I just saw a reel on Instagram.
This guy who said: "hey, if depression wins, and you end your life, your family and friends will feel terrible, bla bla bla." (And the classic: "the world is better with you here". Lol, sure).
Now, are these people serious?
Like, they really think we don't know this? That people we know will feel sad?
Wtf they expect, after saying these words?
That I (or someone else) see that video and think: "damn, he's right, from tomorrow I'll not be depress anymore! Life is good, after all".
Seriously?
Just shut up.
I mean, I can even understand why they try to "help", but like this, with this "Guilty trip"...
Maybe is because they've lost a friend, because of depression.
But they're just so annoying.
I don't believe they actuwllynow what they're talking about.
Yeah. It's really illogical to go around thinking guilt tripping someone into not being suicidal will make them not suicidal. It doesn't address the root of the problem. Like you said, nobody who is suicidal thinks that people will be unaffected.(Unless they are in psychosis or something) It's more of this feel-good thing people say so they can care without actually caring.
There's this one episode of The Golden Girls that stands out to me. In the episode Sophia's friend, who's never appeared on the show before, expresses her suicidal intent to Sophia. Her reasoning is that she is old and alone, and this has no more reasons to live. When the time for Sophia's friend to kill herself arrives, Sophia talks her out of it. Sophia reasons that she and her friend can become better friends — best friends.Sophia goes on about how her friend can visit her every week, how she can come over every holiday, how there's still so many things left for them to do together, etc.
After the episode ends, Sophia's friend doesn't appear on the show again. Her recovery is never mentioned.
That's how I feel about this topic. People generally won't let you jump off a ledge. (Though bystander effect is horribly powerful these days) It's objectively a pretty bad look, wether it's other people watching you, or just yourself. Nobody wants to admit to themselves that they let somebody jump off a ledge. However, people have no problem watching you walk up to said ledge. Oftentimes they encourage you to pick up the pace.
As long as they weren't the ones who let you jump, their conscience is clear. What happened before and what would have happened after if you didn't jump doesn't actually matter. It's not their problem. They just need to feel good about themselves.
Expecting someone to live just so you can carry on with your life and feel good about yourself while they suffer... It's pretty selfish if you ask me
Could be an adventure. Why deny yourself an opportunity to transcend the everyday mold?
That very much depends on where you live. Realistically the odds of homelessness being an overall positive experience is slim. The experience can be transformative, but that's a transformation for the worse...
People like that kind of content because it makes them feel good about themselves, they feel they are putting positivity out into the world and they get validation in the form of likes.
Good point. It's an easy way to get validation and feel good energy without actually helping a single person.
