Putting a shell around yourself

[sserafim]

Someone told me that they feel like I'm "putting some sort of shell around [myself]." What does this mean?

 

[Blue Elephant]

You should ask them!

 

[sserafim]

You should ask them!

They didn't reply or explain lol

 

[Blurry_Buildings]

I think it means that they think you are being emotionally distant. Like not sharing much information about yourself or how your day went or what is happening in your life with them.

They may want to be friends or have a closer relationship. They are probably saying this because they want you to "open up" or talk to them more.

 

[DarkRange55]

They didn't reply or explain lol

I think thats your answer

 

[sserafim]

I think thats your answer

Wdym

 

[KafkaF]

Someone told me that they feel like I'm "putting some sort of shell around [myself]." What does this mean?

I'd say there are two likely interpretations:

1. I believe you're autistic, correct? Well, if you're not familiar with it, masking is common for autistic people to engage in especially. It may refer to that. And that they feel that.

2. They just feel you don't let other people get emotionally close to you. You don't allow yourself to be emotional and vulnerable around them. Don't let yourself care about them, etc.

I'd say the second is the most likely.

 

[DarkRange55]

Wdym

My mistake, I misread the post. I thought you meant them. I think @KafkaF is right. Putting up walls so you don't let people get close to you.

 

[Blue Elephant]

Putting up walls so you don't let people get close to you.

Isn't that what all people do?

 

[DarkRange55]

Isn't that what all people do?

No, I wouldn't say so.

 

[sserafim]

I'd say there are two likely interpretations:

1. I believe you're autistic, correct? Well, if you're not familiar with it, masking is common for autistic people to engage in especially. It may refer to that. And that they feel that.

2. They just feel you don't let other people get emotionally close to you. You don't allow yourself to be emotional and vulnerable around them. Don't let yourself care about them, etc.

I'd say the second is the most likely.

I think that vulnerability is a sign of weakness lol. Also, I've never trusted anyone enough to confide in them

No, I wouldn't say so.

Why? What are normal/most people like?

I think it means that they think you are being emotionally distant. Like not sharing much information about yourself or how your day went or what is happening in your life with them.

They may want to be friends or have a closer relationship. They are probably saying this because they want you to "open up" or talk to them more.

What kind of closer relationship?

 

[KafkaF]

I think that vulnerability is a sign of weakness lol. Also, I've never trusted anyone enough to confide in them

Why? What are normal/most people like?

What kind of closer relationship?

Lol. Then you probably have your answer, I guess.

 

[sserafim]

Lol. Then you probably have your answer, I guess.

Wdym? I guess I just don't feel comfortable with someone else fulling knowing me. I don't want to fully reveal myself to someone

 

[KafkaF]

I guess I just don't feel comfortable with someone else fulling knowing me

I can understand that. The more you expose yourself, the more you leave yourself open to be hurt. Though in my mind there is never a risk of that. Nobody can ever truly know someone else fully, in my opinion. But to be known deeply I do think is an incredible experience. It is a high like no other I've ever experienced.

To be truly seen for who you are, and have someone love you not in spite of who you truly are but because of who you truly are. Because they know you and they truly see you. That is something special.

 

[Guy Smiley]

I guess I just don't feel comfortable with someone else fulling knowing me

I don't even fully know myself.

 

[sserafim]

I don't even fully know myself.

Me neither

 

[KafkaF]

I don't even fully know myself.

I think there are two kinds of people: Those who think they fully know themselves, and those who know better.

I don't think anyone fully knows themselves. We often can and do discover new things about ourselves. I know I do.

 

[Pluto]

 

[Blurry_Buildings]

What kind of closer relationship?

A closer friendship or if they are a family member more conversations together.

 

[Blue Elephant]

No, I wouldn't say so.

Yeah, you might be right, if it's one thing that people are known for it is honesty. /s