sometimes just feel I have to say something if I see a thread about it and disagree with a point of view.
But then I worry that others may interpret what I say in the wrong way
Like...this maybe? :
There is something disgustingly self congratulatory in some of the posts some people made on that thread. This attitude: "I am privileged, but I am a better person than other whites because I acknowledge my privilege, and btw, dear POC's, please know that you have my support, I am so good to be willing to share a bit of my power with you by letting your voices be heard". Puke inducing rhetoric.
Don't worry,
@worried_to_death, it's quite survivable. When you know your own self, your intentions, and the actual words you said, it doesn't really matter inside how others interpret them, and it's not painful when your words are misinterpreted or even twisted. Of course you can try again if your words are misinterpreted, and perhaps once again that will occur, but it doesn't change you, your motivations or intentions. And of course, you may not be heard that day, but it may still sink in later if it was of value.
My strong impression is that you like philosophers; here's what a few had to say about such dilemmas. Maybe something here will serve you, though you didn't say you were concerned about twisting or other such aggressions, in which case, only the first quote is applicable:
"Always remember that it is impossible to speak in such a way that you cannot be misunderstood: there will always be some who misunderstand you." (Karl Popper)
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"Whenever someone does you a wrong or speaks ill of you, remember that he is doing what he thinks is proper. He can't possibly be guided by what appears right to you, but only what appears right to him. So if he sees things wrongly, he is the one who is hurt, because he is the one who has been deceived...Starting from this reasoning, you will be mild toward whoever insults you. Say each time, 'So it seemed to him.'" (Epictetus)
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"When Archelaus, king of Macedonia, was walking along the street, someone dumped water on him. The king's attendants said that he should punish the man. 'Ah, but he did not dump the water on me,' the king replied, 'but on the man he thought I was.' When Socrates was told that people spoke ill of him, he said, 'Not at all. There is nothing in me of what they say.'" (Montaigne)
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"These eight worldly conditions, monks, keep the world turning around, and the world turns around these eight worldly conditions. What eight? Gain and loss, fame and disrepute, praise and blame, pleasure and pain.
"These eight worldly conditions, monks, are encountered by an uninstructed worldling, and they are also encountered by an instructed noble disciple. What now is the distinction, the disparity, the difference between an instructed noble disciple and an uninstructed worldling?
"...[W]hen an instructed noble disciple comes upon gain, he reflects on it thus: 'This gain that has come to me is impermanent, bound up with suffering, subject to change.' And so he will reflect when loss and so forth come upon him. He understands all these things as they really are, and they do not engross his mind. Thus he will not be elated by gain and dejected by loss; elated by fame and dejected by disrepute; elated by praise and dejected by blame; elated by pleasure and dejected by pain. Having thus given up likes and dislikes, he will be freed from...sorrow, lamentation, pain, dejection, and despair; he will be freed from suffering, I say." (Siddhartha Gautama)