My own suffering has taken a serious hit on my marriage. After many failed attempts of trying to express my thoughts I went back to the drawing board. Past few days we've both been on autopilot, and noticed she was headed to bed. Well I didn't want to let her go before trying what I thought up to steer us in a better direction. First, and foremost I listened. I'm very charismatic, and know how to talk my way in circles all over people. I just shut up, and listened. After she finished I told her let's pick a few things that we both can work on during the day. Basically little wins during your day that'll leave a positive influence on the other person's day. So far so good. My wife wanted me to make her breakfast, and I did before she left for work. I got her lunch, and ate lunch with her. My patience runs thin so I've been good to not really be snappy at her. It's not severe, but it's enough to where I can see it get annoying. For me I wanted to have better line of communication between us. Her indecisiveness, I hate being told I don't know when it comes to daily life things. Example, what do you want to eat? I don't know drives me up the wall. It'll turn into me picking, and she's mad at what I picked.. The whole setting small reasonable goals throughout the day has been going great so far, and our day has been really good IMO. My advice would be to come up with a plan on how you'll achieve getting into a relationship. Don't be afraid of rejection. I've been rejected on multiple occasions. You'll miss 100% of the shots you never take. Life is short, ask that girl or guy out! Now I have a wife that I'm pretty sure is out of my league, but I got her because I went after her. When you get that person, never stop chasing them. Not for one second, NEVER STOP CHASING THEM. Moral of the story relationships are learning experiences. You live, and you learn. Don't let something small as trust issues prevent from having that connection in life. When they say there's someone for everyone, that's true.
