Parents who kick their kids out really exist?

[Pulling a Sangwoo]

My mom was talking about how her friends kicked their kids out when they were 16 because they were depressed and decided to drop out. She said she should do that with me since I'm taking a gap year to figure things out. What the heck? You shouldn't kick kids out once they hit a certain age. At least wait until they're financially stable or just stable in general. You decided to have kids, and now you're kicking them onto the streets? How does that make sense? Parents like that deserve hell this shit should not be normalised

 

[dust-in-the-wind]

My mom didn't kick me out be charged me rent starting at 18 years old.

 

[Pulling a Sangwoo]

My mom didn't kick me out be charged me rent starting at 18 years old.

Why? I know some parents make their kids pay rent and then they gave back all that money to them once they moved out which seems okay but if she took that for herself then that's fucked

 

[L'absent]

In Italy, parents' obligation to support their children doesn't automatically end when they turn 18 but continues until they become financially independent. This means that even after reaching adulthood, a child has the right to receive support if they are studying, training, or looking for a job, as long as they are serious about it and not taking advantage of the situation. Additionally, they cannot be kicked out of the family home, as they have the right to live there until they can support themselves. However, this obligation doesn't last forever: parents can request to end it if the child is old enough to work but isn't making any effort or is wasting educational or job opportunities. There isn't a specific age when the obligation ends; it depends on the circumstances and the child's situation. If the child has a disability or cannot support themselves due to health issues, the obligation can last a lifetime. In cases of parental separation or divorce, a judge decides who pays what, and even an adult child can receive maintenance if they're still financially dependent. However, the law doesn't tolerate abuse: if a child takes advantage of the situation, parents can ask the court to declare the

 

[OTanerd]

Well, in general, it shouldn't be considered normal, but unfortunately, many circumstances force mothers to make those decisions.
Where I live, poverty is widespread, and it's very common to see cases of absent parents.

 

[dust-in-the-wind]

Why? I know some parents make their kids pay rent and then they gave back all that money to them once they moved out which seems okay but if she took that for herself then that's fucked

She took the money. I am 55 years old now. So this was back in 1987 if that makes any difference.

 

[KillingPain267]

People who bring children into this world should be required to provide for them for the rest of their lives

 

[Pulling a Sangwoo]

Well, in general, it shouldn't be considered normal, but unfortunately, many circumstances force mothers to make those decisions.
Where I live, poverty is widespread, and it's very common to see cases of absent parents.

I'm talking about parents who are more than capable of supporting their kids especially if they have a house. Bringing a kid into poverty should be counted as abuse from the start tbh if ur poor don't have kids period.

 

[Namelesa]

I wish my parents kicked me out so I could more easily kill myself but I am trapped home.

 

[Pulling a Sangwoo]

She took the money. I am 55 years old now. So this was back in 1987 if that makes any difference.

Back then it was seen as okay to abuse ur kids right? But it still doesn't make it right. Is that you in ur pfp? u don't look a day over 30

I wish my parents kicked me out so I could more easily kill myself but I am trapped home.

Are u not allowed to move out?

 

[CogitoMori]

40% of the youth homeless population in the US are LGBT+ children that were kicked out by their parents

 

[idelttoilfsadness21]

I wish my parents kicked me out so I could more easily kill myself but I am trapped home.

I am with you too… except it gets more harder out there as I had my money stolen and items and had to be in a motel room trying to get away to having to live back with them… being a woman is hard out here

 

[Namelesa]

Are u not allowed to move out?

I am literally trapped in this house cus I don't have access to any keys and if I try to runaway somewhere then they will call the police on me. I just want to die.

 

[Jealous Blackheart]

Personally, I've known multiple people who were kicked out as soon as they became adults.

If I had kids I could never.

The only reason I would ever have kids is to pass on whatever good I came across in this life but I have nothing to give so I'm not having kids.

I won't pretend to understand people who have kids as accessories they can discard later or because they want someone to take care of them once they're old.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

This just connects to the wider societal issues in regard to how people view and treat children, teens, and young adults. If you decide to have children then you should be required to provide for them until they are at a point where they can provide for themselves. Shit like this is why I generally have a bias against parents. Most of them don't view their children as human beings, have entitlement issues, and generally have this sort of complex. It's vile. How can you be selfish enough to bring someone into this world and then threaten to kick them? Especially when it's over shit as dumb as them taking a gap year or being queer.

 

[Pulling a Sangwoo]

Personally, I've known multiple people who were kicked out as soon as they became adults.

If I had kids I could never.

The only reason I would ever have kids is to pass on whatever good I came across in this life but I have nothing to give so I'm not having kids.

I won't pretend to understand people who have kids as accessories they can discard later or because they want someone to take care of them once they're old.

my parents only wanted me so I could take care of them when they're older and my dad even admitted this lmao I feel like I'm trapped I hate my culture and religion

This just connects to the wider societal issues in regard to how people view and treat children, teens, and young adults. If you decide to have children then you should be required to provide for them until they are at a point where they can provide for themselves. Shit like this is why I generally have a bias against parents. Most of them don't view their children as human beings, have entitlement issues, and generally have this sort of complex. It's vile. How can you be selfish enough to bring someone into this world and then threaten to kick them? Especially when it's over shit as dumb as them taking a gap year or being queer.

Thisss yeah they act like they own you. I envy some people with good parents

 

[Gangrel]

if i was kicked out i would legit jump out of a bridge so fucking easily lol

 

[Forever Sleep]

I agree that it shouldn't happen. I certainly know friends who's parents put a lot of pressure on them to leave and at least threatened kicking them out. It has actually happened for real to at least one member here- as far as I'm aware.

As for why. I think it probably depends on the parents. Some likely don't give a shit and want shot of their kids asap.

Some may genuinely struggle to afford it. Whether that's their fault is debatable I suppose. Personally, I hold antinatilist views. I don't think it's fair to bring children here and basically just enlist them into wage slavery the rest of their lives.

That said, it seems like the majority of people do seem to accept it. More than likely, your parents accepted their 'responsibilities' too. Do you know what age they started to work? So reasonably or not, I think they often have the same expectations of us. They don't even see it as an unreasonable thing to ask of someone. I suppose they grew up in a culture where you were expected to pay your way in life as soon as you can. Again, not saying I agree with it. Just trying to understand why they have these views.

Also, some of it may be to do with a genuine desire to see us happy and fulfilled. Not meaning to be cruel but, how many NEETS here feel really good about their situation? Some definitely do and, that's fine. Some don't at all though.

There are many who are now feeling even more stuck because they feel like they missed their opportunity to progress in life or, that they now have a strong sense of missed potential. Not saying a person should feel this but again, I suppose our current culture tends to push that one on us.

Also, there's the issue of aging and mortality. All our parents will get to a stage where they can't work and eventually of course, they'll die. If we're not self supportive by then- I imagine they will be very worried for us. So- they may see it as being cruel to be kind forcing us onto the employment ladder early on.

Obviously, a gap year isn't the same as 5,10, 20 years but, maybe your parents are frightened it will turn into that. They may also genuinely be concerned as to how they will fund that. Presumably if they can't, you all suffer. Again- still not reasonable they would kick out their child- now adult because of it but, maybe understandable that they're frightened for all of you. If they aren't able to bring in anymore money, the logical next thing I guess is to pressure their child to.

Also, in terms of when you do go for jobs, sometimes they will query gaps- as far as I've been told. So in general, I get the sense it is wise to at least have a solid sounding plan for them- to gain work experience, to travel etc. Not sure whether it's actually true that employers don't like to see gaps on a CV but, that was always impressed upon me.

I think there are multiple reasons parents don't like it. Maybe some of it is plain old jealousy. Did their parents fund them for a gap year? Most likely not I imagine. But, I agree, to actually throw a close relative out seems so callous.

 

[untothedepths]

to those who are malicious like that, and ive seen them: no better way to say 'fuck you' than to become successful, rub it in her face, and never help her with anything she needs. cut contact too.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

Yeah, they really exist unfortunately. This is the the type of world that we live in sadly

 

[dust-in-the-wind]

Back then it was seen as okay to abuse ur kids right? But it still doesn't make it right. Is that you in ur pfp? u don't look a day over 30

Are u not allowed to move out?

Yes that is me. I usually can pass for 40 but 30 is even better . Yes it was ok to hit your children back then. I got smacked and hit with a belt often. I did end up moving out at 19 years old and never went back.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Yes it was ok to hit your children back then.

Hitting children is still normalized today. I should know since my mom used to hit me when I was younger and would even sometimes bring out the belt (never did it to the point of causing any bruises or anything). My classmates regularly talked about their parents hitting them, my brother had corporal punishment used on him, and I even had to witness my friend crying and revealing to me that prays to God sometimes, asking him to convince her mother not to hit her.

It's funny because hitting an adult would be considered assault. It doesn't matter if it leaves marks or not nor the reason behind it (with the exception of self-defence, of course). Meanwhile, in many countries, parents and sometimes even educators can still hit children so long as it is for "disciplinary reasons" and so long as they don't leave any marks, this being despite the decades worth of research showing that corporal punishment is not a good disciplinary method and can lead to children developing long-term psychological issues.

People love to scream about protecting the kids, but deep down inside, nobody gives a shit about them. Children are one of the most dehumanized demographics out there and too few people are willing to admit that. Hell, I've even gotten into an argument with a user on here who was trying to defend the idea that it's fine for parents to hit children for disciplinary reasons.