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Jenjoh2358

Jenjoh2358

Close the world, Open the next.
Oct 12, 2021
112
Reddit's opinion on the New York Time's article: 'Where the Despairing Learn Ways to Die' and Incels.is.

'NYTimes doxxes incels.is. owners'
Posted on r/IncelTear

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Anxieyote

Anxieyote

Sobriety over everything else • 31 • Midwest
Mar 24, 2021
444
Character assassination of the site's founders, calling them losers, and zero nuance takes like "suicide bad". About what I expected.

I know they won't, but they would really benefit from visiting this site themselves and seeing the interactions we have.

Obviously, it's not perfect, and I've seen people get into disagreements or heated arguments before in the chat. But the narrative that we swoop in when someone vulnerable comes here and encourage them to end their life is complete bullshit.

We have to come here because people in real life (and the people on Reddit) won't allow us to have honest conversations about how we feel beyond saying "Don't do it!!" and waving the suicide hotline in our face.

It makes a tremendous difference to be able to get everything we want off of our chests and not have to worry about being shut down or invalidated. You'd be surprised how hard it is to find people who will actually sympathize, and the people here are far more likely to because they've been there too, and they know what it's like.

This place is valuable to a lot of us, and I really hope it doesn't get shut down because of reactionaries like this.
 
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Jenjoh2358

Jenjoh2358

Close the world, Open the next.
Oct 12, 2021
112
Character assassination of the site's founders, calling them losers, and zero nuance takes like "suicide bad". About what I expected.

I know they won't, but they would really benefit from visiting this site themselves and seeing the interactions we have.

Obviously, it's not perfect, and I've seen people get into disagreements or heated arguments before in the chat. But the narrative that we swoop in when someone vulnerable comes here and encourage them to end their life is complete bullshit.

We have to come here because people in real life (and the people on Reddit) won't allow us to have honest conversations about how we feel beyond saying "Don't do it!!" and waving the suicide hotline in our face.

It makes a tremendous difference to be able to get everything we want off of our chests and not have to worry about being shut down or invalidated. You'd be surprised how hard it is to find people who will actually sympathize, and the people here are far more likely to because they've been there too, and they know what it's like.

This place is valuable to a lot of us, and I really hope it doesn't get shut down because of reactionaries like this.
Well said, @AnxiousSchizoid
 
ayb

ayb

"I'd feel trapped if I couldn't CTB at any time."
Feb 15, 2019
292
My reply on that thread:

>"We all have an obligation to keep each other safe, particularly those who pose a danger to themselves or others. And for what it's worth, I can involve myself in anybody's business I like."


Except we permit many things that cause someone harm because as a society we value individual liberty. Do we forcibly confiscate cigarette packs from chronic smokers? Seize alcohol from chronic drinkers? Hell most states do not require you to wear a helmet when you ride a motorcycle. There's a litany of choices we allow that cause harm to ones self in society because we value individual liberty or so we believe.

Mental illness =/= mental incompetence or incapacity. Could mental illness impact capacity? Absolutely, especially with psychotic disorders. But the fundamental fact is that the majority of the mentally ill do not lack mental incapacity. Here's a meta-analysis that proves my point: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/17906238/

These people were institutionalized for either posing danger to themselves or others. So to categorize the entirety of the mentally ill as "vulnerable" and unable to make such a decision is factually wrong.

Assisted-suicide for severe chronic mental illnesses is permitted in Belgium, Switzerland and the Netherlands. Around 60-70 people a year receive it for this reason alone in the NL (I'm not sure about the stats in Belgium or Switzerland). Canada will also allow this starting in 2023: https://www.cbc.ca/news/politics/ma...-mental-illness-maid-assisted-death-1.6021717

And a lot of these cases involve young adults. A 24 year old with chronic mental illness was permitted to die in Belgium:

Whilst a 29-year old was also permitted in the NL: https://www.theguardian.com/society/2018/mar/17/assisted-dying-euthanasia-netherlands

The majority of people on SS deal with chronic mental illnesses that had plagued them all their lives with histories of attempts and being locked up in wards. Granted there are some who join because of recent life stressors (loss of a job, divorce from a wife, gf just broke up with you, etc). But again, these absolutely do not represent a majority of people. Encouraging someone to commit suicide is a bannable offense on the site. The people mentioned in the article all chose to kill themselves of their own volition and SN is not a method you can choose to end yourself impulsively. You need prior preparation of other drugs, wait a certain time and consume an specific amount of the substance that has to be measured. Then you need to wait a certain time before death takes affect allowing someone to easily call 911 (sn overdoses can be reversed if EMTs get there in time) Those people all went through that process and they still chose to go through with it.

So please save the whole "muh vulnerable children!!" or portraying the site as being infested with predators that get off to watching people kill themselves. This issue, site and suicide is far, far more nuanced than the article makes it out to be. The fact that NYT won't even allow moderated comments speaks volumes about how one-sided this article is. There is absolutely no good-faith here.
 
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TotallyIsolated

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Nov 25, 2019
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Reddit full of shit? I'd never have guessed.
 
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blueclover_.

blueclover_.

Better Never to Have Been: 2006, David Benatar
Oct 11, 2021
668
Reddit's opinion on the New York Time's article: 'Where the Despairing Learn Ways to Die' and Incels.is.

'NYTimes doxxes incels.is. owners'
Posted on r/IncelTear

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God it's been months since i left reddit, guess i'll just check it out a little before burning from its toxicity.
 
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deflationary

deflationary

Fussy exister. Living in the epilogue
Mar 11, 2020
529


Another thread about this.
 
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WrongPlaceWrongTime

WrongPlaceWrongTime

Better never to have been
Jul 4, 2021
695
Reddit's pitchfork mob in its natural habitat.
 
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uselesswaste

uselesswaste

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Dec 4, 2021
57
Reddit is politically controlled website, what do we except, well full of nonsense.
 
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