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crystalskies31

Student
May 20, 2022
149
Hi,

I recently had someone ask to be partners in SN here.

I was wondering:
- What is the 'advantage' of having a partner in this? Does it make it more or less stressful? I can see that it would be less lonely but doesn't it also make another person who can call an ambulance... and you'll both be taking SN and dying so it may not even help w/reliability.

Thanks.
 
Lullaby

Lullaby

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Mar 9, 2022
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There's always a chance of someone backing out. Even if someone is really determined to go, SI can be hard to overcome, especially right before you CTB.

In the past, there's also been incidents where people use the partners thread to seek out others to harm; either emotionally or physically. I feel SS is pretty safe, but you always have to keep in mind this is a public forum and sometimes people join just to mess with people who are already emotionally fragile.

There have definitely been successful partnerships on here, but I guess it's trial and error sometimes. Just be safe.
 
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locked*n*loaded

Archangel
Apr 15, 2022
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I'll tell you another downside. Forget the backing out part. If you both attempt ctb and only one actually is successful, there is a great likelihood that LE will be able to charge the surviving one with some trumped-up charge of, at least, manslaughter or something like that, and prosecutors will pursure it and likely win. I'm speaking from a US perspective. What they will/can do in other countries, I have no idea. Remember Conrad and Michelle? They nailed her just for sending texts "encouraging" Conrad to ctb, even though he was already depressed and attempted ctb long before he met her. The public always wants someone to blame.
 
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Lullaby

Lullaby

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Mar 9, 2022
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I'll tell you another downside. Forget the backing out part. If you both attempt ctb and only one actually is successful, there is a great likelihood that LE will be able to charge the surviving one with some trumped-up charge of, at least, manslaughter or something like that, and prosecutors will pursure it and likely win. I'm speaking from a US perspective. What they will/can do in other countries, I have no idea. Remember Conrad and Michelle? They nailed her just for sending texts "encouraging" Conrad to ctb, even though he was already depressed and attempted ctb long before he met her. The public always wants someone to blame.

I'll never understand treating suicidal people like criminals.
 
Oblivion Access

Oblivion Access

I don't know anything
Jul 5, 2019
333
There's always a chance of someone backing out. Even if someone is really determined to go, SI can be hard to overcome, especially right before you CTB.

In the past, there's also been incidents where people use the partners thread to seek out others to harm; either emotionally or physically. I feel SS is pretty safe, but you always have to keep in mind this is a public forum and sometimes people join just to mess with people who are already emotionally fragile.

There have definitely been successful partnerships on here, but I guess it's trial and error sometimes. Just be safe.
https://news.stv.tv/west-central/man-accused-of-offering-to-help-woman-take-her-own-life - 1 confirmed case of a creep seeking out SS users to harm. Imo assuming this site is safe is incredibly naïve, this site is a GOLDMINE for any nefarious individual because there is a consistent stream of desperate and lonely people with a deathwish.
 
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Lullaby

Lullaby

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Mar 9, 2022
689
https://news.stv.tv/west-central/man-accused-of-offering-to-help-woman-take-her-own-life - 1 confirmed case of a creep seeking out SS users to harm. Imo assuming this site is safe is incredibly naïve, this site is a GOLDMINE for any nefarious individual because there is a consistent stream of desperate and lonely people with a deathwish.
I was here when it happened. If I didn't feel I was safe here, then there's no way I'd be a member. That's why I mentioned you have to keep in mind that not everyone is here for good reasons and you have to be careful who you talk to.
 
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Seeking_Peace

Arcanist
May 18, 2022
476
Hi,

I recently had someone ask to be partners in SN here.

I was wondering:
- What is the 'advantage' of having a partner in this? Does it make it more or less stressful? I can see that it would be less lonely but doesn't it also make another person who can call an ambulance... and you'll both be taking SN and dying so it may not even help w/reliability.

Thanks.
Whoever pulls out or survives is getting prison time. I would meet up with this person beforehand to gauge their true intentions.
 
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locked*n*loaded

Archangel
Apr 15, 2022
9,115
I'll never understand treating suicidal people like criminals.
Well, it won't really be about treating the survivor like a criminal for their suicide attempt, since they decriminalized suicide. It will be for the assisting part in "helping" the successful one, which is still illegal. And I agree with you about treating people with despair and hopelessness like criminals. That is what is criminal IMO.
 
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crystalskies31

Student
May 20, 2022
149
Thanks everyone for your input.
Sounds like better to do alone.
 
Worndown

Worndown

Illuminated
Mar 21, 2019
3,885
I'll never understand treating suicidal people like criminals.
It is easier to criminalize what you cannot understand or do not want to deal with. We do it all the time.
 
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