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[Things2do1st&ThenCtb]

I don't know what to do about my pet.

I can let go of myself today, but my heart breaks when I think about my baby.

I hate this world.

 

[cosmicpixiedust]

Facebook rehoming groups, AARF. the shelter (if needed), yardsale sites on Facebook. Anything is better than nothing, trust me I am in a very similar place and have thought about it.

 

[MsMaudlin]

I totally understand.
I love my cats more than most of my family and I am stressing about when I have gone ❤

 

[Lostandfound7]

My poor doggie is what I kept me when I was on the edge too..so I know what u mean

 

[Things2do1st&ThenCtb]

I totally understand.
I love my cats more than most of my family and I am stressing about when I have gone ❤

Me too. So much. I don't know what to do.

 

[MsMaudlin]

Me too. So much. I don't know what to do.

I'm going to write some suggestions down for when I have gone. I have a mum and her 2 sons and I know realistically not many would adopt 3 together ❤

 

[voyager]

Tbh, I'd stick around. Not you, respectively, I. It's not meant as judgement. To me pets are like family, my kids. I wouldn't leave them. Which is also why I have neither anymore (had no kids, didn't give them away if you're wondering). Had two dogs, two cats, and loved them all. The hamsters, too. At the moment all I can do is take care of a roamer here. She comes in usually twice a day. She's a little difficult at times due to her past, but it's good to have her around. We also feed the birds. Unfortunately, the birds feed the cats too.

 

[BPD Barbie]

This made me think about this post. Pets are amazing, they give so much comfort it's unreal. I hope you figure out what to do, there are many options but nothing as good as the love you give them. They will miss you also. Sending love

 

[autumnal]

Have a look at my suggestion post.

 

[Pricelessadvice]

Love isn't a big enough word for how I feel about my dogs.

 

[elacnt]

I've been thinking about CTB A LOT! lately since my life started to fall apart. My cat got sick, my little baby angel. Then I lost my job and friends, the person I love the most, got in an accident, away from my family...
As I was having all kinds of troubles she was the only thing that kept me going. Because she was ill and she needed me more than ever, so I was hanging on the best I could, all because of her.
Then 1 week and a half ago she started to get worse so quickly and passed away. Now I don't really have anything else holding me to this world anymore. She was my everything and now she's gone and I can't stand the pain of not having her by my side anymore.

But if I had to go and she was still here, I'd be sure she'd stay with someone I trust a lot and I knew she'd be safe with them.

 

[Thereisnothing]

I don't know what to do about my pet.

I can let go of myself today, but my heart breaks when I think about my baby.

I hate this world.

What animal companion do you have and name etc?

 

[voyager]

I've been thinking about CTB A LOT! lately since my life started to fall apart. My cat got sick, my little baby angel. Then I lost my job and friends, the person I love the most, got in an accident, away from my family...
As I was having all kinds of troubles and she was the only thing that kept me going. Because she was ill and she needed me more than ever, so I was hanging on the best I could, all because of her.
Then 1 week and a half ago she started to get worse so quickly and passed away. Now I don't really have anything else holding me to this world anymore. She was my everything and now she's gone and I can't stand the pain of not having her by my side anymore.

But if I had to go and she was still here, I'd be sure she'd stay with someone I trust a lot and I knew she'd be safe with them.

Sorry about that. Know what you mean, too. Had a really, really bad patch once where everything came together, like life telling me "do it, do it, do it you pussy!". It sucks. Much strength to you. Hope you find solace.

PS: Welcome.

 

[elacnt]

Sorry about that. Know what you mean, too. Had a really, really bad patch once where everything came together, like life telling me "do it, do it, do it you pussy!". It sucks. Much strength to you. Hope you find solace.

PS: Welcome.

Thank you.
And I always find myself in the same situation over the years and during my entire life, it's like cyclical, no matter what I do to make it different. So I'm just tired and now I guess I finally have had enough.
But I know everything will end well.

 

[soundsofsilence]

I completely understand and feel your pain.
My cat is the reason I am delaying ctb.

Thank you.
And I always find myself in the same situation over the years and during my entire life, it's like cyclical, no matter what I do to make it different. So I'm just tired and now I guess I finally have had enough.
But I know everything will end well.

I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[Halo13]

My dog is all I have left. Just looking at him thinking about leaving him all alone puts a lump in my throat. Of course I'd re-home him beforehand, he's such a sweetheart it'd be simple because everyone likes him - he's the most bouncy, happy and well mannered, well tempered dog I've ever had. He's so attached to me though. By my side 24/7. I've had to leave him with neighbors when my suicidal issues got too bad or for hospital trips due to physical problems, they said all he did was whine by the door waiting for me. He barely ate, didn't sleep well and was sad then he exploded with happiness on my return. I don't know if he'd be okay after I'm gone and it kills me to think about. He has issues with his skin, allergies, needs particular grooming, a special diet, hip and knee problems and I worry someone else would give up on him because it's a lot to take care of, can be difficult at times... I've heard people scoff saying I spoil him but really, I have to do things like that due to being necessary for his health. I don't mind it at all, he's a good boy


Imagining him suffering without someone taking care of him properly breaks my heart.

I've been thinking about CTB A LOT! lately since my life started to fall apart. My cat got sick, my little baby angel. Then I lost my job and friends, the person I love the most, got in an accident, away from my family...
As I was having all kinds of troubles she was the only thing that kept me going. Because she was ill and she needed me more than ever, so I was hanging on the best I could, all because of her.
Then 1 week and a half ago she started to get worse so quickly and passed away. Now I don't really have anything else holding me to this world anymore. She was my everything and now she's gone and I can't stand the pain of not having her by my side anymore.

But if I had to go and she was still here, I'd be sure she'd stay with someone I trust a lot and I knew she'd be safe with them.

Hugs. So sorry to hear that.

 

[Ghost2211]

He will live another 30 years

 

[Jean4]

My cats are not adoptable. They would have to be euthanized.
They are my world and I am theirs. They trust me. How could I kill them when they trust me and I am their mother?
Personally, I can't. I can't be responsible for killing innocents.

 

[autumnal]

My cats are not adoptable. They would have to be euthanized.
They are my world and I am theirs. They trust me. How could I kill them when they trust me and I am their mother?
Personally, I can't. I can't be responsible for killing innocents.

There are some shelters that have cat retirement homes, where people leave money in their wills for their cats to be accomodated and cared for the rest of their lives. Not a cheap option, obviously.

 

[Roger]

My cats are not adoptable. They would have to be euthanized.
They are my world and I am theirs. They trust me. How could I kill them when they trust me and I am their mother?
Personally, I can't. I can't be responsible for killing innocents.

I feel similarly about my two dogs.

We are constant companions and comforters to each other. I know there are rehoming centres, but they don't guarantee being able to rehome a pair of dogs together; for them to lose me, and then lose each other . . . . . . the thought is nigh on unbearable. Euthanasia really does seem to be the only answer, though I can scarce believe that I am writing this . . . .

 

[Soul]

I feel similarly about my two dogs.

We are constant companions and comforters to each other. I know there are rehoming centres, but they don't guarantee being able to rehome a pair of dogs together; for them to lose me, and then lose each other . . . . . . the thought is nigh on unbearable. Euthanasia really does seem to be the only answer, though I can scarce believe that I am writing this . . . .

Wouldn't any of your friends/family be able to adopt them together? I've got a new home lined up for my two cats. I don't want them to die just because I'm dying 8[

 

[jgm63]

Some thoughts :

Spoiler: post-503530

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/ctb-what-happens-to-my-cat.27827/post-503530

 

[terry_a_davis]

I feel similarly about my two dogs.

We are constant companions and comforters to each other. I know there are rehoming centres, but they don't guarantee being able to rehome a pair of dogs together; for them to lose me, and then lose each other . . . . . . the thought is nigh on unbearable. Euthanasia really does seem to be the only answer, though I can scarce believe that I am writing this . . . .

Rehoming your dogs even if it meant parting them is better than killing them, dogs will readily form new bonds with caring new owners.

 

[autumnal]

----- Pasted from my original post -----

If it would be too upsetting (or suspicious) for you to totally surrender your pets before suicide, but you also don't want to risk them starving or escaping if you suicide with them in the house, then perhaps you could place them into a boarding kennels or cattery for a few days either side of your attempt date?

You can pretend to the staff that you're going on holiday (or moving house, or fumigating), and make sure you leave both your own contact details and also the contact details for an emergency contact. That way, if you suicide and the staff can't contact you at the end of the stay, your emergency contact will be reached instead. That person doesn't have to know about your suicide plans, they just have to be someone you know will either take care of your pet in your absence/death or help rehome your pet in accordance with what your wishes would be. Or you could further explain this in a note that you leave addressed to that person.

Obviously this requires a little bit of money for the boarding fees, but if you can afford this then it's surely a worthwhile expense. Plus it means your pet won't witness your death, if that's something you think would traumatise them. It also means there is no risk of permanently surrendering your pet and then backing out and being unable to recover them, which I can imagine would feel absolutely devastating.

Hope this idea is useful

 

[squirtsoda]

This one is so hard, I feel like if I had a puppy I wouldn't want to CTB. I value animals far more than humans.

 

[Livinginhell]

My 2 dogs are all I have and I love them more than anything. They are both rescues, 1 is a tripawd and the other is so scared at everything, even the wind blowing and I'm the only one who can calm and comfort him, that I don't think it'd be easy to rehome them, and as they came from a rescue I really wouldn't want them to go back into kennels for an unknown amount of time.
I did write a will leaving them to 2 good friends who absolutely love dogs and have their own, with any money I have left to look after them. But apparently they can refuse your wishes and then where will they go?
This is breaking my heart.

 

[Egddios]

I rehomed my cat this past June, it was heartbreaking, ugh, but I knew she'd have a chance at a better life with constant love. I knew my days were numbered even then, I was about to undergo more ECT.

I loved her so much, she was so funny, so sweet, super curious. She was with me through some very dark days.

Love you baby girl (bg):

 

[TimeTheTaleWereTold]

My cats are not adoptable. They would have to be euthanized.
They are my world and I am theirs. They trust me. How could I kill them when they trust me and I am their mother?
Personally, I can't. I can't be responsible for killing innocents.

i feel this way about my baby :-( my 15 year old kitty with hearing loss and a bad attitude to boot wouldn't fare well with anyone other than myself and my mum i think... of course she would still be cared for since she's my mum's cat too but even whenever i go to work, my cat will sit at my bedroom door and cry... i couldn't leave her...

 

[nerve]

I think it might be time to re-home my dog. He's 12, mostly deaf, blind in one eye, & has arthritis, kidney, and cognitive (dementia) issues. He spends most of his time sleeping and only really gets up to eat or go to the bathroom. At night, he just kind of paces around and has trouble controlling his bladder. I get out of bed to take him out two or three times a night and spent a lot of money I don't really have on diapers, cleaners, diet changes, and vet visits. It wasnt so difficult at first. It's just wearing on me and I'm struggling so much to enjoy having him around.

I know he deserves better than what I can offer him, even if I don't ctb. I have someone specific in mind I could give him to who loves him too, so I'm really grateful for that. I think that might be the beginning of the end for me. There'll really be no reason to drag myself out of bed if he's not here.