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InezSerrano
Experienced
- Dec 3, 2021
- 294
I am bad at judging people, this is bad, right?
>He said he doesn't see me as a person, but as an object, but he says he doesn't see most people as people so IDK, maybe this is normal.
>He said he wanted to keep cutting his name into my leg until it scarred.
>He kept asking for pictures of me cutting. (I was clean for like a year and then I started again for him).
>I'm confused about my gender identity and he keeps saying I should let him pick for me, since he knows better.
>Just in general he says I'm dumb and he knows better than me.
>Related, he recently said it would be okay for me to be a guy because he realized there are guys he is attracted to, he then proceeded to send me shotacon. (sexualized anime boys)
>His therapist said I was at risk of him cutting or choking me without consent.
I brought up some of these things and asked him to stop trying to create an extreme powder dynamic, stop trying to influence my identity, and stop telling me he wants to do violent stuff with me (the farthest he's said is wanting to break my arm). He said that I was being delusional and taking everything the wrong way, and if I kept doing it he would stop talking to me. (I think he said that because he knows I have abandonment issues, but at this point the threat doesn't hurt as much because I may be better of without him).
Anyways, are these things bad? I know I have a distorted view of people sometimes, but all the points are factually true.
>He said he doesn't see me as a person, but as an object, but he says he doesn't see most people as people so IDK, maybe this is normal.
>He said he wanted to keep cutting his name into my leg until it scarred.
>He kept asking for pictures of me cutting. (I was clean for like a year and then I started again for him).
>I'm confused about my gender identity and he keeps saying I should let him pick for me, since he knows better.
>Just in general he says I'm dumb and he knows better than me.
>Related, he recently said it would be okay for me to be a guy because he realized there are guys he is attracted to, he then proceeded to send me shotacon. (sexualized anime boys)
>His therapist said I was at risk of him cutting or choking me without consent.
I brought up some of these things and asked him to stop trying to create an extreme powder dynamic, stop trying to influence my identity, and stop telling me he wants to do violent stuff with me (the farthest he's said is wanting to break my arm). He said that I was being delusional and taking everything the wrong way, and if I kept doing it he would stop talking to me. (I think he said that because he knows I have abandonment issues, but at this point the threat doesn't hurt as much because I may be better of without him).
Anyways, are these things bad? I know I have a distorted view of people sometimes, but all the points are factually true.