People don't really like suicidal people

[notemil3]

Being suicidal for years now has isolated me every time i tell someone that i want to take my life they leave me being alone makes things a lor easier tho no one will miss me if i die

 

[peacecomingsoon]

I understand, I'm so sorry this has happened to you. You're not alone in experiencing this and I think it's quite common. I've learned to just mask my true feelings and pretend I'm well to manage whenever I'm around people, even loved ones. I speak about my real feelings and thoughts on places like here or just write them down on locked notes on my phone to get it out. It's really sad this happens, please know you're not alone on here though.

 

[amor.dor]

Most people live in denial that they will die, even though, rationally, they know it will happen. However, the emotional side cannot fully feel this finitude. When someone reveals their intention to commit suicide, that person ends up reminding others of their mortality ,and the fear that arises is even greater, because, from a common point of view, death is seen as the worst of evils. So why would anyone choose death voluntarily? I believe this is why many tend to distance themselves from those who talk about suicide: it touches on something that no one wants to look at and is the only certainty in life: death.

 

[lawlietsph]

only suicidal people like other suicidal people. for "normal" people we are too much of a burden

 

[martyrdom]

I generally dislike quite a lot of suicidal people not because they are suicidal but because they tend to be insufferably self-centered.

 

[lawlietsph]

I generally dislike quite a lot of suicidal people not because they are suicidal but because they tend to be insufferably self-centered.

i have to say you have a point here

 

[finaldestination22]

only suicidal people like other suicidal people. for "normal" people we are too much of a burden

It's not only that but it's the human nature really. People even after losing loved ones that they think their life will be over if that person dies they recover, some faster some slower but they all do eventually. They remarry, date again, start hoping again for a new future. And I don't see that really as a bad thing, who knows how it is after you die maybe you are in a place where you really want your loved ones to be happy not miserable that you died.

I stopped dating for this reason too being suicidal and overall depressed does me no good to be a dark cloud over my partner. What can she do? Save me? I'vee been loved before and felt maybe even more empty than now. It's very draining to have a depressed partner around you all day. For many like us is better to be alone and try to get it all together before being around other people.

 

[eternalpace]

I don't think it's a case of not liking suicidal people… Telling someone you're suicidal might be an awkward topic of conversation and perhaps they don't know how to respond. Some might immediately respond with empathy… while others might think it's a cry for attention… and some others might simply not know how to respond.

 

[amor.dor]

It's not only that but it's the human nature really. People even after losing loved ones that they think their life will be over if that person dies they recover, some faster some slower but they all do eventually. They remarry, date again, start hoping again for a new future. And I don't see that really as a bad thing, who knows how it is after you die maybe you are in a place where you really want your loved ones to be happy not miserable that you died.

I stopped dating for this reason too being suicidal and overall depressed does me no good to be a dark cloud over my partner. What can she do? Save me? I'vee been loved before and felt maybe even more empty than now. It's very draining to have a depressed partner around you all day. For many like us is better to be alone and try to get it all together before being around other people.

I understand exactly what you mean...
We suffer and because we understand this so well, we don't want to spread it to the people we love, for these reasons we distanced ourselves. Yesterday my brother called me asking how I was, to see my niece, I just said I was fine and that I would go see her... when in fact yesterday I received my SN package.