So my "boyfriend" found this site on his phone

[EndofMyRope]

I use the term boyfriend loosely. He's actually the sociopath who sleeps on my couch and refuses to leave. Literally. I've yelled, screamed and begged and he laughs and tells me to call the cops.

In any event, I used his phone to go online and apparently google saved the name in the search box. His comment, "so I went online and saw this site, sanctioned suicide from when u were on my phone last night." and that was that. Nothing else.

Can u feel the love??? I swear, if that man found me dead, he'd probably just pack his shit and leave me lying there to rot. When I tried to OD twice on 24,000mg of Tylenol, he talked me out of going to the hospital. Then when I took a knife to my throat, he told me I was fucking crazy because who the fuck does that, spewed a few more insults and that was that. I've never wanted to CTB so much in my life.

 

[TheCrow]

Call the cops and then see let him see who's laughing. Don't let him do that no matter how bad you feel about yourself. Seriously. It's better to be lonely than to put up with that kind of bullshit and abuse. You don't deserve it, and he doesn't deserve to get away with it. On a side note, be aware that iphones have a feature where it allows Safari to share websites you logged into/what you Googled with your imac/mac laptop if you have one, so you might want to disable that feature if you think someone else might be using your computer.

 

[Kyrok]

Does he never leave? What would he do if you changed your lock? Do you have a building manager to help?

 

[EndofMyRope]

Changing the locks are expensive and I just don't know if I have it in me to deal with the cops. The cops are necessarily your friends and I don't trust the crazy fu*k not to say something that will get me in trouble. I once had a boyfriend ten years ago slam my arm in a car door and then stab himself in the legs with a pen and then tell the cops I did it. We BOTH got arrested. My charges were later dropped and he had to go to some classes. Either way, it's not something I can deal with. All he would have to do is tell them I've threatened to hurt myself and they'd be obligated to take me away.

 

[Jodes]

I use the term boyfriend loosely. He's actually the sociopath who sleeps on my couch and refuses to leave. Literally. I've yelled, screamed and begged and he laughs and tells me to call the cops.

In any event, I used his phone to go online and apparently google saved the name in the search box. His comment, "so I went online and saw this site, sanctioned suicide from when u were on my phone last night." and that was that. Nothing else.

Can u feel the love??? I swear, if that man found me dead, he'd probably just pack his shit and leave me lying there to rot. When I tried to OD twice on 24,000mg of Tylenol, he talked me out of going to the hospital. Then when I took a knife to my throat, he told me I was fucking crazy because who the fuck does that, spewed a few more insults and that was that. I've never wanted to CTB so much in my life.

I'm so sorry. People like that....

 

[Jodes]

Changing the locks are expensive and I just don't know if I have it in me to deal with the cops. The cops are necessarily your friends and I don't trust the crazy fu*k not to say something that will get me in trouble. I once had a boyfriend ten years ago slam my arm in a car door and then stab himself in the legs with a pen and then tell the cops I did it. We BOTH got arrested. My charges were later dropped and he had to go to some classes. Either way, it's not something I can deal with. All he would have to do is tell them I've threatened to hurt myself and they'd be obligated to take me away.

Omg o.o

 

[Jodes]

if he gets worried he might start controlling more...

 

[MsM3talGamer]

I hope you manage to kick this loser to the curb. What an asshole.

 

[EndofMyRope]

if he gets worried he might start controlling more...

He has. It's insane. His ex-girlfriend warned me but I didn't believe it. Now looking back, of course I can see the game he played on me and see how it all unfolded. I just feel dead inside and don't know how to get out from under this. He may not hit me, but he's for shit-sure abusive. I mean, who had someone literally cut their own throat in front of them and then be so callous to just patch them up and shut them up. It wasn't like I just grabbed the knife and threatened to do it. I literally cut my self to the point where it bled on and off for a couple days and I have a scar from it. The Tylenol OD made me horrifically sick for at least 5 days to the point where I couldn't even keep water down and when I FINALLY said I WANTED to go to the hospital, he talked me out of it. I'd never understood what the term gaslighting meant until now. It truly is a form of domestic violence.

 

[Jodes]

He has. It's insane. His ex-girlfriend warned me but I didn't believe it. Now looking back, of course I can see the game he played on me and see how it all unfolded. I just feel dead inside and don't know how to get out from under this. He may not hit me, but he's for shit-sure abusive. I mean, who had someone literally cut their own throat in front of them and then be so callous to just patch them up and shut them up. It wasn't like I just grabbed the knife and threatened to do it. I literally cut my self to the point where it bled on and off for a couple days and I have a scar from it. The Tylenol OD made me horrifically sick for at least 5 days to the point where I couldn't even keep water down and when I FINALLY said I WANTED to go to the hospital, he talked me out of it. I'd never understood what the term gaslighting meant until now. It truly is a form of domestic violence.

Cant you just leave? Take what you need. Throw your mobile and social media,, he'll get to you through it one way or another. Go anywhere, change name...learn about sleeping rough and fast. Stay in touch some how with only those you absolutely trust that he knows or could link to you.

 

[MsM3talGamer]

Cant you just leave? Take what you need. Throw your mobile and social media,, he'll get to you through it one way or another. Go anywhere, change name...learn about sleeping rough and fast

Good advice. Or even go to a domestic abuse shelter.

 

[gingerplum]

Don't call law enforcement to your home. Go in to the nearest police station and file a report. Tell them he is an unwanted guest that doesn't pay rent and is refusing to leave. Take a preemptive strike and tell them he threatens you and makes up stories about you having psychological issues.

They can confront him without you there. If he reports that you're suicidal, all they can do is ask you; you deny it and refute his accusation as part of a pattern of trying to slander you.

This might get more complicated if he's been getting his mail there or paying any rent or bills. Still, a police report would start a trail of legal documentation that could only help you.

 

[Jodes]

Good advice. Or even go to a domestic abuse shelter.

Also very good idea. Just depends how eager he is to retain you as well as his home. Theres every chance he could convince everyone you know you're delusional and he's just trying to save you. He'll look in aaaaaaall the obvious places first.

The more you kniw about what he did to his exes, the better idea you'll have of what his "style" is. (For lack if better word for something so devious)

 

[EndofMyRope]

Don't call law enforcement to your home. Go in to the nearest police station and file a report. Tell them he is an unwanted guest that doesn't pay rent and is refusing to leave. Take a preemptive strike and tell them he threatens you and makes up stories about you having psychological issues.

They can confront him without you there. If he reports that you're suicidal, all they can do is ask you; you deny it and refute his accusation as part of a pattern of trying to slander you.

This might get more complicated if he's been getting his mail there or paying any rent or bills. Still, a police report would start a trail of legal documentation that could only help you.

Going to the police station and filing a report is actually a very good idea. Unfortunately, I can't exactly claim that he's making shit up about me and my psychological state as I've been hospitalized twice in the past year and a half but I will tell them he's threatening to use it against me.

And no, he does not pay any bills or rent here. I almost laughed when I read that. I can barely afford to put food on the table yet somehow his money always seems to be gone whenever I tell him we need something.

 

[MsM3talGamer]

Going to the police station and filing a report is actually a very good idea. Unfortunately, I can't exactly claim that he's making shit up about me and my psychological state as I've been hospitalized twice in the past year and a half but I will tell them he's threatening to use it against me.

And no, he does not pay any bills or rent here. I almost laughed when I read that. I can barely afford to put food on the table yet somehow his money always seems to be gone whenever I tell him we need something.

I hope you have family or friends to help you get away from him.

 

[gingerplum]

Are you in the US? If you are, your medical records are protected by federal law. No one-- not your mother, not the police, not the pope-- can get them without a judge-ordered subpoena. Nothing, not so much as a dental exam.

Basically, it's dickhead's word against yours. Play it as you will.

 

[Johnnythefox]

Are you in the US? If you are, your medical records are protected by federal law. No one-- not your mother, not the police, not the pope-- can get them without a judge-ordered subpoena. Nothing, not so much as a dental exam.

Basically, it's dickhead's word against yours. Play it as you will.

We have some employers here who ask for your doctors details on the application, and maybe ask to contact them. I've never given permission even when I was sent for an independent evaluation one time.

 

[gingerplum]

We have some employers here who ask for your doctors details on the application, and maybe ask to contact them. I've never given permission even when I was sent for an independent evaluation one time.

Incredible. HIPAA is something you don't fuck around with here. I once saw a physician go insane looking for his "cheat sheet" with all his patients' information on it, until he found it in the break room. Poor guy looked like he was gonna stroke out... a goddamn neurosurgeon, no less. He would've been fired if the wrong person found it and complained.

 

[OkTotti]

I think you've got to do something... even as dramatic as going to the police...maybe file a restraining order against him so he can't be 50 feet near you? (or something like that)
he probably feels entitled to be in your place for some reason and has it in his mind that you need him....you need to jolt him out of this

 

[Severen]

Sounds worse than a sociopath. More like a psychopath.

 

[azucaramargo]

Call the cops and then see let him see who's laughing. Don't let him do that no matter how bad you feel about yourself. Seriously. It's better to be lonely than to put up with that kind of bullshit and abuse. You don't deserve it, and he doesn't deserve to get away with it. On a side note, be aware that iphones have a feature where it allows Safari to share websites you logged into/what you Googled with your imac/mac laptop if you have one, so you might want to disable that feature if you think someone else might be using your computer.

What a kind, thoughtful response, The Crow!

 

[azucaramargo]

I use the term boyfriend loosely. He's actually the sociopath who sleeps on my couch and refuses to leave. Literally. I've yelled, screamed and begged and he laughs and tells me to call the cops.

In any event, I used his phone to go online and apparently google saved the name in the search box. His comment, "so I went online and saw this site, sanctioned suicide from when u were on my phone last night." and that was that. Nothing else.

Can u feel the love??? I swear, if that man found me dead, he'd probably just pack his shit and leave me lying there to rot. When I tried to OD twice on 24,000mg of Tylenol, he talked me out of going to the hospital. Then when I took a knife to my throat, he told me I was fucking crazy because who the fuck does that, spewed a few more insults and that was that. I've never wanted to CTB so much in my life.

EndofMyRope, please let me tell you I love you. I am weeping from reading your post. I have been in almost the same situation. O know how it feels to feel so desperately alone. I like The Crow's constructive advice. All I can offer you is my love and compassion. I know you desetde better.

 

[azucaramargo]

I think you've got to do something... even as dramatic as going to the police...maybe file a restraining order against him so he can't be 50 feet near you? (or something like that)
he probably feels entitled to be in your place for some reason and has it in his mind that you need him....you need to jolt him out of this

Awesome advice OkTotti.

 

[TheCrow]

What a kind, thoughtful response, The Crow!

Aww, thank you just the same!