Second thoughts about having visted my family for the last time

[GoingSoonish]

I recently met with a family member that i hadn't seen for close to 10 years. I was only a distant memory but now i will be freshly remembered. I think it was a mistake for this reason. I did have a great time though and i really did want to catch up. I am curious about whether you all agree that it was mistake?

It is weird how i have to actively isolate myself at this time. I guess it would have been the right thing to do and now i feel bad about it.

 

[onewayroad]

Hmmn it's a tricky one that I've wondered about too. I had a friend accidentally overdose and die earlier this year and I hadn't seen him for about ten years. He was part of a circle of friends that I also hadn't seen for that long, and I was looking forward to reconnecting with them all. It was shitty that I didn't get to reconnect with him before he died but I don't know if I would have felt worse if I had.

I think it might be a little easier emotionally if you haven't seen someone in say, over five years, but that also depends on how strong your connection to that person was.

To answer your question, I agree that if you ctb soon then that person may feel a little worse having reconnected with you, but I don't think the difference will be that major. But it also depends on how close your relationship was, if you ever talked online, etc etc.

Edit: also wanted to say that the fact you thought about this makes you a good person who cares about others and so keep trying to impact others as little as possible but don't worry about it too much because you are clearly considerate

 

[CJM]

I dont think it was a mistake considering the outcome, 10 years is a long time between catch ups and you had a good time.

I say, good stuff!

 

[Breelia]

My cousin died due to a medical condition at 26 years old.

We had a big a big disagreement and didnt talk to each other since our mid teens. However when I heard he was dying I got the chance to see him and hang out with him. I am so glad I got to see him again even though it had been years.

I think you did the right thing. <3

 

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I recently met with a family member that i hadn't seen for close to 10 years. I was only a distant memory but now i will be freshly remembered. I think it was a mistake for this reason. I did have a great time though and i really did want to catch up. I am curious about whether you all agree that it was mistake?

It is weird how i have to actively isolate myself at this time. I guess it would have been the right thing to do and now i feel bad about it.

I don't know if there is a right answer for this. Maybe think of it as a positive memory for the family member to remember you for.
Since you can't change it. I don't know if it would have been any less painful.
I wish I had a better answer. :(

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

P.S. … I like your screen name … it's how I feel as well. :)

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

Also … I was thinking of seeing a few friends before I leave as well. Whenever that finally happens. :(

 

[GoingSoonish]

P.S. … I like your screen name … it's how I feel as well. :)

Thank you.

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

Thank you.