Venting “Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem”

[Jason0941]

There are 2 things that I've always wanted to say to the people who tell me this.

1: "Having a permanent solution for chronic depression is exactly the fuckin point of committing suicide!"

2: "How do you know that depression is temporary? Are you aware of some permanent cure that's been recently invented? Or are you falsely equating the mental illness of chronic depression with the regular emotion of sadness, and assuming that because sadness subsides: depression will do the same?
You cannot see my future; you cannot see the day when my chronic depression ends. So, you have no place to say that it's temporary."

 

[LigottiIsRight]

People who spread that infamous platitude don't understand death

 

[[Lord Void]]

It could be a solution to a temporary problem but not always. It shouldn't be used as a blanket statement to dismiss how people are feeling. The problem could last so long that it might as well be permanent or maybe it is permanent.

Depression is a complex thing that works differently for different people. Some people are indeed able to overcome it or find a way to live with it. Just because someone can doesn't mean somebody else will too.

 

[dontwakemeup]

I simply hate that phrase and I wish people stop using it! If you don't understand someone who is suicidal then simply listen to them and try to understand them. People suffer so long and usually in silence because society has told us that suicide is wrong, so we stay quiet. People fail to realize that these aren't temporary problems, we have suffered for so long and we are tired of being in mental and also physical pain like myself. I think people believe we have a bad day and snapped and try to ctb, that is so far from the truth! I know there are a lot of lurkers out here reading and my only hope is they learn from what we write in hopes of helping others and understanding us. And please stop saying this stupid phase to us!!

 

[MatiSendiri]

Still hate this statement tbh. Every situation is always different. Some people have chronic problem that makes them always suicidal. I'm not going to judge them for their problem.

And also, define temporary and permanent. I'm not going to have chronic pain for 5 years to know that it's permanent and suicide is the only way out.

 

[FuneralCry]

For me a permanent solution is all I want, I don't see what's supposedly so bad about never suffering in this torturous, futile existence ever again, in fact such is all that's positive to me.

 

[w1ngedpearl]

Some people are emotionally numb. Depression is more deep and complex than simple sadness. Sure, there are solutions for problems but it's not about solution — it's about how a person feels and what will be the best choice for him.
I hate these stupid, cruel, fake caring phrases about suicide — "it's for weak people", "it's selfish", "other people have much worse situations", "you're just lazy", "just find a job to get rid of these stupid thoughts", "it's not the right way", etc, etc. It comes from people who have no idea how suffocating it feels to live with depression. Also, no one asked to be born, so at least give us a freaking choice about our own bodies.

 

[sanctionedusage]

love this phrase, helps me single out the irl chatbots from the sentient

 

[batmanreal]

i was just about to make a thread about this saying, lol. anyways, that phrase just makes ctb more appealing imo.
let's play along for a moment and act like all of our issues are temporary: you're telling me that i can PERMANENTLY rid myself of all my issues and every inconvenience... and that's supposed to be a bad thing?
struggling is just another part of living, there's no living without struggling—even if the struggles are minimal and temporary. life is a never ending string of back to back struggles. why wouldn't i want to rid myself of that shit? i guess the implication is that, in life, there are positive things that overpower those inevitable struggles; but that's just not the case for me and it never will be.