Venting Probably lost important person

[Z3r0]

Well I think that I lost one of most important persons of my life. I knew this was coming but not so soon. It all started yesterday when she asked me what are we, cuz our relationship looked like we were couple and we acted that way, but we werent couple. After my previous relationship I struggle with my self-esteem. I know I have fucked up and I did same to her. I was giving her false signs and hope. Now I told her that I need a break to think and have no idea what to do. Should I just leave her? I know it won't be the same anymore and she deserves someone better.

 

[Z3r0]

I didnt mean to ctb myself cuz of that.I just dont know what should I do

 

[healthrecovery]

Take a break...go watch tv series lost...have a few beers

 

[Z3r0]

Should I return to her? I have hurt her so much by giving her false hopes and signs. It wont be the same anymore and I hate it

 

[healthrecovery]

Call her and tell her you need some time
If you having doubts you might as well break up

 

[FuneralCry]

It is your life and only you know what is best for yourself. I'm sorry you are in this situation, it sounds complicated. Living really is painful. Whatever happens, I wish you the best.

 

[rationaltake]

Should I return to her? I have hurt her so much by giving her false hopes and signs. It wont be the same anymore and I hate it

Do you want to return to her? Why is it false hope?

 

[Z3r0]

I kinda feel like everyone I know gets hurt by me. This summer I isolated myself from everyone for like a month but I came back after everyone started to worry and contact my family. I really like her but I don't feel like I deserve relationships. By saying false hope I mean we having sex, kissing, cuddling acting like a couple even tho we aren't and I know it hurts her so I can't pick whether I should leave her for her own good or stay even tho it won't be same anymore

 

[rationaltake]

I kinda feel like everyone I know gets hurt by me. This summer I isolated myself from everyone for like a month but I came back after everyone started to worry and contact my family. I really like her but I don't feel like I deserve relationships. By saying false hope I mean we having sex, kissing, cuddling acting like a couple even tho we aren't and I know it hurts her so I can't pick whether I should leave her for her own good or stay even tho it won't be same anymore

I see. Maybe it would help to work out why you don't feel you deserve a relationship. And to think about if you could be part of a couple.

 

[Z3r0]

Yeah. Thank all of you for replies

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

Yeah. Thank all of you for replies

I have no idea because I don't know either of you or the nature of your relationship. But as somebody who lost the love of their life, I would say try to stick around and see if you can find a way better connecting.

 

[Z3r0]

Update: Today we talked for like 4 hours and I said I want to be with her, but not now, I feel anxious when thinking about relationships, how much of responsibility it is, how I might hurt her or being hurt. I feel like being with her won't make me happy neither, like there's nothing to make me feel good. Anyway, we decided to act like before all of this, the same way. Thank you all for support, really.

 

[rationaltake]

Update: Today we talked for like 4 hours and I said I want to be with her, but not now, I feel anxious when thinking about relationships, how much of responsibility it is, how I might hurt her or being hurt. I feel like being with her won't make me happy neither, like there's nothing to make me feel good. Anyway, we decided to act like before all of this, the same way. Thank you all for support, really.

You're welcome. Glad you'll still be seeing her.