i'm honestly........... like it has to do with the male gaze and feeling like i'll never be lovable. like i don't have the right body no matter how much i could try and go to the gym and modify it it would be the wrong body. like it's simply the incorrect kind of body and i just want to leave it. and the fact that having the right body just opens up so many doors for you right out of the getgo and some people just get to have that, they know it, and they shove it in everyone's faces makes me so angry. sometimes in life, all you get to be is dumpy and mentally ill. what;s the point of being alive if you don't look right and everyone knows it.
can I say it has to do with worthiness?
I'm just bring this up to see if you relate. I assure you this is *not* meant as vilianizing or pathologizing of any sort. so, I happen to have two favorite Youtubers, both female, one has ASPD besides PTSD and depression (Jessica Kent, ex-inmate advocate), the other has both ASPD and NPD (Kanika Batra, model). I can tell they share the same sentiment about the body thing, if not explicitly voiced. I kinda just want to know how much your feeling of worthiness is based upon how your body looks. if it's *that* much or somewhat a lot.
the way I see this, sexism is fucking ruining every women's life. just look at the number of girls who get obsessed with dieting from a young age. sexism is fucking toxic. at the same time though, your background, and sometimes genetics, as in the case of neurodiversity, can play a huge role in how deep this socially-implanted sense of inferiority goes. if you've been body-shamed, constantly even; if sexism greatly exacerbates suffering from a preexisting neurodivergence.
just wanna make myself clear that I have no grudges against people with PD or cluster B PDs especially. if anyone does that is fucking ableist. *if* you happen to find yourself identifying with that, maybe you've found a cause to your suffering. and hopefully that'll make it easier for you finding support and resources. personally I'm not recommending dealing with the MH system. how it treats people with PDs is absolutely appalling.