Positive thinking from interacting here.

[hoping to lose hope]

I am nearly never optimistic and it is really short with no real planning at all so entirely useless but this changed today because
I started actually thinking about myself and decided I really ought to give a realistic approach to leaning to manage my emotions and negative attitude better.
So I said to myself you either commit to dying or using the skills you have learnt to cope and try to find a way to enjoy a life you never if rarely have.
I do not know about you guys but my mood changes can be fast and last up to 4 days but I always go gung-ho either way.
It is never baby steps towards improving but trying to climb a mountain before I have even tied my boots lolz and the same for my destructiveness of self!!

I guess In this current moment I am slightly positive but do worry as always it will randomly change sigh..
That is ok I can try to remember the skills I have trained :3
You guys ever get like this?

 

[ovaltinee99]

Have you tried therapy? If you're interested in changing perspectives and managing attitudes, it's important you get all the help you need.

 

[hoping to lose hope]

Have you tried therapy? If you're interested in changing perspectives and managing attitudes, it's important you get all the help you need.

yes I tried therapy and I know like the skills and stuff but do not bother using them most the time as I hate myself : /
Have you done therapy at all???

 

[Niftypoint124]

I feel like this all the time! New around here, but an all-night chat with some folks in the Chat alongside interacting with folks in the Forums has been immensely helpful. If mood oscillation is an issue, have you tried to learn some kind of mindfulness/meditation practice? Sometimes it's nice to be able to give yourself some internal "space" to consider and respond before simply reacting to how you feel. (Said as someone who struggles with this themselves - it's hard, but good to work on!)

 

[hoping to lose hope]

I do and it does really help I am trying to relax now actually to do the best I can to remain in this mood which is waning sigh..
I think we should be teaching mindfulness skills in elementary they are soo important.

 

[Niftypoint124]

I do and it does really help I am trying to relax now actually to do the best I can to remain in this mood which is waning sigh..
I think we should be teaching mindfulness skills in elementary they are soo important.

I agree. I really, really wish this was something I had been exposed to--not to mention coached on--light years before reaching the here and now. The ability to respond instead of react is crucial to getting through most situations involving the greater public. ;P

I've been trying to find some good mindfulness exercises, videos, etc to share around here. If you find any you like, please share!

 

[muffin222]

I can relate to what you're saying. I agree that if you want to truly shift perspectives, it's beneficial to make a firm decision that you want to live and cultivate more positive, life-affirming coping skills. Then, channel your energy into learning and applying new coping skills in your daily life. Easier said than done, of course.
I lingered in limbo for months- not dying, yet not investing any concrete effort into bettering my situation. It's a terrible, soul-crushing position to live in everyday.

What aided me was researching and trying to view my life and my struggles like a non-suicidal person would. How do non-suicidal people deal with bad days, bad moods, and emotional distress in healthy ways? They exercise, journal, practice mindfulness, meditate, connect with friends and family, listen to music, watch movies, do yoga, hit the gym, bake cookies, play Candy Crush, do self-care, remind themselves that this too shall pass, etc, etc.

I started asking myself that question whenever a painful mood would strike. Then, I'd make a conscious choice to implement one of these healthier strategies, as opposed to my default position of thinking about suicide and wanting to die whenever I felt bad. Yeah, I often feel dead inside while implementing these strategies and coping mechanisms, but, gradually over time, I've found my mental attitude shifting to a more positive shade.

It's gritty, hard, tedious, monotonous work changing your mindset and your perceptions, no doubt about it. But if you persist, I'm certain you'll notice a profound shift within yourself as time passes, however subtle and fleeting your progress may appear to be in the initial stages.

I hope at least some of this helped