Nem

Nem

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Long story short, I got involved in a controlling relationship with someone that very likely was a sociopath. For years I battled depression/bipolar by using marijuana and was doing very well, no hospitalization for over a decade. I had taken my fair share of meds but aside from the side effects, there was no positive effects to be found.
I had been out of a relationship for awhile and had met this person and at the start things seemed okay, but there was a couple of red flags that I ignored and that nearly costed me my life and in a way it did. This person used weed as well and I would use it the moment I got home from work.
My gf asked me to move in with her and two days after moving in she demanded we quit weed (she did not like the fact that I smoked it as soon as I got home)and I should've got the fuck out of there immediately.
Two weeks after I quit, I became very depressed and told her that ever since I quit I had become depressed, she just said bullshit, I don't believe you. Okay, if that's not a fucking red flag then nothing is! I was a retard for not getting my stuff and leaving right then.
I avoided meds until awhile later I made the mistake of mentioning to a coworker that I was dealing with depression and anxiety, the next day he brought some Valium and recommended it would help. That eventually got me back on meds which turned out to be a disaster.
My dr was careless af and ended up prescribing me a dangerous combo of meds even though I warned him about the natural supplements that I was taking. Two days later I was on a hellcation with Hitler and started feeling very ill, just before taking my meds I paused and told Hitler that they were making me sick and wanted to stop them.
Hitler became angry and demanded I keep taking them and I didn't need any silent treatment or bullshit...two weeks later I was rushed to the hospital (and left to die in the waiting room by a racist staff-they were black I was white)
I suffered serious muscle, nerve, brain and kidney damage...I was ready to do things to people responsible that they would never forget. Hitler was away on a bullshit trip and a couple of days later I picked her up from the airport and after awhile told her that I almost died from the meds and I wasn't feeling well anymore. Her response was "aren't you going to ask about my trip?"
At that point I knew I was fucked, I spent tens of thousands of dollars trying to fix the damage, and went a solid two years easily only having two hours of sleep per night. A year and a half later I made a plan to die and Hitler broke up with me the next day...I am not fucking kidding. I continued to struggle with the damage even until now and it's been complete fucking hell, I sleep three hours a night and I'm slowly getting worse every day.
I regret ever meeting this disgusting person, a sociopath combined with a narcissist if I ever seen one. My dr admitted fault and then changed his notes...I almost kicked the crap out of him beyond recognition but I was able to keep composure. The hospital made a fake triage report and they didn't know I had a copy of the original.
My therapist recommended suing the crap out of them and after I contacted a lawyer, Hitler threatened break up if I sued...and I was so sick I was unable to care for myself so I had to put off the lawsuit.
I've been suicidal ever since this happened, it's been absolutely hell every single day and I've been retarded even continuing this far. Things are getting really close to the end, my life has been destroyed and moving forward is like raising the titanic, like how the fuck do you move forward on three hours of sleep per night?!
Thanks for reading and I hope it makes sense
Peace/hugs
 
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Damn, you've been through quite a lot. I don't blame you at all for how you feel. I'm so sorry that all of this happened. I've experienced racism too (I'm white and was beaten up by 3 native people. I continue to hold no judgment against native people, but it was absolutely horrible) I know how it feels, and I've had my fair share of crazy exes. One recently had a child with his gf who's only SIXTEEN. And she was abusing drugs while pregnant. When I tried to call out this girl for abusing drugs while pregnant, my ex harassed me and claimed that I missed him! He was honestly so narcissistic. And my psychiatrist prescribed me trazodone, which made me faint a few times. It was honestly all a bunch of bs. I know exactly how you feel, and I'm here for you. You deserve some peace after all you're experienced.
 
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MaybeMaybeKnot

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Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry that you had to endure this. I was also in a relationship with someone who didn't understand depression/anxiety. When I first tried to ctb she said, "Why are you being such a baby? What do you even have to be sad about?" Unfortunately, like you, red flags ignored. I stayed with her four more years. Now I'm here. People don't understand how much words and actions impact others.
 
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Long story short, I got involved in a controlling relationship with someone that very likely was a sociopath. For years I battled depression/bipolar by using marijuana and was doing very well, no hospitalization for over a decade. I had taken my fair share of meds but aside from the side effects, there was no positive effects to be found.
I had been out of a relationship for awhile and had met this person and at the start things seemed okay, but there was a couple of red flags that I ignored and that nearly costed me my life and in a way it did. This person used weed as well and I would use it the moment I got home from work.
My gf asked me to move in with her and two days after moving in she demanded we quit weed (she did not like the fact that I smoked it as soon as I got home)and I should've got the fuck out of there immediately.
Two weeks after I quit, I became very depressed and told her that ever since I quit I had become depressed, she just said bullshit, I don't believe you. Okay, if that's not a fucking red flag then nothing is! I was a retard for not getting my stuff and leaving right then.
I avoided meds until awhile later I made the mistake of mentioning to a coworker that I was dealing with depression and anxiety, the next day he brought some Valium and recommended it would help. That eventually got me back on meds which turned out to be a disaster.
My dr was careless af and ended up prescribing me a dangerous combo of meds even though I warned him about the natural supplements that I was taking. Two days later I was on a hellcation with Hitler and started feeling very ill, just before taking my meds I paused and told Hitler that they were making me sick and wanted to stop them.
Hitler became angry and demanded I keep taking them and I didn't need any silent treatment or bullshit...two weeks later I was rushed to the hospital (and left to die in the waiting room by a racist staff-they were black I was white)
I suffered serious muscle, nerve, brain and kidney damage...I was ready to do things to people responsible that they would never forget. Hitler was away on a bullshit trip and a couple of days later I picked her up from the airport and after awhile told her that I almost died from the meds and I wasn't feeling well anymore. Her response was "aren't you going to ask about my trip?"
At that point I knew I was fucked, I spent tens of thousands of dollars trying to fix the damage, and went a solid two years easily only having two hours of sleep per night. A year and a half later I made a plan to die and Hitler broke up with me the next day...I am not fucking kidding. I continued to struggle with the damage even until now and it's been complete fucking hell, I sleep three hours a night and I'm slowly getting worse every day.
I regret ever meeting this disgusting person, a sociopath combined with a narcissist if I ever seen one. My dr admitted fault and then changed his notes...I almost kicked the crap out of him beyond recognition but I was able to keep composure. The hospital made a fake triage report and they didn't know I had a copy of the original.
My therapist recommended suing the crap out of them and after I contacted a lawyer, Hitler threatened break up if I sued...and I was so sick I was unable to care for myself so I had to put off the lawsuit.
I've been suicidal ever since this happened, it's been absolutely hell every single day and I've been retarded even continuing this far. Things are getting really close to the end, my life has been destroyed and moving forward is like raising the titanic, like how the fuck do you move forward on three hours of sleep per night?!
Thanks for reading and I hope it makes sense
Peace/hugs
Not sure why she threatened to break up with you because you had a case of medical malpractice
 
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Nem

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Not sure why she threatened to break up with you because you had a case of medical malpractice
She never said why and I never cared to ask. Something was very wrong with her
 
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*KNAZ*

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Nem (I finally got it right)
That is a fucked up ex. Guessing there is no option to go back to smoking. Psychiatry and medical system seems to fail so many. And racism of any kind is the cherry on top. You deserve better.
Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry that you had to endure this. I was also in a relationship with someone who didn't understand depression/anxiety. When I first tried to ctb she said, "Why are you being such a baby? What do you even have to be sad about?" Unfortunately, like you, red flags ignored. I stayed with her four more years. Now I'm here. People don't understand how much words and actions impact others.
I hate people's comments like that. My mom used to shame me by saying "laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone". Like that was supposed to bring comfort to someone. People don't realize how callous their words can be. Maybe they just don't know what to say so they resort to tired old slogans.
 
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That is a fucked up ex. Guessing there is no option to go back to smoking. Psychiatry and medical system seems to fail so many. And racism of any kind is the cherry on top. You deserve better.
Thanks! I've tried smoking and sometimes it helps a little but my nervous system has a tough time tolerating it now. I used to smoke like the wind and was doing really well until I met this person.
I really think psychiatry is a sham profession that cures nothing and harms many. On top of that, most psychiatrists are just off the wall nuts and don't know jack all or care about how their patients are doing. I have nothing good to say about these quacks
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*KNAZ*

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A therapist friend of mine said he was amazed at how many psychologists and therapists were in relationships with alcoholics and addicts themselves. And yeah I think that after so many years in psychiatry, the docs just go mad from seeing so much. I read something on here where a psychiatrist admitted that the science of psychiatry is like doing surgery with a hammer and that what they are doing now will be viewed as barbaric 50 years from now.
 
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Nem

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A therapist friend of mine said he was amazed at how many psychologists and therapists were in relationships with alcoholics and addicts themselves. And yeah I think that after so many years in psychiatry, the docs just go mad from seeing so much. I read something on here where a psychiatrist admitted that the science of psychiatry is like doing surgery with a hammer and that what they are doing now will be viewed as barbaric 50 years from now.
Psychiatry is medicines dirty secret from what I've heard. All of the big pharma meds are crap and corrupt in how they are tested, the fda is the biggest scam around
Peace/hugs
 
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lymbo

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Oct 12, 2019
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Psychiatry is medicines dirty secret from what I've heard. All of the big pharma meds are crap and corrupt in how they are tested, the fda is the biggest scam around
Peace/hugs
u styll have your mom and dad , what they say? they know u want to cbt?
 
Nem

Nem

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u styll have your mom and dad , what they say? they know u want to cbt?
Only have my dad and they know I'm wanting to ctb
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Notf1xable

Time is a drug. Too much of it kills you.-Terry P
Oct 19, 2019
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Abusive relationships can mess anyone up. I'm sorry you have gone through this. Sounds like there was a lot of gaslighting, I don't understand why people get into relationships to hurt others. The world is a mess, at least that is what I've experienced of it.
 
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pain in my heart

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Oct 26, 2019
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I understand what you are going thru, as I have gone thru something similar. Abusive individuals can and will fuck up people around them. It's very much unfair for us to have been their physical and emotional punching bag in order for those individuals to release whatever negative emotions they were feeling at that particular moment.
 
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Rachel74

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Don't know what to say Nem apart from your ex was brutal. Just be thankful for now you are out of there.
 

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