Why do you think some people are just naive by nature and have a hard time to imagine or accept some bad things that people done to them? Even being through a lot of trauma. And what people do to them that they wont never do in a million years makes them sick.
@noname223 I would like to hear your opinion please as well from the other members. This forum it's all I got at the moment.
Thank you so much.
I feel honored to be asked but I wonder why you choose me. That is a quite difficult question. And I am not sure whether I am competent enough to answer it properly.
I think many humans have the desire to believe in the good of other people. Not sure how naive this is. I think almost everyone is searching for someone(s) one can trust and rely on. Most people strive for a deeper connection to other people. Most humans are social beings who feel bad when they are isolated for a long time.
You should not be too harsh on yourself for having trusted someone. I think it is natural to have this desire. Treason can damage other people. Some people will lose the ability to trust anyone else in the future again. I think the other side of the extreme can also have very detrimental effects. I think as so often in life a healthy balance is needed. I try to be rational and calculate the dangers of social connections. Though I am probably also biased due to my biography. The personality and attiude of many people get shaped by their biography. For example if parents betray the trust of their children this can impact their emotional development a lot
To the other question about accepting horrible things that have happened. I don't know I think many people develop some sort of trauma in some shape of form. This is can be pretty damaging for people. It can cause deep wounds which are difficult to heal. Some people become obsessed by suicidality like me or for example people start to become promiscuos. I have the feeling due to the fact that our genes play a huge role in how we react to traumatizing events we should not blame us too much for it. I think when we are the victims of cruel torment all we can do is trying to do the best with the cards we have been dealt. It is pretty hard not to become fully dysfunctioal after such an event.
I hope this answer might have helped you and was hopefully what you was looking for.
Sending hugs and love!