Help Please, I'm back in the depression spiral

[Xenoverse_104]

Hello everyone I am a 19-year-old boy living in Italy. I am back in a regime of stress and sadness as a result of an argument that occurred between me and another person in a heavy way, with other people outside the matter taking a stand against me without even knowing me. After being harassed, denigrated, belittled and publicly mocked, I don't know what to do anymore. Excuse me for writing this post, especially since my request for registration on the site now no longer reflects me. I am not here to give help, but to ask for it. Please.

 

[ishiguro]

Time will help you recover from this pain. I have found meaning from watching films. You may take comfort from watching a film or reading a book about someone going through a similar situation. Even a podcast about something totally unrelated may give you insight about how to move forward.

 

[mirage]

Time will help you recover from this pain. I have found meaning from watching films. You may take comfort from watching a film or reading a book about someone going through a similar situation. Even a podcast about something totally unrelated may give you insight about how to move forward.

Agreed. It may seem like the biggest thing in the world now but in a few months you will care less and in a year or so you won't give any fucks. You should learn to not care what people think, people are dumb and ignorant, you can't live your life trying to prove something to them.

 

[EternalShore]

I mean, they're right~ Wounds heal with time (and sleep!)~ :) It's hard to know given what you describe but given how close they are to you, whether they're likely to forgive you, etc. (don't make assumptions just because you don't feel confident about this btw!; male friends also tend to let go of past arguments more readily), I'd do your best to distance yourself from them and depending on how well you are socially, try to establish or build connections with others not connected at all with the incident instead~ :)

 

[Xenoverse_104]

I mean, they're right~ Wounds heal with time (and sleep!)~ :) It's hard to know given what you describe but given how close they are to you, whether they're likely to forgive you, etc. (don't make assumptions just because you don't feel confident about this btw!; male friends also tend to let go of past arguments more readily), I'd do your best to distance yourself from them and depending on how well you are socially, try to establish or build connections with others not connected at all with the incident instead~ :)

Unfortunately this has been going on since November 2024, after 3 months of almost quiet (just yesterday) this old private discussion between me and a girl resurfaced. A friend of hers just yesterday wrote to me with her account. I don't know why he did it, in these months I always explained how I understood my mistakes and that we can move on, but as soon as I barely introduced her mistakes, this friend of hers immediately went on the defensive insulting me and saying that what she did is not remotely comparable to my of mistakes (without even using his words, but her's, like a parrot). I have no way of defending myself or countering, the asshole in the situation will always be me apparently.

Agreed. It may seem like the biggest thing in the world now but in a few months you will care less and in a year or so you won't give any fucks. You should learn to not care what people think, people are dumb and ignorant, you can't live your life trying to prove something to them.

Trying something to them is also useless. She goes at alternating times when she seeks me out and then hates me. This friend of hers, on the other hand (who insulted me in the worst ways) didn't even use his own words. I have spent the last few months proving 100% of me has improved, but I will always be a dumbfuck

 

[EternalShore]

Unfortunately this has been going on since November 2024, after 3 months of almost quiet (just yesterday) this old private discussion between me and a girl resurfaced. A friend of hers just yesterday wrote to me with her account. I don't know why he did it, in these months I always explained how I understood my mistakes and that we can move on, but as soon as I barely introduced her mistakes, this friend of hers immediately went on the defensive insulting me and saying that what she did is not remotely comparable to my of mistakes (without even using his words, but her's, like a parrot). I have no way of defending myself or countering, the asshole in the situation will always be me apparently.

considering what you described, I'd get the heck out of there and never try to do anything with any of them again~ >_< When I've shared accounts like that, it usually means the other person has seriously wronged me, and I'm just getting someone who can speak to them stronger than I can~ at this point, I would learn from your mistakes and leave them be~ I'm kinda shocked they haven't blocked you yet but whatever ig~

 

[Xenoverse_104]

considering what you described, I'd get the heck out of there and never try to do anything with any of them again~ >_< When I've shared accounts like that, it usually means the other person has seriously wronged me, and I'm just getting someone who can speak to them stronger than I can~ at this point, I would learn from your mistakes and leave them be~ I'm kinda shocked they haven't blocked you yet but whatever ig~

Wdym? the other person was just repeating things I've already heard, according to them it was just to repeat the same concept to me for the thousandth time. What makes me angry is how I have to be publicly humiliated by strangers for things that don't even concern them. I feel humiliated and confused at the same time. As if I was the only one to make mistakes as a human, while she is not, she is the perfect being who never makes mistakes...
(I'm only confused and too tired to translate and understand english, pls don't get this as an aggressive reply)

 

[EternalShore]

Wdym? the other person was just repeating things I've already heard, according to them it was just to repeat the same concept to me for the thousandth time. What makes me angry is how I have to be publicly humiliated by strangers for things that don't even concern them. I feel humiliated and confused at the same time. As if I was the only one to make mistakes as a human, while she is not, she is the perfect being who never makes mistakes...
(I'm only confused and too tired to translate and understand english, pls don't get this as an aggressive reply)

okay~ >_< To be honest, I would just leave them. They are no longer interested in being friends with you. They just wish to hurt you. :(

 

[Xenoverse_104]

okay~ >_< To be honest, I would just leave them. They are no longer interested in being friends with you. They just wish to hurt you. :(

To be honest, she was my ex gf. Sometimes she's looking for me, and sometimes she hates me. I absolutely love her. She's my love. This is killing me and I have no friends or family to fall back on.

 

[cme-dme]

I've been in a situation similar to yours - Long distance relationship, toxic gf who seemed to either love me or hate me depending on the day, very toxic relationship. Unfortunately I was young and gullible at the time and didn't realize how much she was hurting me. She broke up with me and I couldn't move on. She tried to get into a relationship with another guy and due to my inability to move on, my life was a living hell for that time. If I could go back in time and do it again, I would have moved on right after we broke up.

To be honest, she was my ex gf. Sometimes she's looking for me, and sometimes she hates me. I absolutely love her. She's my love. This is killing me and I have no friends or family to fall back on.

It hurts reading this because I remember feeling the exact same way. It's a harsh lesson to learn but you have to be able to move on and get away from the people who are hurting you >.< You will feel better in the long run if you remove this person from your life as soon as you can, I can promise you that :) If you are unable to move on she will just drag you down and make your life miserable. Don't make the same mistakes I did :(