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- May 30, 2024
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My boyfriend is blackmailing me because I don't want to be with him and also saying I have to pay him to leave me alone (I'm in debt) but he will ruin my life if not which isn't giving me much choice.
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I'm pretty sure blackmailing isn't allowed, could the police help you?
Also that doesn't sound like your boyfriend, more like your ex-boyfriend.
The police are useless with domestic abuse. The blackmail isn't anything I've done criminal, it's more so he is blackmailing me with private info and pictures or to contact my family to cause disruption. I've tried to get a restraining order but it's still in the court system unfortunately.Crazy asshole. So sorry you ran into one.
I want you to take a deep breath. His whole plan is built around scaring you into doing what he wants, and the pressure is designed to take away your ability to think through things and come up with a proper solution.
Are you in an area with a functioning legal system, and do you have evidence of the blackmail? I don't want to pry into what the blackmail is, but I assume it is nothing that would get you in criminal trouble. As a US attorney I'll tell you a competent lawyer around here could get you a solid protective order and hit him with a hard enough threat that he would back off. I understand that you are in debt, so hiring a private attorney may not be an option, but there may be some programs in your area to help with abuse victims (which is what you are. Your "boyfriend" is threatening you. It's abuse. He's an abuser.) Someone at your local courthouse may be able to push you in the right direction.
Don't let an awful person force you to ctb. Ctb is a personal choice you should make for yourself. He deserves hell for trying to do this to you.
The police are useless with domestic abuse. The blackmail isn't anything I've done criminal, it's more so he is blackmailing me with private info and pictures or to contact my family to cause disruption. I've tried to get a restraining order but it's still in the court system unfortunately.
I'm so sorry that is your experience. It's why I give so many disclaimers: the utility of the legal system varies so much place to place. If you came in when I was a clerk we would've given you a temporary restraining order no questions asked and then likely extended it at the hearing which would've been within a month, probably a couple weeks.The police are useless with domestic abuse. The blackmail isn't anything I've done criminal, it's more so he is blackmailing me with private info and pictures or to contact my family to cause disruption. I've tried to get a restraining order but it's still in the court system unfortunately.
No he's threatening to leak pictures of me to my employer, friends and family.How bad is what he has on you? Is it anything illegal?
I have work commitments so I can't moveIf the police are of no use, try to keep him quiet for a while until you can escape to another city or country. Suicide is something desired and personal that depends only on our will and not on blackmail. Your boyfriend is stealing your life and if your existence is important to you, then you have to defend it from everything and everyone.
The non-consensual distribution of intimate material is against the law (at least where I'm from). I agree with @Nikitatos . You should contact a lawyer about this and see what can be done to stop this. You should also make sure to let your family know about this too (assuming that you come from a loving one), just in case. If you are able to, maybe look into filing a restraining order against him.No he's threatening to leak pictures of me to my employer, friends and family.