Some people just dont get better?

[whyidon'tknow]

I've been told it's all in the mind, everything we need to fix ourselves is already inside of us.

But what if I'm just tired?
What if I don't want to try?
What if I just want to give up leave?

That's my problem, something I've come to truly appreciate.

I don't want to get better.

I don't want to partake in this system. I don't wanna play by all these stupid and often contrary social rules. I don't wanna spend most of my life working for just enough to survive and then being told "you got it pretty good". I don't wanna have to make friends when the reality is friends can just leave at any moment and the illusion is broken.

I don't want to be taken advantage of, judged, misunderstood, assumed, yelled at, and left.

I'm brought into this world without permission so why can't I leave?

I used to think I would stay just so I don't hurt people. At this point too many of the people I stayed for have left me so what's even the point of following that logic?


Don't even get me started on the solution of "oh just talk to someone, they can help" it's complete bullshit. I don't think I can truly trust anyone anymore.


Anyways rant over, I'm sure you guys can relate.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I do relate and your feelings are valid. There's nothing wrong with not wanting to be better. There's a lot of indoctrination during childhood that is presented in movies and TV shows which state things like "always keep on fighting" and "never give up" but, honestly, there is nothing wrong in giving up. We all have to die in the end anyway so what's the point in continuing this life if we don't want to? I don't see a point. It isn't cowardly or weak to give up because life isn't easy in the first place. It's difficult, extremely difficult

 

[Forever Sleep]

I completely agree with you. Nothing is likely to get better unless the person truly wants it to. So much so, that they're willing to put in enormous amounts of effort and put themselves in challenging situations which may even make them feel worse in the short term. All in the faint hope of achieving longer term ease. Some may still see the value in doing that and- good luck to them but, not all of us will.

Maybe some of us could improve our situations. I don't think it's impossible. Neither though do I think we are all 100% fixable though. We are mortal biological entities that degrade over time. We live in societies that aren't perfect and require money to get by in. A whole load of our problems are only partly solveable.

Someone injured in an accident that loses a limb can't grow it back. Maybe they can get a very good prosthetic but it may still limit them from what they were able to or hoped to do. Maybe they'll be happy with that but, maybe they won't. How is it reasonable to insist they 'should' be ok with what they now have?

No one ought to be told they 'should' be ok with what they have. That they should fight to keep it or that they should be grateful for it. Fine if people genuinely feel those things but ultimately, you shouldn't force life with all its challenges on a sentient being and tell them how to feel about it. Ultimately- you can't. We feel what we feel. Some people simply feel so unhappy and so tired and have already experienced so much that they simply don't want to experience any more.

 

[dragonofenvy]

A lot of people I have met seem to not be able to accept the fact that some people are treated unfairly. Some people are abused as kids. Some people are born with a disability or some perceived flaw that makes others thing it's acceptable to treat them poorly. Some people are unfortunate that their life is good, but yet, they still feel miserable when they think they shouldn't. Perhaps they simply haven't yet identified the problem?

The people I mentioned who have a hard time comprehending this fact aren't like you and I. They haven't experienced anything close to what we have and likely never will. People seem to have the idea that life is like a movie or story. Where the characters all go through a vicious struggle but in the end if all they do is keep persevering they will get through it.

That worked for them. Because it worked for them, they naively think it works for everyone else. Some people try to persevere, but there's far too much bullshit to wade through. Eventually, your brain realizes that it isn't worth the effort. Trying and failing over and over again makes it worse. That's why your brain tells you to stop. Because it works.

And yet, we don't have the right to take agency of our own lives and choose to give up. We're forced to keep going no matter how much pain it causes. A cog in the machine, because that's all they think we are no matter how good their intentions may seem. It's hard for me to feel grateful for what I have when I feel miserable, for example. Sure, I'm well aware that 99.99% of human history, and a good 85% or so people (and this is being generous, it's probably higher) in the world right now have it worse than me. Does that change the fact that I feel miserable? No. It's only a way to try to brush aside how you and I feel. Guilt tripping won't make us feel better. I don't know why people do it.

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

I've been told it's all in the mind, everything we need to fix ourselves is already inside of us.

But what if I'm just tired?
What if I don't want to try?
What if I just want to give up leave?

That's my problem, something I've come to truly appreciate.

I don't want to get better.

I don't want to partake in this system. I don't wanna play by all these stupid and often contrary social rules. I don't wanna spend most of my life working for just enough to survive and then being told "you got it pretty good". I don't wanna have to make friends when the reality is friends can just leave at any moment and the illusion is broken.

I don't want to be taken advantage of, judged, misunderstood, assumed, yelled at, and left.

I'm brought into this world without permission so why can't I leave?

I used to think I would stay just so I don't hurt people. At this point too many of the people I stayed for have left me so what's even the point of following that logic?


Don't even get me started on the solution of "oh just talk to someone, they can help" it's complete bullshit. I don't think I can truly trust anyone anymore.


Anyways rant over, I'm sure you guys can relate.

I love everything you have said. That is why I your post. Not because everything you have gone through.
I feel exactly the same. This isn't worth it. We should be allowed to skip to the end.