BlueWidow
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- Oct 6, 2019
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I just wondered if anyone else here has had any strange experiences in therapy.
The reason I ask is because I moved to the place where I live now about a year ago. For all that time, I've resisted going to a doctor because I just don't trust doctors at all. However, my sister-in-law has been bugging me all that time to go to a doctor, so I finally relented in early September and went to one basically to get her off my back. Just as I expected, this doctor didn't really do a whole lot to help me. He put me on Wellbutrin (which hasn't been making me feel any better, but has been giving me all sorts of horrible side effects) and he told me I should go and see a therapist. I've been seeing therapists off and on for the past 37 years. I don't really think seeing one more therapist is going to do much to help me.
It did get me thinking about some of the stranger experiences I've had in therapy though, so I thought I'd share a couple of them with you.
Both of these experiences just happen to be about my mother. My mother died when I was 3 years old of breast cancer and I have no memories of her when she was alive. My first memory is of being at her funeral. My whole life I've had all kinds of questions I wish I could ask her. I've also missed her and felt an excruciating pain for my whole life due to her absence. The following is two examples of ways in which therapists thought they could help me with these problems.
One therapist wanted me to lie on the couch in her office and put a scarf over my face. She wanted me to ask myself questions and then pretend like I was my mother in her coffin answering the questions.
First of all, this doesn't help me because I find it a little bit creepy. Secondly, the whole point is that I don't know what my mother would say because I don't know anything about her, except what other people have told me. I have no firsthand knowledge of how she would answer my questions. That's kind of why they've gone unanswered all these years.
A different therapist told me the following story about why missing my mother and feeling sad about her death is a bad thing.
She said, " What if your mother is up in heaven and she has a lantern. The only way she can move around and fly with the other angels is if the light in her lantern comes on. However, as long as there is someone on earth missing her and feeling sad about her death, the light in her lantern won't come on and, therefore, she won't be able to fly with the rest of the angels".
The implication of the story is that because I am missing my mother and feeling sad about her death, I am causing her to not be able to fly free with the other angels, and therefore I should feel guilty about missing her because I'm holding her back with my sadness.
First of all, I don't understand how trying to make me feel guilty about missing my mother is supposed to help me. Secondly, I just think this is a strange story. I've never heard anything like it in my life. I'm just wondering if it's just me, or do other people have weird experiences with therapists too.
The reason I ask is because I moved to the place where I live now about a year ago. For all that time, I've resisted going to a doctor because I just don't trust doctors at all. However, my sister-in-law has been bugging me all that time to go to a doctor, so I finally relented in early September and went to one basically to get her off my back. Just as I expected, this doctor didn't really do a whole lot to help me. He put me on Wellbutrin (which hasn't been making me feel any better, but has been giving me all sorts of horrible side effects) and he told me I should go and see a therapist. I've been seeing therapists off and on for the past 37 years. I don't really think seeing one more therapist is going to do much to help me.
It did get me thinking about some of the stranger experiences I've had in therapy though, so I thought I'd share a couple of them with you.
Both of these experiences just happen to be about my mother. My mother died when I was 3 years old of breast cancer and I have no memories of her when she was alive. My first memory is of being at her funeral. My whole life I've had all kinds of questions I wish I could ask her. I've also missed her and felt an excruciating pain for my whole life due to her absence. The following is two examples of ways in which therapists thought they could help me with these problems.
One therapist wanted me to lie on the couch in her office and put a scarf over my face. She wanted me to ask myself questions and then pretend like I was my mother in her coffin answering the questions.
First of all, this doesn't help me because I find it a little bit creepy. Secondly, the whole point is that I don't know what my mother would say because I don't know anything about her, except what other people have told me. I have no firsthand knowledge of how she would answer my questions. That's kind of why they've gone unanswered all these years.
A different therapist told me the following story about why missing my mother and feeling sad about her death is a bad thing.
She said, " What if your mother is up in heaven and she has a lantern. The only way she can move around and fly with the other angels is if the light in her lantern comes on. However, as long as there is someone on earth missing her and feeling sad about her death, the light in her lantern won't come on and, therefore, she won't be able to fly with the rest of the angels".
The implication of the story is that because I am missing my mother and feeling sad about her death, I am causing her to not be able to fly free with the other angels, and therefore I should feel guilty about missing her because I'm holding her back with my sadness.
First of all, I don't understand how trying to make me feel guilty about missing my mother is supposed to help me. Secondly, I just think this is a strange story. I've never heard anything like it in my life. I'm just wondering if it's just me, or do other people have weird experiences with therapists too.