Help social distancing is going to send me to bad places

[willitpass]

i've been trying to go into recovery again after trying back in February during a relapse but everything with the Coronavirus is driving me up the walls and making me so anxious. i'm scared it's gonna put me in a bad place. i've been making sure to get dressed every day and go outside for a walk. i shower every day and have been knitting and reading and baking. but just the idea of things not being available to me is so triggering and i don't know what else to do...

 

[Blu_1]

At least a few other members(including myself) feel similarly. I think I recall a thread about recovery major setback.

I was going to give solid part-time employment a try after a long gap only to find out 1)places are closed or 2)hiring situation isn't looking up or both. So I have been laying in bed too much now I have a severe stiff neck which requires medical attention (ouch my bank).

To me you are already doing quite a lot. There are certainly room for improvements which only patience and time can help. What are the most pressing things that bother you?

 

[the box is empty]

Routine is so critical for everyday mental health; this quarantine has been a strain on everyone.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

It's really going to start hitting people. Many on here already have experience of social isolation so it's kind of business as usual. But many 'normal' people out there won't be used to this at all. Expect a rise in members.

 

[Mr2005]

I thought this was worth watching

 

[Darkhaven]

In my case it's not the isolation that bothers me.
I have been living reclusively on my bedroom for the past 11 years. Basically only leaving to go to school and university with a few exceptions here and there to go buy things that i need: clothes, and go help my mother with grocery shopping.
What's affecting me is having to deal with my house filled with people, that wouldn't, otherwise not been here. Speaking of my elderly grandparents and my aunt, which has cognitive problems. My mom brought them to our house so they wowouldn't stay isolated during the quarantine. 3 company demanding people, one with alzheimer's is a lot of noise and agitation that only causes me more stress and anxiety. Not to mention that both my mother and stepfather are now always home.
In order to have some peace of mind i need some time alone and a quiet environment.
If i could become financially independent i know for a fact it would boost my mental health, A Lot.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

I thought this was worth watching

I used to think he was a twat. Then I started to listen to him. He makes sense to me. I've shared similar opinions for a while.

Society will stand or fall over the next few generations depending on how we adapt and what our priorities are.
Our natural tendencies, developed through prehistory and into history will logically lead us to the brink of extinction eventually.

There is a deeper reality here. There is an opportunity here too. To try and be better.

But there's also an opportunity to comprehensively fuck things up and carry on like before, making a profit out of the suffering, using the chaos to impose control. That has been seen countless times in the past too.

To get past this we actually have to change our natural tendencies, to culturally evolve beyond out base instincts, to put aside profit and power and try and be better.

There is definitely an opportunity here.

Will we take it?

We will stand or fall on that decision.

 

[Mr2005]

"I used to think he was a twat. Then I started to listen to him" That's exactly what happened to me. There's an important message right there. He's a white male and still we didn't see past our prejudices

 

[Deleted member 1465]

"I used to think he was a twat. Then I started to listen to him" That's exactly what happened to me. There's an important message right there. He's a white male and still we didn't see past our prejudices

Yeah. Ego and prejudice. Guilty. He did used to behave like a twat though

 

[Mr2005]

Andrew Sachs can testify

 

[waterbottleman]

I'm not a social person but the quarantine is bothering me. It's fucking depressing being stuck in my apartment.

The only thing that makes me feel better about it is the fact that just about everyone else is doing the same.

 

[Midnight]

Same here. It took away the only few minutes of companionship i had every week and i was already extremely lonely. I also lost all contact with said person because i don't have her number and i'm worried sick about her. Just when you think things can't get any worse. I'm at a loss. I was hoping for something to push me over the edge but this just makes shit alot worse than it already was. But to catch the bus now (lockdown) would be the worst possible time and cause my family alot more trouble than it already would in normal times.

I just can't describe how i feel right now ... i'm just empty/done/going insane.

 

[NotCordelia]

I used to think he was a twat. Then I started to listen to him. He makes sense to me. I've shared similar opinions for a while.

Society will stand or fall over the next few generations depending on how we adapt and what our priorities are.
Our natural tendencies, developed through prehistory and into history will logically lead us to the brink of extinction eventually.

There is a deeper reality here. There is an opportunity here too. To try and be better.

But there's also an opportunity to comprehensively fuck things up and carry on like before, making a profit out of the suffering, using the chaos to impose control. That has been seen countless times in the past too.

To get past this we actually have to change our natural tendencies, to culturally evolve beyond out base instincts, to put aside profit and power and try and be better.

There is definitely an opportunity here.

Will we take it?

We will stand or fall on that decision.

Well said.

Same here. It took away the only few minutes of companionship i had every week and i was already extremely lonely. I also lost all contact with said person because i don't have her number and i'm worried sick about her. Just when you think things can't get any worse. I'm at a loss. I was hoping for something to push me over the edge but this just makes shit alot worse than it already was. But to catch the bus now (lockdown) would be the worst possible time and cause my family alot more trouble than it already would in normal times.

I just can't describe how i feel right now ... i'm just empty/done/going insane.

All I can say is you are not alone. Many of us here, myself included, have anxiety about what is happening. Whatever happens we have got to come together or perish apart in fear.Also, to quite the late , great Bill Hicks, "Don't be afraid of anything, ever. It's just a ride. It goes up and down, round and round, and it's very brightly colored..."
He got off the ride early, maybe he had it figured out?
Dunno, but his experience gives comfort

 

[Deleted member 1465]

Well, if you aren't anxious about what's happening then you really are nuts lol

My attitude is in my signature.

 

[brainpain2]

i've been trying to go into recovery again after trying back in February during a relapse but everything with the Coronavirus is driving me up the walls and making me so anxious. i'm scared it's gonna put me in a bad place. i've been making sure to get dressed every day and go outside for a walk. i shower every day and have been knitting and reading and baking. but just the idea of things not being available to me is so triggering and i don't know what else to do...

I fully understand. I just made a post about this in the suicide forum. I can't even go for long walks because it's sub zero temperatures outside. This is very frustrating and will last months at BEST. I also suffer from anxiety and an overactive brain. I worry about the impact with nothing available. I fear, that along with my other issues, I will not last through it.

are you employed or employable? There actually are places that are hiring including amazon and grocery store, if you feel comfortable. I'm not sure of the restrictions where you live but pet shelters are considered an essential service where I live. Volunteering or even visiting one to see the animals might help, if you're an animal person like I am. if you are mobile maybe you can connect with someone who is unable to go to a grocery store due to being immobile.I have one in walking distance and am going to throw my ability to help out there.

 

[Final Escape]

Most people will die from the toll that social distancing is taking on their mental health lol! It's pretty sadistic.

 

[flower]

I thought quarantine would be so peaceful, a break from work and plenty of time to myself, but it's actually driving me crazy. I don't have many friends or much of a life to begin with, but I've realised how helpful it is to have some sort of routine. I think the fact that I know I'm not allowed to go out even if I wanted to makes it so much worse. I feel trapped, and so worried for other people's jobs/family/homes.

I've also seen loads of people walking about in couples, which makes me feel even more lonely that I have no one to quarantine with haha

all you can really do is try to keep your mind occupied with other things like you said. it's really difficult though

 

[Aleandra Felix]

I've been in quarantine for just a week and I can feel myself falling down the black hole of self-neglect, social isolation (I never had friends to begin with, but now I'm not interacting with anyone any longer), deep sadness, loneliness, daily stress, desperation, insane tiresomeness, etc. This lockdown is ruining the remains of sanity I have

 

[willitpass]

I fully understand. I just made a post about this in the suicide forum. I can't even go for long walks because it's sub zero temperatures outside. This is very frustrating and will last months at BEST. I also suffer from anxiety and an overactive brain. I worry about the impact with nothing available. I fear, that along with my other issues, I will not last through it.

are you employed or employable? There actually are places that are hiring including amazon and grocery store, if you feel comfortable. I'm not sure of the restrictions where you live but pet shelters are considered an essential service where I live. Volunteering or even visiting one to see the animals might help, if you're an animal person like I am. if you are mobile maybe you can connect with someone who is unable to go to a grocery store due to being immobile.I have one in walking distance and am going to throw my ability to help out there.

i was actually in the hiring process to get started on a job, but the day before i was going to get my minor work permit finished, my school shut down so i can't get it finished. it's not necessarily that i don't have things to do, i have plenty i've been doing. i think it's just the thought of being trapped has brought back ptsd from when i've been hospitalized for long periods