Preoccupation with appearance and constant need for validation

[Chlo]

Everyone always says not to care what others think of you, but the way people perceive you fucking matters in this world.

 

[Final Escape]

Yea I had this really bad as a young lady and it was really ruinous. This is why the creation of celebrity is so toxic. If society rewards or elevates certain people a little too much for shallow superficial attributes it creates this feeling in us that we are only valuable if we look like celebrities. I'm not saying that there should not be actors and actresses and famous people. The problem is that Hollywood takes this to a perverse level, and gives celebrities this god like status when they are just ordinary people who happened to have some acting talent or exceptional beauty. Hollywood is closely tied in with control over our minds and our perceptions of the world or society around us.

The controllers try to shape our beliefs, views, moral values to fit whatever agenda they have for us. Typically not for our benefit. So u must let go that your value is tied to your appearance too much. I mean it's good to look nice and take care of yourself as much as possible to present well. Obviously people don't like to see when someone clearly does not care how they look or is a slob. I'm just saying be realistic with yourself about how far u go to impress others because your looks alone will not make people love u genuinely. You still need to be a good person if u can, and people mostly appreciate that more than if u are really pretty but a selfish asshole. They elevate physical beauty to demphasize any focus on actual things that matter in the long run like happy relationships, love, family.

 

[BabyYoda]

If I were to break conventional beauty standards then it would be best for me to isolate myself from society. There was a post I saw somewhere on FB saying that people are tired of being photoshopped for their acne and the last photo said that "acne is normal" which IMO is fucking ridiculous since there are some who are on meds for it. Humans tend to gravitate towards what is pleasing to the eyes whether we like it or not. Especially when it comes to dating. Really, we should all stop believing that there are as many guys who focus on personality as those who focus on appearance. The media has led us to believe that even if you look like a typical nerd some knight in shining armor will come to rescue you. It's all a fucking fantasy. In the first place, we have these so-called romance for the sake of maintaining the population. That is why so many couples break up when someone makes a small mistake or when the honeymoon shit is over. No matter how much we tell ourselves not to look for a perfect person since no one is perfect, we still have this idealized image of a partner which only exists in fairy tales. Because perfect + perfect = perfect. Fuck dating culture. It seems that the people in my school would NOT prefer a long-term relationship, which is what I initially wanted. You can just search for porn if you're horny, it's that fucking easy. But having someone to support you over the long run is different. So that's why I would probably opt to have platonic relationships instead of romantic since I don't want all the fucking mess.

 

[lofistos345]

Pretty people are very depressive and have lots of emotional issues especially woman. If you are a woman who is really pretty it can be a curse. All guys wanting to date you but none of them are with you because they know you realself. It can be very disturbing.

 

[PwincessStepford]

Yes, a big part of the reason I want to ctb is my looks. I even had plastic surgery, but the results came out bad, and I don't have another $20K to fix it

 

[Worthless_nobody]

Pretty people are very depressive and have lots of emotional issues especially woman. If you are a woman who is really pretty it can be a curse. All guys wanting to date you but none of them are with you because they know you realself. It can be very disturbing.

This really really this!! People think that beauty automatically should make someone happy. People talk about and wish they were pretty but there is a VERY over looked aspect to it and you described it here. In my case I had a true love but I was a fool and never went back to him and he is now dead...all others were just users who only want me for "look" and not me.