

Partial-Elf

Eternal Oblivion
Dec 26, 2018
461
To Be:
  • Family and a couple friends will be sad
  • Work community will be damaged
Not To Be:
  • It's what I want and it's my life and body
  • Nothing in life appeals to me and I still have decades left
  • I'm in extreme mental anguish daily and no one empathizes
  • I struggle to communicate the pain I'm in
  • Treatment options seem shitty at best
 
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Baskol1

No life, no problems
Aug 11, 2019
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To Be:
  • Family and a couple friends will be sad
  • Work community will be damaged
Not To Be:
  • It's what I want
  • Nothing in life appeals to me and I still have decades left
  • I'm in extreme mental anguish daily and no one empathizes
  • Treatment options seem shitty at best

beople dont really care about anyway.
 
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