ItHurtsSoMuch
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- Mar 18, 2022
- 14
Today I reached a point of clarity regarding my desire to ctb. The pain today was unbelievable, and I had to attend a family Easter dinner. It was such a struggle to make it through. But it was one simple thing today that made me realize the time is now and I need to finalize my plan. I have a friend that I believed cared about me. I was holding on for him, and have been for the last year, because he said it mattered to him that I was in this world. We don't talk or text every day, but we had a method to just acknowledge we're glad the other is not dead through Facebook. We both comment on something on a page every day, and then we like each other's comment. Usually I comment first, then he likes my comment, and then he makes a comment, and I like his comment. I know that may seem silly, but it kept me holding on, that one little "like" every day for more than a year. But not today. I commented, he commented, I liked his comment, but he never liked mine. He didn't give me the acknowledgement that he's glad that I'm alive. I've been thinking lately that maybe he's not. I feel like for him just to care about me is a burden on him. He knows he's the beneficiary of my life insurance, that he will get a lot of money if I die, no matter how I die, and I really think that now he's thinking about that money. How much it would improve his life, and the lives of those he cares about. So I think that lack of acknowledgement is his way of telling me it's ok to go now. He knows I'm suicidal. He knows I'm in pain. So now I'm completing my plan, and I have a date, May 29. I'm trying to hold on until that day because that's the day my husband died, and if I die on the same day, my kids and grandkids will only have the one day a year to be sad because of our deaths. My husband will be gone four years this May 29. Now I just have to figure out time, place, and method. I have a will, so no worries about who gets what. Part of me really wants to be at home where I'm comfortable, but that would be too hard on my son and grandson who live with me. Maybe I'll go to the beach and rent a hotel room for several days so there is no risk of anyone finding me too soon. Thoughts or suggestions on that? I'm still trying to figure out method as well. I initially was considering jumping from a high place, but I don't want to inflict trauma on strangers anymore than I can help it. I also thought about swimming out in the ocean until I'm exhausted, but there has to be a body for me to be declared dead and for insurance to pay. Due to multiple surgeries in the past year, I have enough opioids to tranquilize a horse. Any thoughts on that? Also, notes or letters for loved ones, I'm not sure how to handle. I want to try to help them understand, to let them know this is not on any of them, it's all me. Any thoughts on that?
Every day is a real struggle, and it mostly has been since I first attempted suicide, and obviously failed, 40 years ago this week. I was young, and just didn't take enough, and was found by my mother before I could die. I don't want that to happen again, and every single day now I wish I had succeeded then. Any thoughts on how to hold on for six more weeks, and anything else I've mentioned would be appreciated. And thank you for reading. It's so good to have a place where I can say this without worry.
Every day is a real struggle, and it mostly has been since I first attempted suicide, and obviously failed, 40 years ago this week. I was young, and just didn't take enough, and was found by my mother before I could die. I don't want that to happen again, and every single day now I wish I had succeeded then. Any thoughts on how to hold on for six more weeks, and anything else I've mentioned would be appreciated. And thank you for reading. It's so good to have a place where I can say this without worry.