XiaroX
Member
- Dec 5, 2025
- 87
First, maybe I'll give a bit of history.
When my parents went to couples counselling, the therapist pretty much said to my mother, look the guy's an asshole and will never change, date me instead, which I know is completely unethical.
When I was in family therapy years later, it seemed to me both female therapists kind of had a thing for my father, he was kind of charismatic, like a cult leader (and for a while he did actually have a bunch of 'psychic' friends who wanted him to be their leader, and the whole thing was about the coming Apocalypse, etc), but it seems to me that my siblings and I didn't have much of a chance if that was how these women felt.
So, anyhow... when I hit the internet, there's more backstory of course, but I ended up talking to a lot of people with unusual sexual interests and fetishes. I talked to people all around the world with mental health issues, and I learned about treatment options in various countries, and it seemed nothing was optimal, But one of the weird things is that considering how important sex can be to most people, what I found was that most of the people didn't really talk to their therapists about sex. It was like everyone was too polite or uptight, and these people I was talking to were looking at almost unimaginable amounts and types of porn, and surely this is relevant in psychotherapy. It's insane not to discuss sex.
One person I conversed with was agoraphobic, and told me about how his therapist tried to make things easier for him by having after hours sessions, and when she briefly left the room, he ejaculated onto her windows. At the time I found it really interesting, but the more experience I had, the more I came to think it was not just a statement about the mental health system, that it was a sign of rage against women.
When my parents went to couples counselling, the therapist pretty much said to my mother, look the guy's an asshole and will never change, date me instead, which I know is completely unethical.
When I was in family therapy years later, it seemed to me both female therapists kind of had a thing for my father, he was kind of charismatic, like a cult leader (and for a while he did actually have a bunch of 'psychic' friends who wanted him to be their leader, and the whole thing was about the coming Apocalypse, etc), but it seems to me that my siblings and I didn't have much of a chance if that was how these women felt.
So, anyhow... when I hit the internet, there's more backstory of course, but I ended up talking to a lot of people with unusual sexual interests and fetishes. I talked to people all around the world with mental health issues, and I learned about treatment options in various countries, and it seemed nothing was optimal, But one of the weird things is that considering how important sex can be to most people, what I found was that most of the people didn't really talk to their therapists about sex. It was like everyone was too polite or uptight, and these people I was talking to were looking at almost unimaginable amounts and types of porn, and surely this is relevant in psychotherapy. It's insane not to discuss sex.
One person I conversed with was agoraphobic, and told me about how his therapist tried to make things easier for him by having after hours sessions, and when she briefly left the room, he ejaculated onto her windows. At the time I found it really interesting, but the more experience I had, the more I came to think it was not just a statement about the mental health system, that it was a sign of rage against women.
