Relationship with a borderline disorder trouble

[erqum]

Hello,
I don't know if it's the right forum to talk about this.

But I really feel bad for my ex girlfriend, she has a borderline disorder trouble.
Sometimes I thought she faked her love for me to get some attention, but she tried to kill herself when I leaved her, It was so hard, it's her worst nightmare to get « abandoned »

I feel so guilty, but I feel i can't save her.
Since our breakup, 2month ago, I think about her and her pain everyday.

Did you ever felt that, as the boyfriend/girlfriend or the borderline person ?

 

[Crow_88]

I dated someone with BPD and it was very challenging. I did feel bad when we broke up, but things had just gotten so extreme and I didn't know what to do anymore. My situation wasn't quite as challenging as yours, but I do feel you. Just that overwhelming flood of emotions.

 

[SnowLeopard21]

I was in a 4 year relationship with someone who had the double whammy of schizophrenia and BPD. Every day was a goddamn rollercoaster and I saw no way to get off the ride until she had finally backed me into a corner and we had ended up living with my mother due to a series of financial setbacks (instigated by her). Her physical abuse of me continued there until my own mother witnessed me getting beaten by her and I finally was able to kick her out of my life. This was after years of her isolating me from my friends and family while keeping me stuck in a cycle of blackmail, physical abuse, leaving, and reconciliation.

Don't feel bad for these people at all. They probably feel pain, sure, but absolutely not for you.