Discussion Should you write a suicide note?

[account676]

Yes, no? Why?

 

[Rachel74]

I say no because I wouldn't. Those that love me already know the pain I'm in so I don't need to record that for them. I'd spend time with them before I overdosed so we had time together.
That's me anyway x

 

[Stan]

Two reasons. First the police wont investigate anyone else if for some reason it looks suspicious. Two, to try and give closure

 

[woxihuanni]

It is literally the only piece of dignity I have left, going without leaving words that fall on dead ears.

Not that they will look for a note, or notice there is not one.

 

[Jack4230]

Depends on the situation in my opinion, there are people I care about in my life so I'll probably write them a note so they'll know that it was my decision and that they shouldn't feel guilty, but if you don't have anyone in your life that you care about then I wouldn't bother.

 

[TAW122]

If I do CTB I will leave a note. This is to mainly bring them closure and help them find peace (family and those close to me). Also, some instructions on post-death such as what to do with body, whether to hold a funeral, and some other personal requests. (I would prefer to funeral as to save the cost of death and just rid my body somehow - cremation, burying, dumping out to sea, etc.).

 

[iiii5555]

Why should anyone enslave themselves to language even in their final days?

 

[hobbydevil]

I'd definitely write a note, if not multiple. I've never been one to "keep it short" for one, but I also would feel the need to explain myself to my loved ones and try anything to ease their pain just a little bit.
There are aspects about the situation I'm in (which is mostly responsible for the return of my..."suicidal thoughts") that I know my family, first and foremost my parents, blame themselves for. Especially with that considered, I'd feel horrible leaving without any words to them.
Overall I'd just like to give my family and friends something to remind them that I love them and that it wasn't something they could have prevented and that it wasn't their fault.
How effective that really is in helping them deal with the grief I don't know, but there's little else I could do.

...I also just like to write a lot.

 

[Lilaea]

I wouldn't. No one would care to read or look at it.

 

[intothevoid]

Well I don't want my family to know, and I've taken measures to ensure that. My best friend doesn't speak to me since my last attempt and my ex (who caused my last attempt to mess up) well I don't wanna bother her with the drama of all this, though I'd like to leave a note where I get to say goodbye properly.

 

[First loss]

Yes. It can accomplish many goals. Revenge, closure, you name it.

 

[Death Standing]

Yes. It can accomplish many goals. Revenge, closure, you name it.

I don't know why I actually laughed at when you wrote revenge. I feel like if you're killing yourself to spite someone and somehow exact revenge them you're going about it for the wrong reasons.

 

[mattwitt]

I had about 20 pages of notes and stuff that I typed and printed up. Now I'm too lazy and apathetic to do it all again.

 

[Death Standing]

I had about 20 pages of notes and stuff that I typed and printed up. Now I'm too lazy and apathetic to do it all again.

If you have a reason to live then you have a reason to try and get better. I applaud you for being honest with your emotions. I think I'm just done caring about how other people may feel. Selfish, maybe. Honest, 100%.

 

[crea_the_hopeless]

I have too many people that love and care about me to not leave a note. They deserve closure. It's so odd. Like I know I'm loved but I can't physically feel it because the self hatred in my heart is just too immense. I told my ex that I hate myself more than he could ever love me. And now that I'm preparing to ctb, I think he finally sees that.

Sorry for venting and derailing the topic. But yes. Leave a note. I would.

 

[Death Standing]

I have too many people that love and care about me to not leave a note. They deserve closure. It's so odd. Like I know I'm loved but I can't physically feel it because the self hatred in my heart is just too immense. I told my ex that I hate myself more than he could ever love me. And now that I'm preparing to ctb, I think he finally sees that.

Sorry for venting and derailing the topic. But yes. Leave a note. I would.

I'm thinking of making videos. That was always my thing whether I was posting them on YouTube, Tiktok or SnapChat. It was just something I always did putting myself in front of a camera.

I don't know how all of them can receive them after I've died though. I have to find a way for them to go up at a certain time. And only accessible from a private link. Sounds difficult lol. Any ideas would be appreciated

 

[BPD Barbie]

I will leave one so that nobody feels accountable.

 

[ReneeSuicideAccount]

I don't know why I actually laughed at when you wrote revenge. I feel like if you're killing yourself to spite someone and somehow exact revenge them you're going about it for the wrong reasons.

So idk if you are on other sites I'm on but I often go into Renee story time, this is my first SS story time.

so many moons ago I had a coworker that was in a band, and I would go to their shows so I got to know his band mates after a while. Well one was a alcoholic, And I guess he upset his brother somehow I'm still not sure what he did.

but this dudes brother broke into the band mates gun safe took the band members pistol went out side to the band members car and took the top half of his skull off in this fucking Pontiac.

that was the end of me seeing anyone related to that suicide as my coworker quit the band after. I kinda wish i knew more.

 

[Death Standing]

So idk if you are on other sites I'm on but I often go into Renee story time, this is my first SS story time.

so many moons ago I had a coworker that was in a band, and I would go to their shows so I got to know his band mates after a while. Well one was a alcoholic, And I guess he upset his brother somehow I'm still not sure what he did.

but this dudes brother broke into the band mates gun safe took the band members pistol went out side to the band members car and took the top half of his skull off in this fucking Pontiac.

that was the end of me seeing anyone related to that suicide as my coworker quit the band after. I kinda wish i knew more.

If that's your state of mind, in my opinion you probably should not be killing yourself.

I feel like suicide has to have a sense of logic to it. It should be based on you, not someone else or their opinions.

Personally, I hate myself and cannot continue to count the days away as I struggle alone, even with people around me. When life has been nothing but pain, it almost feels like death is a good note to cap your sad song on.

 

[Arvind]

its a must .. if u dont then there will be more trouble to our frnds and family as police will be investigating our death but if they found a note then the case will be closed

 

[First loss]

I don't know why I actually laughed at when you wrote revenge. I feel like if you're killing yourself to spite someone and somehow exact revenge them you're going about it for the wrong reasons.

Why do you imply there are wrong reasons?

 

[forever21]

Do you think it is important it has to be handwritten or does it make no difference if it is typed?

 

[OneBigBlur]

I don't believe that I will because the only people I have to write to are family that I hate and maybe my therapist but she doesn't give a shit either. I could write pages about why I'm killing myself, my views on the world, my dreams, but what's the point when nobody even bothered to care when I was alive? Whatever I write will fall on deaf ears and nobody in my life deserves any kind of explanation involving my exit.

 

[NeCkDeEp]

I have wrote a note for whoever finds (police or humane society) my body with contact details of my family and my friends to contact her about what to do with my pets.
I live alone abroad so that probably makes sense and I will write somewhere these days personal delayed texts for my friends but I prefer not to write anything for my family

 

[heheb27595]

The media or the people will find ways to minimize and ridicule it.

 

[Ross]

The media or the people will find ways to minimize and ridicule it.

The media wouldn't / shouldn't get if you are only giving to true loved ones

 

[FohPah]

I've struggled with this decision.

At first, I wanted to write a lot. I wanted to be heard. But then I remembered what a massive headache writing is. And the whole point of catching the bus is to be free of headaches. To stop caring about the future. Which means to stop caring who pays attention to me when I'm gone.

So, to me, the purpose of a note is to avoid causing more harm than necessary. It should:

• Identify my body and the people to contact
• State that it's a suicide, so no one wastes time investigating it further
• Take full responsibility for being in this state -- this isn't because of external circumstances; it's because I don't like being me
• Give just enough explanation to make it clear that no one could have helped me or stopped me

 

[angele]

I've wrote a lot because I have this fantastical idea that people are going to listen.. Don't know how realistic that is given that no one listens to me now, but.... I can hope.
I'm definitely writing apologies to my close friends though. They don't deserve what I'm about to do to them.

 

[mathieu]

I think it's a good idea to leave a note if you have family that care about you. It will be comforting to have a final good bye.

 

[sleepy dog]

Record a video. Many reasons. One reason is law enforcement can think notes are fake, and then falsely charge somebody with murder. Police in the US let their imaginations run wild.