DaughterOfSekhmet
We are made of stardust
- Jan 27, 2022
- 6
Hello everyone.
This is my introduction here, as well as the description on my profile page.
I found this forum just some hours ago, and I am so grateful for its existence.
I am a 44 year old woman from Sweden who have battled depression and anxiety since my early teens, and in 2011 I was diagnosed with depression, general anxiety disorder with anxiety attacks, as well as CPTSD (complex post traumatic stress disorder).
My childhood was difficult, as I lived in a family ruled by my very controlling narcissistic mother and enabling father.
I was severely bullied during my school years, from the age of six, when I went to preschool, and up to when I was fifteen years of age.
At eighteen I married a man with a very rare hereditary blood disease (an unspecified kind of severe hereditary anaemia). He requires regular blood transfusions to remain alive, and during the years, his condition has worsened, so much that in 2002, he applied for disability, which every Swedish citizen has the right to do because of the tax funded social security system, and in 2003 he applied for handicap assistance.
He is wheelchair bound now, since 2003, and now has to receive transfusions every three weeks instead of every fourth month.
We had to fight a very steep uphill fight for his right to handicap assistance, and were met with many obstacles and suspicion, but in 2004 he was granted his help, and could employ me as his main assistant (50 hours a week) and another person who worked half time (25 hours).
We bought our first apartment in 2006 and in 2010, we were told his right to assistance was to be reevaluated.
This is when my accelerated decent into severe depression and anxiety began.
I've seen a psychologist and psychiatrist since early 2011,and have been on antidepressants and anti anxiety medication since then.
And on the morning of the 13th of December (in Sweden, this is a special day with happy celebrating, called "Lucia"), the administrator handling his case, called and told him he had no longer any right to any help from the system, and that he had to apply for handicap assistance from the municipality of the town in which we reside.
He did so, and has received half of the time of handicap assistance he got from the government from the municipality since 2011, and has had to go through extensive and exhausting re-evaluations every two years since then, each time with the horrible uncertainty of not knowing whether or not he was going to lose his help or live with some kind of human dignity for two more years.
This has taken its toll on both of us.
Not only does he have to live with a severe disease and the uncertainty of a significantly shortened life span and his disability, he also has to live with the uncertainty that he can lose his help at any time, but also that if he loses this help, I will have to find another job and leave him alone for hours at a time, during which he is almost helpless.
If I don't find a job, we have no income.
No income, no home, no food, no health care. Nothing.
Today, he received the latest decision on his application for assistance, and he was again denied everything.
Everything.
The municipality even had the gall to offer him home help for the elderly, where a multitude of persons who do not know who he is or what he needs will come at certain intervals and maybe help him to get the floor vacuumed and the clothes washed, for a hefty fee, of course.
We will definitely appeal and do everything we can to make the municipality change their decision, but I am at the point of breaking.
I have fought for him and for me for twenty years, battling the authorities, and since 2011 I've been working much more than 80 hours a week (with pay for 38 hours a week, and no additional help), with no vacation.
Now, we face this.
I am literally at the end of my rope.
I love life, and I am not going to do anything rash, I am a meticulous planner and intend to do everything to get through this, but if things get too unbearable, I will end my life, after having made sure everything is well planned, carried out, and my last wishes written down.
I have considered many different ways of ending my life, and I own two self deliverance books. (I don't know if I am allowed to write the titles, so I will leave that for now.)
I am new to all abbreviations here, and don't really understand them.
I don't know what else to write here, and I don't know if this is a cry for help or just confirmation or understanding of my problems.
Love //
Daughter of Sekhmet
This is my introduction here, as well as the description on my profile page.
I found this forum just some hours ago, and I am so grateful for its existence.
I am a 44 year old woman from Sweden who have battled depression and anxiety since my early teens, and in 2011 I was diagnosed with depression, general anxiety disorder with anxiety attacks, as well as CPTSD (complex post traumatic stress disorder).
My childhood was difficult, as I lived in a family ruled by my very controlling narcissistic mother and enabling father.
I was severely bullied during my school years, from the age of six, when I went to preschool, and up to when I was fifteen years of age.
At eighteen I married a man with a very rare hereditary blood disease (an unspecified kind of severe hereditary anaemia). He requires regular blood transfusions to remain alive, and during the years, his condition has worsened, so much that in 2002, he applied for disability, which every Swedish citizen has the right to do because of the tax funded social security system, and in 2003 he applied for handicap assistance.
He is wheelchair bound now, since 2003, and now has to receive transfusions every three weeks instead of every fourth month.
We had to fight a very steep uphill fight for his right to handicap assistance, and were met with many obstacles and suspicion, but in 2004 he was granted his help, and could employ me as his main assistant (50 hours a week) and another person who worked half time (25 hours).
We bought our first apartment in 2006 and in 2010, we were told his right to assistance was to be reevaluated.
This is when my accelerated decent into severe depression and anxiety began.
I've seen a psychologist and psychiatrist since early 2011,and have been on antidepressants and anti anxiety medication since then.
And on the morning of the 13th of December (in Sweden, this is a special day with happy celebrating, called "Lucia"), the administrator handling his case, called and told him he had no longer any right to any help from the system, and that he had to apply for handicap assistance from the municipality of the town in which we reside.
He did so, and has received half of the time of handicap assistance he got from the government from the municipality since 2011, and has had to go through extensive and exhausting re-evaluations every two years since then, each time with the horrible uncertainty of not knowing whether or not he was going to lose his help or live with some kind of human dignity for two more years.
This has taken its toll on both of us.
Not only does he have to live with a severe disease and the uncertainty of a significantly shortened life span and his disability, he also has to live with the uncertainty that he can lose his help at any time, but also that if he loses this help, I will have to find another job and leave him alone for hours at a time, during which he is almost helpless.
If I don't find a job, we have no income.
No income, no home, no food, no health care. Nothing.
Today, he received the latest decision on his application for assistance, and he was again denied everything.
Everything.
The municipality even had the gall to offer him home help for the elderly, where a multitude of persons who do not know who he is or what he needs will come at certain intervals and maybe help him to get the floor vacuumed and the clothes washed, for a hefty fee, of course.
We will definitely appeal and do everything we can to make the municipality change their decision, but I am at the point of breaking.
I have fought for him and for me for twenty years, battling the authorities, and since 2011 I've been working much more than 80 hours a week (with pay for 38 hours a week, and no additional help), with no vacation.
Now, we face this.
I am literally at the end of my rope.
I love life, and I am not going to do anything rash, I am a meticulous planner and intend to do everything to get through this, but if things get too unbearable, I will end my life, after having made sure everything is well planned, carried out, and my last wishes written down.
I have considered many different ways of ending my life, and I own two self deliverance books. (I don't know if I am allowed to write the titles, so I will leave that for now.)
I am new to all abbreviations here, and don't really understand them.
I don't know what else to write here, and I don't know if this is a cry for help or just confirmation or understanding of my problems.
Love //
Daughter of Sekhmet