Question about how people react to memes

[Black Rose Bunny]

Why is it that often times when people post a lot of suicidal/depression memes, their friends will reach out to them, and ask if they're ok, and offer love and support. But like when I do it (and I'm not saying I do these things for this purpose, just sometimes I forget how these things look to most people) but when I do it, my friends kind of avoid me and and talk to each other about how I'm making them uncomfortable and how I need to stop

I feel really bad about making people uncomfortable, and I don't want to make anyone depressed. I kind of forget a lot that it makes people uncomfortable, suicidal is all I ever really think about, and it's been this way for almost as long as I can remember, I used to try drowning myself in the bathtub when I was little, so like these thoughts seem pretty normal to me. And I don't think I have any understanding of how uncomfortable it makes people.
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And I'm sorry if this sounds entitled, I know I shouldn't be thinking like this, but it really hurts. I feel like my life doesn't matter to my friends. that probably sounds really bad and like I'm just trying to take people's time attention and energy, and like I'm being dramatic.

Tl:Dr: Why do sometimes people respond to suicide memes with concern and love, and other times with discomfort and avoidance?

 

[faust]

Well, honestly I do not know which one is better.
Because in an instance your friends may cross a boundary and start throwing at you some pro-life shit (believe me, I once tried to say that I am going to CTB and I regret doing that).
It is much better to tell your friends that you don't feel alright.
Suicide memes do not actually say you gonna CTB soon, maybe they think it is just your humor (like my friend's father joking about death on Christmas).
I do not encourage you to tell all your friends about your suicidal thoughts, but you certainly need to be a little bit more straightforward.
Sending you lots of love

 

[Carina]

It's really hard to tell why people would respond differently. I mean it could be perceived meaning behind it? Like if I posted a suicide meme on facebook, some would laugh, some would laugh and repost, some would send a PM of "so, bad day?" and others would send me a message of "you know I'll miss you, don't forget there's places if you want." and that'd be all they'd say.

Same meme, different reply based on how my friends know me, and know things about me (Basically from thinking I'm fine, knowing I'm treated, knowing.... well... attempts have been made) So my thought is, maybe something like that applies with you? Could they perhaps just know more about you, but instead of being understanding, or just supportive, they're like "you're doing this to us" instead?

Anyway, just a thought.

 

[Black Rose Bunny]

Well, honestly I do not know which one is better.
Because in an instance your friends may cross a boundary and start throwing at you some pro-life shit (believe me, I once tried to say that I am going to CTB and I regret doing that).
It is much better to tell your friends that you don't feel alright.
Suicide memes do not actually say you gonna CTB soon, maybe they think it is just your humor (like my friend's father joking about death on Christmas).
I do not encourage you to tell all your friends about your suicidal thoughts, but you certainly need to be a little bit more straightforward.
Sending you lots of love

I'm pretty sure they know I'm serious, ive had a lot of attempts before and I've been told I kind of radiate depression. And yeah it's probably for the best but it still hurts bad. Like it honestly feels like they just don't care. It's just me killing myself so it doesn't matter, at all, it's not even worth taking 10 seconds to send a kind message

 

[faust]

I'm pretty sure they know I'm serious, ive had a lot of attempts before and I've been told I kind of radiate depression. And yeah it's probably for the best but it still hurts bad. Like it honestly feels like they just don't care. It's just me killing myself so it doesn't matter, at all, it's not even worth taking 10 seconds to send a kind message

I know that may be not an appropriate example, but I had something similar in my life. Once I fully disappeared and my friends were looking for me. And after I "returned" I was told: once something will really happen to you and nobody will take it serious. So guess might be something similar to you.

 

[Black Rose Bunny]

It's really hard to tell why people would respond differently. I mean it could be perceived meaning behind it? Like if I posted a suicide meme on facebook, some would laugh, some would laugh and repost, some would send a PM of "so, bad day?" and others would send me a message of "you know I'll miss you, don't forget there's places if you want." and that'd be all they'd say.

Same meme, different reply based on how my friends know me, and know things about me (Basically from thinking I'm fine, knowing I'm treated, knowing.... well... attempts have been made) So my thought is, maybe something like that applies with you? Could they perhaps just know more about you, but instead of being understanding, or just supportive, they're like "you're doing this to us" instead?

Anyway, just a thought.

I've been in the hospital a lot last year, and I think most of my friends know I've attempted suicide. But yea maybe they see it like that instead

 

[Beautiful_Disgrace]

My memes must be funnier because all I get are laugh reacts and likes. Then again, I hide all of my suicidal thoughts and most of my depression from my friends.

I mean, it could be worse. You could get absolutely no reaction to your memes.

 

[Black Rose Bunny]

I know that may be not an appropriate example, but I had something similar in my life. Once I fully disappeared and my friends were looking for me. And after I "returned" I was told: once something will really happen to you and nobody will take it serious. So guess might be something similar to you.

That's really rough, I'm sorry. Maybe that's it. Honestly I've been thinking the same thing, its one if the reasons why I kind of look forward to dieing. Not in like a revenge way, but more of it being proof I'm serious and not like this to be malicious

My memes must be funnier because all I get are laugh reacts and likes. Then again, I hide all of my suicidal thoughts and most of my depression from my friends.

I mean, it could be worse. You could get absolutely no reaction to your memes.

Maybe yea. And I don't think that would necessarily be worse.

 

[faust]

That's really rough, I'm sorry. Maybe that's it. Honestly I've been thinking the same thing, its one if the reasons why I kind of look forward to dieing. Not in like a revenge way, but more of it being proof I'm serious and not like this to be malicious

You don't need to prove anything neither to yourself, nor to anybody else. This is your life and it should you be your choice, not a way to prove your intentions.

 

[Beautiful_Disgrace]

Maybe yea. And I don't think that would necessarily be worse.

Maybe I was self projecting a bit there at the end. I hate when people ignore me, especially when I clearly am going through something. It really gets under my skin.

 

[Black Rose Bunny]

You don't need to prove anything neither to yourself, nor to anybody else. This is your life and it should you be your choice, not a way to prove your intentions.

Well I mean it's the only way for them to know that, but obviously this isn't the only reason why, it's more of a bonus

 

[faust]

Well I mean it's the only way for them to know that, but obviously this isn't the only reason why, it's more of a bonus

True, better say how are you feeling now?

 

[the box is empty]

I guess it depends on the audience. I'm selective about whom I share my gallows humour with. The more time you spend with someone the more you get a feel for their sense of humour. A lot of times what I share gets responded to with "yeah i felt that lol" but no one's really expressed any disdain for it. Maybe I just surround myself with equally messed up people.

 

[Black Rose Bunny]

True, better say how are you feeling now?

They'll never take me seriously, they won't know, and I'll just look dramatic. The only way really for them to know for sure is if I actually do it and succeed. Because even if you fail, they'll still say you knew you wouldn't die

 

[Ardesevent]

My friends just saw them all as jokes, and I never told them otherwise. No reaction, basically. But then again, I might just have bad taste in memes.
I'm a freshman in college though, so it could also just be the fact that everyone's still in their late teens for the most part too.
The whole 'ha your attempt failed so you must want to live, now go to the hospital and lose $21,000' idea sucks. Really makes me wonder if people think about why people attempt suicide in the first place at all.

 

[Black Rose Bunny]

My friends just saw them all as jokes, and I never told them otherwise. No reaction, basically. But then again, I might just have bad taste in memes.
I'm a freshman in college though, so it could also just be the fact that everyone's still in their late teens for the most part too.
The whole 'ha your attempt failed so you must want to live, now go to the hospital and lose $21,000' idea sucks. Really makes me wonder if people think about why people attempt suicide in the first place at all.

Yeah I'm 21, most of my friends are a few years older though.

Yeah ambulances are expensive af, and they still took me and billed me even though I said no